What matters in life?

IrishEyes said:
Looking back on my life I can see where all things led me to be stronger and get through what I needed to be strong for.
At the onset of some things of course I may have been scared, mad, felt I didn't deserve it but I can see why I needed what
I gained from surviving it to get to where I am. Frankly, I am glad it happened when I was younger and too stubborn to let it keep me down.
I truly feel badly for the younger ones today who have the road all paved for them. How will they cope when that safety net is no longer
around to save them?
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I'm not sure anyone can rely on having the road paved for them in this chaotic world.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
I made more than my share of bad choices in my early years and some of the consequences were irreversible.
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Hey, you’re still alive. That means you have done some things right. Don’t sweat the small stuff and only concern yourself with the things you can control. Each day is a Blessing.

Like the adage goes, “Live each day to the fullest.” Or, “Live each day like it’s your last day.”
 
I think one of the problems with getting older is, there's less novelty in our lives. We see the same people, do the same things, listen to the same music and even watch the same movies that we listened to and watched when we were younger.

I don't have much interest in the music that's being produced today. There are some good movies produced these days, but most of them set in the '70s! We're living in a dark age for the arts.
 
bobcat said:
Make the best of the hand you're dealt, be kind to others, and don't sweat the small stuff.
The old adage still applies: .... accept things you can't change, have courage to change the things you can, and wisdom to know the difference.
I also like the message of the philosophy professor illustrating the important things in life using the glass jar and filling it with rocks, pebbles, sand, and water.
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"and wisdom to know the difference" That is the tough part for me. I always think I should be doing more to help right the wrongs.

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." The auther of this quote is in dispute.
 
911 said:
Hey, you’re still alive. That means you have done some things right. Don’t sweat the small stuff and only concern yourself with the things you can control. Each day is a Blessing.

Like the adage goes, “Live each day to the fullest.” Or, “Live each day like it’s your last day.”
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You meant that as encouragement, so I will consider it so, and thank you for that.

But my post from six months ago was about some things that I could have / should have controlled, and it was not small stuff. I have moved on, but people were hurt and there are scars. I don't dismiss either the good or the bad from my past because we learn from both, and we all have a level of accountability.
 
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Maslov's pyramid showing his Hierarchy of Needs reflects what matters depending on the level one is dealing with. Many adults due to their life circumstances, attitudes, and personality, remain stuck in the 4 lower levels. Once one attains the Self Actualisation level 5, much greater possibilities open up. I've been at level 5 most of my adult life but have since age 20 dealt with level 3 limitations due to a severe medical reality.
 
I think the goal is for the next generation to do well...if not better than the previous one. This way, over time...the family network will thrive.

In other words, try not to harp on getting older. Admire and enjoy your next generation of kin as they steam along! :)
 
CaliS said:
What matters in life (to me) is connecting with other living things (including animals), my family, nature, and trying to be a good person.

Being thankful for my blessings, and trying to enjoy each day as much as I can - because we never know when our time will come, to move on from this earth.
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I feel the same way! I do feel very connected to my family which does include our dogs. They seem to bond with me just as much as I bond with them. I find dogs are easy to bond with. They are so lovable. Then again, most animals are.
 
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My wife had a very close friend who told her that when they get old and simple and forget things then they can be new friends again.
Unfortunately her life long friend didn’t take care of her diabetes and died at only 50 years old.
 
IrishEyes said:
I agree with that and some don't realize their safety net will one day no longer be here and they have not learned to
fend for themself. It will be a very rude awakening and a boom for therapists as they melt down crying "why Me?"
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They'll just have to hope that there are therapists around to help them when it all goes South. What if there aren't?

It's funny how people in the past were able to overcome seemingly impossible situations and make a life for themselves. For instance, the old pioneers in the move to the West across America. They almost all started out with nothing, and by the time they stopped moving they still had most of it left, yet they built themselves homes, filled them with children, and generally made lives for themselves.

I suspect that if society imploded around them, most of today's youngsters would have a meltdown for the first week or so, but then those with the will to live would start to pick themselves up and find ways to mitigate the shortcomings of the situation they found themselves in, and move on to create a better life for themselves and their partners.
 
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