When betrayed after a long relation, who do you talk to?

Johanna said:
I just try to move on, but it is difficult. I think of it a lot and have noone to talk to. It is hard to get it off my mind
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It is not easy to move on from such a thing. May I suggest you make a copy of the pictures and keep in a safe place in case you want to use them for evidence one day. Have you a family member you can speak with or a good friend? If not, maybe a counselor in Sweden?
 
Shero said:
It is not easy to move on from such a thing. May I suggest you make a copy of the pictures and keep in a safe place in case you want to use them for evidence one day. Have you a family member you can speak with or a good friend? If not, maybe a counselor in Sweden?
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Could we write in private?
 
Coming on here with your story took real guts, Johanna. You are a brave lady, stand firm, you have already made good allies and friends on this site.
Welcome to the forum, you will find lots of things that can bring a smile, and from lots of members too. :)
 
Shero said:
I believe you have to wait a little while longer before you can use the Private Message. We shall see later.
I am sorry I asked you personal questions in full view of everyone, but believe me, we all care. Stay strong for now.
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Not if you start conversation I think?
 
hollydolly said:
That's the problem for many people.

I suspect you don't have friends who you can talk to otherwise you wouldn't be asking here.

In the Uk there are several Charity organisations where you can talk... I don't know about the USA unfortunately...

try googling Domestic abuse..free chat ...
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There are many twelve step type programs an support groups here in the states. They cover just about all the bases I believe. I would suppose they have them in Sweden too. It would not matter what country if it is an online support group. One could remain pretty much anonymous.
 
oldpop said:
There are many twelve step type programs an support groups here in the states. They cover just about all the bases I believe. I would suppose they have them in Sweden too. It would not matter what country if it is an online support group. One could remain pretty much anonymous.
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I would hope so... but despite all the hype about domestic abuse you'd be surprised here in the Uk when you actually need help there's very little available,so hopefully it's not the same in Sweden
 
Johanna said:
It is ok. I just dont want to discuss very personal things in public. I can discuss them in private
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I have had some things I needed to unload during my lifetime. I just had to talk to another human being about. Once I drove way out of town and spoke with a clergyman that did not know me or my name and I did not know him. I told him that I had no specific religion. That was my biggest concern. I thought a clergyman might not speak to me if I was a different religion. I told the man what my intentions were.

The clergyman did not care about my religion and excepted my intentions as a good thing. He listened to me and gave me advisement. I took what I could use from what he said and left the rest and told him that is what I was going to do. It was a big help for me. Funny thing is he said it helped him also. May be worth a try.
 
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oldpop said:
I have had some things I needed to unload during my lifetime. I just had to talk to another human being about. Once I drove way out of town and spoke with a clergyman that did not know me or my name and I did not know him. I told him that I had no specific religion. That was my biggest concern. I thought a clergyman might not speak to me if I was a different religion. I told the man what my intentions were.

The clergyman did not care about my religion and excepted my intentions as a good thing. He listened to me and gave me advisement. I took what I could use from what he said and left the rest and told him that is what I was going to do. It was a big help for me. Funny thing is he said it helped him also. May be worth a try.
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What is a clergyman?
 
A clergyman is a präst, predikant or rabbin.

See if there is an al anon group in your area. I would think they would be willing to point you in the right direction.

I really wish I could help. I think it would be better for you if some of the ladies here would help you. I will say, time will heal most wounds.
 
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oldpop said:
A clergyman is a präst, predikant or rabbin.

See if there is an al anon group in your area. I would think they would be willing to point you in the right direction.

I really wish I could help. I think it would be better for you if some of the ladies here would help you. I will say, time will heal most wounds.
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You are very sweet oldpop. A kind heart. She will be okay.
 
Back on topic. When betrayed after a long relation, who do you talk to? The hard part is choosing which long relationship. Years back when there were a few of these types of things popping up I had a close friend I called Critter who I could talk to about any subject that came up. He and I were alike in quite a lot of ways and experienced many of the same things in our lives.

He was older than me and has since passed but I absorbed much insight into things talking to him. His solution was simply to stay out of significant other type relationships all together. So when I was about forty eight years old that is exactly what I did. I will not open myself up for that kind of pain ever again if I can help it....;)

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I'm so sorry that you're going through this! I find it very disturbing! Those are many years of marriage to let go of and you probably have many memories of being together. Did you try and communicate with him why he did it? Just curious. Hoping you find some peace in all of this.
 
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