What life did you envision for yourself? Did it happen?

Ronni

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My life bears absolutely no resemblance to what I envisioned for it when I was younger and looking to the future. It took some painful and difficult twists and turns that I wasn't prepared for, that I hated, that I became depressed and suicidal as a result of.

Still, I'm a fighter and a survivor and so I prevailed....not without a lot of bumps in the road and wrong turns, but still I prevailed. The story I'm living now, this one that is entirely different than the future I wrote for myself when I was younger, is a good one, a loving and vibrant, joyful and authentic one, and I wouldn't trade this magic life for anything. šŸ˜
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No it didn't. I'd wanted to be a rock singer and worked hard at this for 4 years after high school. But when the lead singer of my band, also a very close friend committed suicide, I decided to go to college instead and educate myself. And that's what I did.
 
Thinking back to my youth, and what I envisioned [then] as my future.....yes it turned out pretty much like I saw it. Maybe even a tad better actually. Socially, financially , occupationally , etc. I have no complaints....very happy actually. One failed marriage, no regrets , everything else great, till my health started to slip...heart disease , being handled pretty well, then arthritis....that one not so well.
 
I would say my life went pretty much as planned. I didn't think I would be feeling as lonely as I do now since most of my immediate family has passed on. We were extremely close. I just have to remind myself how lucky I am to have two great kids who never gave me any trouble and the grand kids are icing on the cake. The hubby can be trying at times but is a good man. He would probably say the same about me.
 
I never really had any vision of what my future would be like. I figured with a neurological disorder my future was already written for me.

Things are ok. They could always be better but...I'm ok with where I am in life & how things are going. It could always be so much worse. Just once in a while I wish there could be breaks in life where I could actually be happy. Not just ok.
 
I've always felt that I should have achieved more, but a lot of the time, I never did more than I had to. I don't really believe in being lucky, but rather in making good choices in any particular circumstance. In that, I've done pretty well so far - married 47 years to a wonderful girl, great family, modest house, retired early and living comfortably.

I know I'm better off than a lot of people, but I still feel that I could have done better if I wasn't such a lazy old so and so.
 
I've always felt that I should have achieved more, but a lot of the time, I never did more than I had to. I don't really believe in being lucky, but rather in making good choices in any particular circumstance. In that, I've done pretty well so far - married 47 years to a wonderful girl, great family, modest house, retired early and living comfortably.

I know I'm better off than a lot of people, but I still feel that I could have done better if I wasn't such a lazy old so and so.

It sounds to me like you did extremely well with the things that matter most in life: "married 47 years to a wonderful girl, great family, modest house, retired early and living comfortably."

The rest of it is just window-dressing.
 
Never thought I'd become a teacher, but after years of low level office jobs, I got my teaching certificate. Started out teaching high school and hated it. Moved down to elementary and enjoyed that a lot more. Thought I'd have two kids, but I only have one. But all in all, it's been pretty good.
 

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