What is your #1 downside of getting older Other than pain/ill health?

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For me it's the sameness of things like I've seen it all before and there is nothing new under the sun anymore. I have to keep trying new ways to keep myself stimulated and this does work, but what happens when I'm even older and bored with those as well?? I don't think I'm fit enough to climb Mt. Everest but maybe I should consider it?? :ROFLMAO:

What about you?
 

Regret for me too.

I wish I had valued myself more when my life was still ahead of me and then pursued a meaningful career that could have defined me and maybe made the world a bit better. And there were too many people who might have been some kind of worthy relationship but whom I thought were too good for me
The upside? Boredom isn't an issue.....there's a lot of things that I haven't done but am still able to do.
The Buddhists say, 'Start from where you are.' It's good counsel.
 
I was getting into a rut. Thinking like Chic.

But then an ex lover contacted me and said she was thinking about me. That took me back to my 50s and the times we spent going places together. I realized that I was trying harder back then to get around.

My ex lover is my ex lover because she married someone else. That put me out of her life and I was once again lonely and unhappy.

But I realized that I choose my own happiness. So why not choose to be happy once again. Get out of the house. Go shopping, eat at restaurants.

Being out and in touch with people is what makes you feel alive. With people comes hope. Hope that something unexpected can happen.
 
VaughanJB said:
Regret.

It's having time to look at years past, and know when you made mistakes, hurt people, and could and should have done better. It's the wasted opportunities, the knowing things could have been different (better).
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For me it seems as those things are constantly in my mind, memories all the way back to grade school! The worst of it is the people I no longer have in my life because of my behavior.
 
For me the #1 downside of getting old is when I start thinking I am old. I am in my early seventies so that can't be old can it? I live in an apartment building with many people older than me. With people who have worse health conditions than me. I am close friends with one lady who has had serious back issues since she was a child. Her doctor recently told her that after seeing her x-rays, he can't believe she is not in a wheelchair. Yet she will walk with her walker five blocks or more to her hair appointments or the dollar store. Sometimes she takes her scooter or her car but most times she walks. She inspires me.
 
chic said:
For me it's the sameness of things like I've seen it all before and there is nothing new under the sun anymore. I have to keep trying new ways to keep myself stimulated and this does work, but what happens when I'm even older and bored with those as well?? I don't think I'm fit enough to climb Mt. Everest but maybe I should consider it?? :ROFLMAO:

What about you?
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Chic, believe me you haven't seen or done it all... what about living in another country for a while, like I did?.. and learning the new country language ?.. or how about coming to the Uk, and travelling around all the beautiful places that take your fancy... or Spain, or Italy... or how about volunteering somewhere that could use your talents... or ...learning a new musical instrument..or a new anything at all...:love:
 
Good question, Chic..

Well I have pain, but that's nothing new..I'm not disabled by it, which is a blessing..that may come later but so far , I'm relatively fit.. and far fitter than a lot of people I know my age...


I'm just recovering as most of you know from the breakdown of my marriage after 23 years.. and it's been extremely difficult.. and in the 2 years I've been on my own..I've just done nothing with my life.. which isn't me at all..

I need to start picking myself up , and dusting myself down, and start all over again... but not quite yet, I'm not ready ,.... quite yet
 
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i am also getting bored with the sameness of things. book plots, movie plots, tv plots. i mean surely someone out there has a creative mind with a different idea about things to keep it interesting. the music industry is always changing.

tired of the same ol foods all the time. i want to try lobster but am unsure of the quality i will get and what to order for sure. plus the price alone is enough to put me off.

my biggest downside is not having the strength and stamina to play hard like when i was younger. now instead of go hard or go home it's go gently and go take a nap. :ROFLMAO:
 
hollydolly said:
Good question, Chic..

Well I have pain, but that's nothing new..I'm not disabled by it, which is a blessing..that may come later but so far , I'm relatively fit.. and far fitter than a lot of people I know my age...


I'm just recovering as most of you know from the breakdown of my marriage after 23 years.. an it's been extremely difficult.. and in the 2 years I've been on my own..I've just done nothing with my life.. which isn't me at all..

I need to start picking myself up , and dusting myself down, and start all over again... but not quite yet, I'm not ready , quite yet
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it's ok to not be ready. take your time and let yourself work through it.
 
MarciKS said:
i am also getting bored with the sameness of things. book plots, movie plots, tv plots. i mean surely someone out there has a creative mind with a different idea about things to keep it interesting. the music industry is always changing.

tired of the same ol foods all the time. i want to try lobster but am unsure of the quality i will get and what to order for sure. plus the price alone is enough to put me off.

my biggest downside is not having the strength and stamina to play hard like when i was younger. now instead of go hard or go home it's go gently and go take a nap. :ROFLMAO:
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Marci..I've had lobster a few times, none less than in the top rated Ivy restaurant in London, which is a celebrity hangout... I am here to tell you, don't waste your money.. really it's absolutely nothing special...

I could have it if I wanted to, it;s nothing more than OK.. and I wouldn't spend money on it..
 
My daughter gets frustrated with me, I suppose because she desn't know this person who isn't getting up and going off and doing things as I would have in the past...

She doesn;t take into consideration that not only is my heart not ready but my body is older.. and things are different now on my own...

yesterday she rang on her way out to dinner.. and she said tell me something good or exciting that's happened to you this week... there is nothing I said..and not in a maudlin' way, but I'm here on my own, what exciting things can happen ?... ... .. and she sighs .. as tho' I'm doing it on purpose.. :(
 
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hollydolly said:
Marci..I've had lobster a few times, none less than in the top rated Ivy restaurant in London, which is a celebrity hangout... I am here to tell you, don't waste your money.. really it's absolutely nothing special...

I could have it if I wanted to, it;s nothing more than OK.. and I wouldn't spend money on it..
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that's a shame cuz it looks so divine in the tv ads!
 
hollydolly said:
My daughter gets frustrated with me, I suppose because she desn't know this person who isn't getting up and going off and doing things as I would have in the past...

She doesn;t take into consideration that not only is my heart not ready but my body is older.. and things are different now on my own...

yesterday she rang on her way out to dinner.. and she said tell me something good or exciting that's happened to you this week... there is nothing I said..and not in a maudlin' way, but I'm here on my own, what exciting things can happen ?... ... .. and she sighs .. as tho' I'm doing it on purpose.. :(
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a plumbing issue can be exciting. and adventurous depending on what happens! 😁
 
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