What is your biggest regret in life?

dseag2

dseag2

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I will start. I wish I had the self-esteem to truly enjoy my younger years. My Southern Baptist upbringing taught me to hate myself for being gay. It has taken me years to resolve these issues and become comfortable with myself.

Any other stories about regrets?
 

Oh I couldn't possibly say what my biggest regret was.. but I have many... None more so than going out on the evening my mum took an overdose and died.

I had no idea she was going to do it of course otherwise I would have glued myself to the house, but it's still a terrible regret that maybe, just maybe, if I had stayed home that night, she would have got over the idea of taking her own life.. ...
 
hollydolly said:
Oh I couldn't possibly say what my biggest regret was.. but I have many... None more so than going out on the evening my mum took an overdose and died.

I had no idea she was going to do it of course otherwise I would have glued myself to the house, but it's still a terrible regret that may, just maybe, if I had stayed home that night, she would have got over the idea of taking her own life.. ...
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Does it help that so many of us on SF recognize you for the wonderful person you are and accept you unconditionally? ❤️
 

Ruthanne said:
I regret being born into this crazy world 🌍. I guess I just had to be born. A lot of trauma, frustrations, too hard of times, grief, depression, and made to feel I just can't live up to expectations.
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Ruthanne, I understand you.. I was born dead.. , at 12 weeks premature as a twin, and my twin brother didn't survive, and the Doctors battled to revive me way back in the mid 50's when it really wasn't something they routinely did.

However so many bad things have happened in my life, I've often thought the reason was because I was never supposed to be in this world in the first place.. ..and who knows that may be true... but neither you or I, can regret being born because it's not something we were responsible for, it was the decision of someone else..

Do remember that despite all the pain and sorrow you've endured, that by being alive you've changed the lives of the many people you've encountered throughout life..without knowing you or meeting you , their lives would have been different in some way.. 💛
 
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hollydolly said:
Ruthanne, I understand you.. I was born dead.. , at 12 weeks week premature as a twin, and my twin brother didn't survive, and the Doctors battled to revive me way back in the mid 50's when it really wasn't something they routinely did.

However so many bad things have happened in my life, I've often thought the reason was because I was never supposed to be in this world in the first place.. ..and who knows that may be true... but neither you or I, can regret being born because it's not something we were responsible for, it was the decision of someone else..

Do remember that despite all the pain and sorrow you've endured, that by being alive you've changed the lives of the many people you've encountered throughout life..without knowing you or meeting you , there lives would have been different in some way.. 💛
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Thank you. That is inspiring 🙂.💗
 
Capt Lightning said:
I regret NOT having adequately hurt the people who hurt me. There are people I would happily crush into oblivion.
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I completely understand that. I feel so many people have got away with the hurt they inflicted upon me without any retaliation from me.. and believe me I'm no wallflower, but my problem is that I don't have it in me to hurt people in the same way that other seem to find it easy to do that to me..
 
hollydolly said:
None more so than going out on the evening my mum took an overdose and died.

I had no idea she was going to do it of course otherwise I would have glued myself to the house, but it's still a terrible regret that maybe, just maybe, if I had stayed home that night, she would have got over the idea of taking her own life.. ...
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Holly, I am sure you know that you likely could not have prevented this, but I understand your feelings. My brother committed suicide, its hard not to feel guilt, no matter the circumstances...

I will second what @dseag2 and others have said, you are a valued member of our group. Maybe one of the few liked by most all of us!
 
Alligatorob said:
Holly, I am sure you know that you likely could not have prevented this, but I understand your feelings. My brother committed suicide, its hard not to feel guilt, no matter the circumstances...

I will second what @dseag2 and others have said, you are a valued member of our group. Maybe one of the few liked by most all of us!
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thank you so much, how very kind of you.. 🥰 .. and I'm so sorry you've had to suffer the horror and tragedy of a suicide in your own family.. :(
 
Regrets??....I really don't have any. I was lucky enough to find a wonderful wife almost 60 years ago, and we've got a nice family. I had a good working career, and we can live a comfortable retirement, as a result. I've made my share of "mistakes", but so far they have been manageable and not upset our lives.

On balance, I'm quite happy with how things have worked out....I just hope something like declining health doesn't cause future problems.
 
mellowyellow said:
I hate confrontation and will avoid it like the plague, so would like to be less “wimpy” and really blow my stack at someone.
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I can’t say I LIKE confrontation BUT if pushed too far I might blow! Go for it and blow your stack if it’s deserving ! Or at least speak ur mind.
 

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