When Dealing With People: What do you do when you are misunderstood?

No one understands us totally, sometimes not even ourselves! So, inevitably, there will be some misunderstandings. Communicating is my best way to clear things up and move forward. Now, if you know the other person, and they make a habit of misunderstanding you, then that's a red flag.
 

palides2021 said:
No one understands us totally, sometimes not even ourselves! So, inevitably, there will be some misunderstandings. Communicating is my best way to clear things up and move forward. Now, if you know the other person, and they make a habit of misunderstanding you, then that's a red flag.
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The other person is one of my siblings that I care very much about. He doesn't always get to misunderstanding me. We don't talk that often and I am grateful for when he calls. I would never stop communicating with him on the few occasions that we do. Life is too short.
 
For me it depends on the situation but I tend to get frustrated in a heartbeat to the point I get so mad I will just abruptly walk off rather than deal with it. Mostly because I don't wanna say something hateful to the other person.
 
katlupe said:
I do not try to explain myself. Instead I just distance myself from that person for awhile. I have learned people are difficult to deal with when they think they are right and no matter what you say it doesn't make a difference.
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That can be true sometimes. It would depend on the subject as far as I am concerned.
 
When this happens, it’s time to channel The Animals from the 1960’s. They even dressed well then…

 
Ruthanne said:
I think this happens to most of us . I deal with it a number of ways, Sometimes I explain what I meant in the situation when that person is important to me.

So how do you deal with being misunderstood?
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There are different kinds of misunderstanding, imo. Some matter, some not. My reaction will depend on the circumstance, and the individual I'm dealing with.

In business, you're looking to make the best impression, so it depends on what the misunderstanding is, and whether it leaves a good or bad impression. Correcting is therefore, optional.

In real-life, if it's someone you care for, and they care for you, then you simply go back to the point of misunderstanding and correct it. It's better when there is open and honest communication.

Also, in real-life, it may be someone you don't like, or you know is difficult to deal with. I have a family member who is this way, he's a right-fighter, so any disagreement has the potential to explode. I found the best way to deal with this type of person is not have any disagreements or misunderstandings at all. This is achieved by never, ever, having contact with them. :D

In short, it depends on what the misunderstanding is about (important stuff, or casual stuff) and whom you're dealing with. This is ingrained in me very deeply, perhaps because you can't make mistakes in business agreements. So, I tend to be verbose in written communication, attempting to cover every base I possibly can. Such is life.
 
I think we can all agree that when someone misunderstands us a swift belt to the head is the most effective way of showing them the light. Apparently, some are reluctant to use this very effective manner. So, there's shouting, screaming, swearing, threatening, and pleading. I found that none of these are truly effective. Unfortunately, I think those, who misunderstand me, want to misunderstand me; so why try to change the unchangeable? I smile and walk away- that confuses the hell out of them.
 
As I have Senor'd, I notice more and more people don't hear or see all that well.
I'm just guessing here but it mostly is a mute question, well answered in thoughts.

Maybe I use the printed word more often in jest as a way to laugh through the day.
I am aware that just one voice can change the world, but I doubt anyone will hear him.
Most likely Ai on a phone will be the influencer of best ever happening. /so, I tend to confuse Seri, so I shut him off along with auto fill and all that stuff.

Yea I got tired of it sending something I didn't type and am tired of having to re-read everything before i hit send all the time. I really don't care if it is spelled purr-fect-lay all the time.

Before I shut him off he said, "I don't know how to respond to that!"
I left stupid SOB out there.
 
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