What would you change if you could “reset” your teenage experience?

CallMeKate said:
any change back then would have altered everything that came after, and I've had a good life.
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Yes, I agree that that's true. Doesn't mean I can't exercise my imagination and entertain certain wistful reflections. So what will I say?...

I had one brother and no sisters. As a consequence, I guess I had less rapport with girls in my early and mid teens than did guys who had sisters. And I think that was an impediment in my first experiences with girls at dances and parties. Maybe if I'd paid a little more attention to girls and what they liked to spend their time doing, and eavesdropped more on their conversations (learning what they liked to talk about), I might have been less awkward by the time I was 15 or 16. I'd have avoided some blunders. !!:oops:
 

The Doddering Biker said:
Whether one started smoking at a young age usually depends on if they hung with other smokers. As for drinking, drinking too often becomes uncontrollable. Even when one does not qualify as an actual alcoholic, it is still damaging on so many levels.

Have you noticed in Hollywood movies how the characters in a movie drink morning, noon and night? It's seems as a available and non-threatening as Pepsi or Coke.

I don't think anyone should even start drinking liquor at any age. Too often it becomes a restful respite in an effort to even out the bad days - which in most lives can be very frequent. I won't get into the heath end of the subject.
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It drives me nuts that just about every adult character in a sitcom goes for a glass of some alcohol beverage the moment they get home from work, or from wherever. Relaxing with a glass of fruit juice, or milk, or a cup of coffee won't help??
 
Elsie said:
It drives me nuts that just about every adult character in a sitcom goes for a glass of some alcohol beverage the moment they get home from work, or from wherever. Relaxing with a glass of fruit juice, or milk, or a cup of coffee won't help??
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A hit on the pot pipe or joint?
 
hollydolly said:
At 18 I wouldn't have gone to stay with my friend overnight and left my mother on the night she took her own life...

I know she would have tried another time, but I might still have had her for another year or more... before she got the chance to do it again
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hugs
 
dilettante said:
I can think of a number of things that might have made a positive impact if I had gone through with them. But I'd worry that anything changing my history would erase some of the best things in my life.
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Me too. If I had followed the "plan" that was set for me, I can't imagine how I would have met & connected with my husband, but who knows? I'm leading up to having my son, this very particular human being with whom I feel so blessed....... ❤️

Once said that to my mother. She said, "oh, then you'd love little marvin or hedda just as much." NO, No I would not have...........I'm taking into account the return on my investment. Broke the bank.
 
There were times when I wish I had been smarter inasmuch as perhaps a bit more streetwise but, I guess it's something we all have to learn. If I could have told my teenage self one thing though, I think it would have been that, in the end, everything would be just fine.
 
hollydolly said:
At 18 I wouldn't have gone to stay with my friend overnight and left my mother on the night she took her own life...

I know she would have tried another time, but I might still have had her for another year or more... before she got the chance to do it again
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Oh hollydolly, how so very painful. No fault of yours, she would have found an opportunity to take her own life since you could not have been in her presence every moment. I'm sure you know this. Whatever her reason for doing so, it was out of your control. I hope you've been able to forgive her. (And yourself if you carry any guillt.) ❤️ 🙏
 
Elsie said:
It drives me nuts that just about every adult character in a sitcom goes for a glass of some alcohol beverage the moment they get home from work, or from wherever. Relaxing with a glass of fruit juice, or milk, or a cup of coffee won't help?
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Different folks - different strokes. You do not have to drink but you cannot mandate what others do.
 
Elsie said:
It drives me nuts that just about every adult character in a sitcom goes for a glass of some alcohol beverage the moment they get home from work, or from wherever. Relaxing with a glass of fruit juice, or milk, or a cup of coffee won't help??
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I absolutely agree.. It's one of my bugbears... not, shall we put the kettle on ?.. nope, immediate reach for alcohol regardless of what time of day it is...
 
CallMeKate said:
I wouldn't change anything when it comes to relationships, career choices, etc. because any change back then would have altered everything that came after, and I've had a good life. What I *would* do differently, though, is listen to the stories and wisdom of my parents and grandparents better... would have given them all so much more time and attention.
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Bingo. I'm a firm believer in "things turn out the way they're supposed to."
 
I would have re-set to going to an all girls high school with all of my friends from elementary school.

I hated high school, I was bullied by not only students but by my teachers. I was supposed to have gone to Holy Names high school in Montreal, which was all girls. We moved to St. Leonard, Quebec and I was in a school where I knew no one. And the students were way older than me , not in years, but in maturity. Also I did not know French but everyone else did. So my French classes were very humiliating for me with one of my teachers, saying with great sarcasm, before I even opened my mouth, " and here is the star of the class..."
 
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