When it comes to relationships does size matter?

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oldman said:
I am 6 feet 4 inches and would really like to be able to give the 4 inches to someone else. Trying to buy pants can sometimes be a real challenge. When I worked for United, they would always send me pants un hemmed and with no cuff. I would always have to take them to my tailor and have them fitted.
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I feel for you Oldman. My youngest grandson (20) stopped in last night and he's 6' 6". I don't know where he gets his clothes from, but there used to be a big men-tall men's store in the area.
 

My first huge crush was a gorgeous 6.2 South American man. He pursued me for many months, but he worked on a cargo boat and only came
to Sydney every couple of months. Then his ship went into dry dock, and he ended up in New Jersey to live with his uncle. That was the end of
the romance. If I had the funds I would have gone over there to catch up, but funds were low. I then found the love of my life here in Sydney, 5.10 and a ton of personality, and a very caring. nature. My inner self told me this was the man for me and thank goodness I listened.
 
I was 5ft 11/2 in. tall when I met Hubby who was just on 6 ft. I didn't pick him for his height. We were tennis partners in a Saturday afternoon competition. He asked me out on a picnic and I said yes. I don't think he chose me for my height, and I didn't think his height was an issue, but when he gave me a good night kiss at the front door it worked better if I was standing one step higher than him.

Afterthought - when dancing there was no way we could dance cheek to cheek. For me it was always cheek to tie tack if we got too close together.
 

I've lost almost 3 inches in height over the years. Women no longer knock themselves out trying to get my attention. It must be my height. Of course, women must be getting shorter too, so maybe it's something else. My dog loves me, though. Well, I think he loves me. But maybe I'm just his meal ticket.
 
JustDave said:
I've lost almost 3 inches in height over the years. Women no longer knock themselves out trying to get my attention. It must be my height. Of course, women must be getting shorter too, so maybe it's something else. My dog loves me, though. Well, I think he loves me. But maybe I'm just his meal ticket.
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I recently applied to get my Canadian Forces military record, so that I can make an application to Veteran's Canada, to register for future medical and or housing benefits. My service records from the 1970's show my height at 5 feet ten inches. To day my height is five feet 8 inches, when measured at the Doctor's office. My weight then was 185 pounds, and to day at age 78 it is 195 pounds, so not that much heavier. I was surprised to see that my rifle ranges scores were a lot higher than I thought they had been.

On my annual requalification with the C1FN rifle at 500 yards, I scored 112 out of a possible 120 points. With the Sterling S.M.G. I scored even better on the 100 yard range, with 117 out of 120 possible points. Loved that 9 millimeter sub gun. JIM.
 
That Lady in PA said:
5’7” is very short in my area. 5’10” to 6’ seems to be the height I see the most, with many being taller.

and to answer your question… Yes, I wanted men to be taller than I am. And all the ones I dated, and the one I married, were inches taller.

this rang true for me, from the article:
Jo, 33, who is 5ft 10in and from Northern Ireland, is also “most comfortable” with partners who are 6ft and above. “While I’ve had a deeply meaningful relationship with someone shorter than me, I realised over time that I didn’t enjoy the physical dynamic of feeling like I was towering over my partner,” she says. “It affected how I felt in my own body, particularly around feeling ‘large’, which in turn affected my confidence.”
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I feel the same. Im most comfortable with someone my size. Im not attracted to people shorter than me.
Yes I know Im shallow. But if it looks like I could whip them in a fair fight then Im not interested.

Im 5'10. The husband was 6'1. When I wore heels we were the same height.
My thoughts on this subject are that height is relative. If youre 5'2 then 5'4 is tall. If youre 5'10 then 5'4 is short. :D


oldman said:
I am 6 feet 4 inches and would really like to be able to give the 4 inches to someone else. Trying to buy pants can sometimes be a real challenge. When I worked for United, they would always send me pants un hemmed and with no cuff. I would always have to take them to my tailor and have them fitted.
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I had good luck ordering stuff for the husband from KingSize and DXL. I took a quick look and found jeans with a 38" inseam.
Relaxed Fit Wrangler® Classic Jeans for Men, Antique Indigo.



fuzzybuddy said:
I used to think size didn't matter. I'm 6 feet, and ex#1 was also 6 ft. She always complained about her height. One day, in a grocery store we got in a discussion about how guys don't like tall women. She said, "See that guy waiting in line at the checkout, I can make him move to another line." So, we got in line behind that guy. He was kind of on the short side. Her back was towards him, and she never looked at him, said anything-no contact at all. He puts his items on the counter, he gets flustered and gathers them up and goes to the back of a long line". She said, "See".
As a guy, I would never have thought men were that sensitive about women's height, when they are tallish.
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BTDT in the past. But Im only 5'10. So not as much as some. I think things have changed with the young crowd. I notice a lot of girls 6' and over. Also not so much now that Im older. More so when I was younger and wore heels. Some short guys would act like I owed them money. :D So yes some men are sensitive. Some are not.

The only time my height caused me to complain is when buying clothes. Im old and Ive accumulated a lot so Im good for a while.:D
 
jimintoronto said:
My service records from the 1970's show my height at 5 feet ten inches. To day my height is five feet 8 inches. My weight then was 185 pounds, and to day at age 78 it is 195 pounds, so not that much heavier.
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The bad news is that as you get shorter and your weight gets higher, you ideal weight changes disproportionately, a two inch change in your height makes your ideal weight back then like a gain of 30 pounds. Well, OK, the math involved in this calculation is beyond me, but I know if my ideal weight at 25 years was my weight now, I would be a fat guy. But of course some of us carry it better than others. But at 185, you're still OK by most standards I would think.
 
So it seems all the women who say it doesn't matter are short.
It matters to me, because I am tall.
I cried when I passed 5'7" in the 5th grade. I reached my adult height in 7th grade.
I was teased (bullied?) mercilessly in grade school because I was the tallest in the class. It continued until high school.
And who were the ones with their awful taunts??... guys shorter than I.
No wonder I avoided them.

I am still that height even though I am 70.
 
Medusa said:
More likely, he acted like he didn't mind. But comments like that are hurtful.

Granted, it was probably from a different time when people were less sensitive to each other's feelings, but I feel bad for the man, retrospectively.
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Medusa said:
I agree. While in college studying for my B.A., my roommate was 5 feet 5 inches tall. He would complain that girls wouldn’t go out with him because some of them would tell him he’s too short. He came into our dorm one night and I could see he was very down, or sad. I asked him how his night went. He said he didn’t want to talk about it.

Later, he said why are so many girls mean? I asked him to give me an example of what he was referring to. He said he stopped in the club most of the college kids frequented and asked a girl to dance and she said no, thanks, but danced with the next guy that asked her. He said he thought he would try it again, so he looked around and found a girl that might have been only 5 feet tall. She did dance with him, but then he asked a girl his height and was turned down again, so he left the club kind of dejected.

I tried to smooth things a bit by telling him there are things that we just don’t have control over and our height is one of them. Maybe for you to be successful with the ladies to stick with girls say 5.3 or less. I was and still am 5.11 and I liked girls taller.
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Much of the issue is not about mating or selecting friend issues between people of different sizes but rather socially the reactions, behaviors, and attitudes of many others that embarrass and criticize those that do.

I personally for the sake of mating relationships, physically like single women of all heights and sizes. I'm physically attracted to many our culture may consider ordinary, common women, especially their female faces. However, because I know the women will be pressured by negative reactions and behaviors of others, prefer to not put taller women in that position. I also could not trust taller women that might want to start such a relationship because I understand they know that cultural attitude also so others would likely destroy it. But shipwrecked on some remote island...no problemo.

Ideally, for mating relationships, will feel most comfortable with and trust most easily, thin, fit, women with similar interests and activities that are shorter than I am.
 
Something is wonky with the reply option. It looks like, @Born_To_Lose is quoting me, but it's actually his text and when I try to reply to that post, it's not copying over. Anyone else having an issue?

Edited to add: Referring to post #63.
 
Medusa said:
Something is wonky with the reply option. It looks like, @Born_To_Lose is quoting me, but it's actually his text and when I try to reply to that post, it's not copying over. Anyone else having an issue?

Edited to add: Referring to post #63.
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Okay, weirdly, when I reply to my own post here, it's working. Huh. Wonky.

Well, anyway, @Born_To_Lose, I'm sorry that happened to your friend. You probably gave him sound advice to focus on women his own height or less. Although, I wouldn't be surprised if you told me he ended up marrying a woman several inches taller than himself. Love is like that sometimes. ❤️ :giggle:
 
Medusa said:
Okay, weirdly, when I reply to my own post here, it's working. Huh. Wonky.

Well, anyway, @Born_To_Lose, I'm sorry that happened to your friend. You probably gave him sound advice to focus on women his own height or less. Although, I wouldn't be surprised if you told me he ended up marrying a woman several inches taller than himself. Love is like that sometimes. ❤️ :giggle:
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Like a lot of people, we lost contact after college. I went to our 25th reunion, but he didn’t show. I checked and saw he was still alive.
 
I was 5 ft 4 inches when I was young (somehow have lost 2 inches now), anyways I digress, I used to cringe if a guy shorter than me asked me to dance in a night club/disco. Didn't happen often, twice in fact. I felt bad for the guys, so I would actually dance with them, one dance only!
 
LoveTulips said:
I was 5 ft 4 inches when I was young (somehow have lost 2 inches now), anyways I digress, I used to cringe if a guy shorter than me asked me to dance in a night club/disco. Didn't happen often, twice in fact. I felt bad for the guys, so I would actually dance with them, one dance only!
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I looked this up just out of curiosity, and waded through a bunch standard deviations and other math stuff, I finally got one straight answer. The percentage of men (North American) less than 5ft 4in is:

A small percentage of American men are less than 5 feet 4 inches. The data suggests a figure in the range of 2.5% to just under 10%.

Factors like age, ethnicity, and genetics can influence individual height. These statistics represent national averages and estimates
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JustDave said:
I looked this up just out of curiosity, and waded through a bunch standard deviations and other math stuff, I finally got one straight answer. The percentage of men (North American) less than 5ft 4in is:
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Dave. During the Great War( 1914 to 1918) , the British Army created "Bantam Battalions" made up entirely of men who were less than five feet 3 inches tall. A Bantam Battalion would have numbered about 900 men in total, with normal sized officers and senior NCO's. They were issued with specially modified Lee Enfield rifles that had been reduced in length from about 37 inches to 29 inches, plus they did not get the standard 17 inch sword bayonet that was the standard issue.

The Bantams were the result of generations of poor diet, poor living conditions in the slums of British cities, and genetics. Despite all that, they served with distinction and at least 4 of them were awarded the Victoria Cross for Valour in action.

Here is a link to one such Bantam Battalion in WW1. The Bantam Battalions of World War One

JIM.
 
jimintoronto said:
Dave. During the Great War( 1914 to 1918) , the British Army created "Bantam Battalions" made up entirely of men who were less than five feet 3 inches tall. A Bantam Battalion would have numbered about 900 men in total, with normal sized officers and senior NCO's. They were issued with specially modified Lee Enfield rifles that had been reduced in length from about 37 inches to 29 inches, plus they did not get the standard 17 inch sword bayonet that was the standard issue.

The Bantams were the result of generations of poor diet, poor living conditions in the slums of British cities, and genetics. Despite all that, they served with distinction and at least 4 of them were awarded the Victoria Cross for Valour in action.

Here is a link to one such Bantam Battalion in WW1. The Bantam Battalions of World War One

JIM.
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Always something new and interesting to learn.
 
JustDave said:
Always something new and interesting to learn.
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Here's another one re WW1. During the war, Canada created the Canadian Army Forestry Corps. It grew to be a 19,000 man unit that specilized in cutting trees, and making board lumber for military use. The Forestry Corps began it's service in Canada, harvesting trees and making all sorts of lumber products, ranging from railway ties, to trench support props, and duck boards that were placed on the floor of trenches when the weather was rainy.

In 1915, the Forestry Corps sent 14,000 Canadians to Scotland, to begin harvesting their forests, for military wood. The Forestry Corps included axemen, fellers, toppers, drag teams, teamsters, small scale railway locomotive operators, saw blade sharpeners, saw mill operators, and loading crews working at the Scottish sea ports to load the lumber, which would be shipped to France.

Once the Canadian produced wood arrived in France, the Forestry Corps handled all the shipping and distribution to the front line trenches. The wood products were distributed to the British, Canadian, and French armies.

The members of the Canadian Army's Forestry Corps were never trained or armed with weapons, because their skills were needed in the logistical effort. Depending on their individual job skills the men in the Forestry Corps were paid 2 or 3 times more per day, than a Canadian Army Private would have received, which was a dollar and ten cents per day.

During WW1, Canada had a volunteer force of more than 625,000 men, of whom over 500,000 served outside of Canada, mainly in France. We suffered about 67,000 dead, and 125,000 wounded in WW1. JIM.
 
JustDave said:
I've lost almost 3 inches in height over the years. Women no longer knock themselves out trying to get my attention. It must be my height. Of course, women must be getting shorter too, so maybe it's something else. My dog loves me, though. Well, I think he loves me. But maybe I'm just his meal ticket.
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It's funny you mentioned that, @JustDave, because my height was measured at a recent doctor's appointment. I've always been 5'8" but measured at 5'7". It was a bit of a surprise.
 

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