What other people think of you is none of your business

This woman I used to work with was all bent out of shape because she heard two other employees criticizing her. She was eavesdropping on them, and they weren't aware that she could hear. I reminded her that many times she had spoken harshly about others, and if they heard what she said, they would feel badly too. Everybody wants to be liked I think, but it's realistic to know that not everyone will be fond of you or your opinions. If it's someone close to me, I'd care more about what they thought.
 

QuickSilver said:
I believe we all would like people to think well of us.. but let's face it.. That's not always the case, and many times we have no control over how others perceive us. I still don't see how it doesn't become our business if someone is being malicious or causing an impact on us in some way.. socially or financially..
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I think it most assuredly DOES become our business when, as you say, it has a negative impact on us.
 
I've enjoyed reading everybody's point of view on this.
And the good thing is, I think, everybody does have their own point of view, and are able to share it.
I used to worry way too much what people thought of me.
But after some real life stuff happened, I now think that if it somebody doesn't like me, and have met me, then it's so long it's been good to know ya!
After all, they've based their opinion of me while I'm being me.
And well, I ain't changing me for nobody.
So, no. I don't worry about what people think of me.
 

Butterfly said:
I think it most assuredly DOES become our business when, as you say, it has a negative impact on us.
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Exactly! Who cares, let people talk, like when I was a teen and heard those girls say my name out loud, I didn't care, didn't make a big deal out of it, just thought it was funny really and I never said another word, after asking them to tone it down so I didn't hear the rather loud chatter every time I past the room. kids being kids, talk all they want as long as the talking wasn't something that was going to affect some important facet of my life. We all talk and and say things in which out of earshot, some other person might not take kindly to, that's besides the point, again, how you let that or anyone's other chatter affect you is the point.
 
AprilT said:
Exactly! Who cares, let people talk, like when I was a teen and heard those girls say my name out loud, I didn't care, didn't make a big deal out of it, just thought it was funny really and I never said another word, after asking them to tone it down so I didn't hear the rather loud chatter every time I past the room. kids being kids, talk all they want as long as the talking wasn't something that was going to affect some important facet of my life. We all talk and and say things in which out of earshot, some other person might not take kindly to, that's besides the point, again, how you let that or anyone's other chatter affect you is the point.
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I agree, I really really and I mean really have to work on that. Even at my age, I let too many things get to me. I'm wondering if I'll ever be able to change that.
 
Josiah said:
I'm not sure I agree with my fellow Ohioan. I strive to have people think well of me and so how well I succeed is of some importance to me.
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I agree with Josiah. Of course it matters. It matters to most people. It makes a person feel better about themselves to be well thought of and respected. Respect is very important to me.
 
Can't recall the exact quote, but I like this one.

When you're 20 you worry about what people think of you. When you're 40 you don't care what people think of you. When you're 60 you realize they were thinking about you at all.
 
At some age you realize that not everyone is going to love you no matter how much you do to make them...
 
Ameriscot said:
Can't recall the exact quote, but I like this one.

When you're 20 you worry about what people think of you. When you're 40 you don't care what people think of you. When you're 60 you realize they were thinking about you at all.
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Exactly, "You wouldn't worry what people thought about you if you know how little they did." Most people are too wrapped up in their own lives and concerns.
 
In the final analysis, I think the person's opinion of me that resonates the most with me is my own. I am a connector by nature, and love people, but relationships can be fluid. Ultimately, the only constant is my relationship with myself. If that is dysfunctional, it negatively affects my life and my capacity to effectively relate to others.
 
I have tried to please people all my life and like most of you, want folks to like me in return. But like Popeye says: " I yam what I yam".. and I'm too darn old to worry about it, like my friend from Mad magazine.
 

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I am a trauma counselor, majority of my clients are vets suffering from PTSD, but I support others who deal with traumatic effects. Supposed to be retired, but somehow, doesn't seem to happen.
 
Only after two stiff Shots of the Glenfiddich, Annie. I find it so,trying dealing with personality disorders.....lol. Screw the analysis, Ralphy can analyse himself by looking in the mirror. You and I can analyse the Glenfiddich!
 
I am ready, but maybe on a full stomach of goodies that she could provide...
 

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