What kind of final resting place, if any, do you want?

My first husband was buried. His funeral was barbaric, as I was so devastated that I bowed to the wishes of family. Two-day viewing, priest saying rosary, high mass, priest at the gravesite, and on and on. I hated every minute of it, and I knew he would have too. I chose not to ride in the limo and drove my own car instead. I left in the middle of the cemetery drawn out service. There was a whole restaurant meal for the funeral attendees. I went to the mall instead.

Second husband had a 2-hour viewing, cremation, and his ashes started out in the living room, then the bedroom, then the closet shelf where he remains today. I would like a direct cremation, no service, no fuss, my son can mix my ashes with my husband's and the several cats and 2 dogs ashes and dispose of them however he wants.
 

When my dad died 30+ years ago we had to hurry and buy a plot and made it a family sized one that we purchased so my final place is already chosen and I can go and tend it. put flowers on it and see my name on the stone whenever I like because I live nearby and so do the family members who will be buried there. No one wants a large service though. We had a very large one for my dad and grandparents too. It's nice because it keeps you occupied during a difficult transition but it's also hard if you're tired and not in the mood. IDK. :unsure:
 
My will asks that my ashes be laid on the ground in very remote, but clearly specified ridge between two of my favorite high lakes in the Montana Wilderness Area where I spent so many days and weekends of my life. But as I get older than I thought I ever would be, I'm realizing that my old hiking buddies will probably be dead or infirm by then. I'm a member of the Montana Wilderness Association, and they will get a large part of my estate, and there are members of that association in the town where I lived up until 15 years ago. It's possible, but kind of doubtful, that any of them will know who I was, but perhaps someone will volunteer for the task. It's a long but beautiful hike, so it's not like it would be a waste of anyone's time, or God forbid, a burden. I dunno. It' might be a dicey request. Maybe I should rethink it.
 
I have a completed Advanced care directive that covers all my wishes if I’m unable to make decisions for myself.
My GP has a copy …..a copy stored in a cupboard closest the fridge (Been told by my GP that’s where paramedics would look if they were called to my home)

I also carry a card in my purse where my ACD can be found in the case of sudden illness / death


https://www.advancecareplanning.org.au/create-your-plan/create-your-plan-vic
 
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I'd like my ashes to be mixed into some varnish and spread over a nice, thick, solid oak dining table.

Or they can just put my ashes in the garbage. What do I care? I'll be dead. :ROFLMAO:
 
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My will specifies that I be cremated. This is fine with the family, but the obvious and immediately asked question is, "What should be done with the ashes?"

Since I will (hopefully) be dead both before and after cremation, I couldn't care less about where my ashes go. My standard answer is, "Nearest dumpster." Naturally, this upsets some people, particularly those who have a shelf full of little earns containing the ashes of every cat and dog they ever owned. But the executor just said, "Well, that's easy."
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My mother wanted her ashes to be scattered. Instead, she is on my sister's mantel along with a lot of urns with animal ashes in them.

Me, I want to be cremated or better yet, have a green burial. After that I don't care because I won't be here.
 
I want to be cremated and my ashes sent down my septic system. II can't tell you the grief I went with the permits for that septic system. Two days before closing on my lot, the drainage tests expired, and without a current test, no closing. AHHH! That was just ONE of the legal problems with the damn septic system.
 
I read an article decades ago titled, "The Memory of Water". I've looked for it recently, but couldn't find it. It was about how all the water in the world is connected over time. If you had your ashes scattered in a body of water, some small amount would be found in bodies of water all over the world. So, if your family and friends wanted to visit with you, they could go to any body of water and visit.

I did find another article that also explained this.

"Explainer: Earth’s water is all connected in one vast cycle" https://www.snexplores.org/article/explainer-earths-water-cycle

I've given my family instructions to scatter my ashes in a nice body of water, of their choosing. Then, they can visit me at any lake, or river, or stream, or ocean.
 
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I will be sharing one with my deceased husband. Name is already carved, just waiting for the year. Will be buried in a casket and concrete, six feet down.
 
I have no family. My wish is to be cremated and the ashes will be placed in a columbarium in Arlington National Cemetery. I have made arrangements for my flag to be sent to the VFW Post that I am a member of and put on exhibition, along with a brass tag with my name printed on it and placed on the glass box, along with a check in the amount of $xxxxxx sent to my high school and to be used for a scholarship at the school's discretion and without my name as a sponsor that will be presented to a student that will be attending Ohio State University. I decided to do this because my best friend throughout high school kept saying he was going to go to Ohio State. He wanted to be a Buckeye. Unfortunately, he was riding his motorcycle, but not at a high rate of speed, however, the cops said he was going pretty fast when a deer walked in front of him and he panicked and tried to avoid the deer and rolled his bike breaking his neck. He was an excellent student. This happened in late November of our senior year.
 
I plan to be cremated. I do not like the idea of being buried...but I wonder why would I have any preferences about where my body will be after I go. I fully accept I am not my body but I am the spirit that temporarily used my body so why in the world do any of us still care about what happens to our ashes or bodies... :unsure:
 
I am curious why does society assume the afterlife is about resting? You've got the Happy Hunting Grounds, Heaven and its many Mansions, Laid to rest, they are at peace now, in a better place, great beyond, in god's hands, the waiting place, god's my etc, sainthood, the everlasting, end of life, spirit, hereafter.
The afterlife represents peace, harmony and contentment. A place of reward provided you didn't screw up on earth.
 
I'm surprised at the number of people, who want to be cremated. When I was a little kid, I thought if we kept burying our dead, we'd run out of room. The planet would be one huge cemetery. I used to worry about that.
 
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