When Was the Last Time You Made a New Friend?

Alizerine said:
How much of ourselves do we reveal here? I'm not made up but between being cautious and a little shy a lot goes unsaid.
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I've spilled plenty of beans about myself but that's pretty scattered through threads, and mostly months ago now. Probably nothing memorable anyway though. I did stop posting photos after being called "vain" so many times. Those who have seen them know that I'm hardly any kind of fashion model. I'm just a rather plain, vanilla old guy. So I've never understood how candor could be taken for vanity. Hilariously, somebody even claimed that when I used an older photo as my avatar I was "catfishing." WTH is wrong with people these days???

I've noted some loss of friends of late. It doesn't take a lot to trigger people today, but it typically comes down to politics or religion. A centrist view of either one can be an affront to those holding highly polarized positions. Another is money. Few will outright ask for cash but if I haven't caved in and offered some up after months of hinting they suddenly turn into ghosts and evaporate.

The social and economic climate is becoming pretty harsh. Too bad the site doesn't report how many members Ignore your posts. I might be up for the record!
 
I haven't made a new friend in a very long time, but I have recently lost a friend of many years. Why? LOST TRUST. And that 's something that can never be repaired and a hurt that will never go away.
 

I have lost a lot of high school friends during the past few years. It really saddens me when I go to a funeral of a person that was once a good friend. It sometimes takes me a few years to get over the loss.

I never told my wife, but a girl I dated off and on for a few years died 2 years ago and I am still mourning her loss. She was such a nice, kind person that would help me with my Algebra right after school. She made learning fun and her mom would check on us quite often and that kind of bothered me. I didn’t know if she didn’t trust me on her daughter.

I think the daughter wanted to take our relationship further and quicker, but she was Jewish and I always felt unwelcome in their home. I don’t think her parents even wanted us to date, but we did occasionally. I asked her once if her parents minded us dating and she said “yes,” but we didn’t get into a conversation over it. I could tell that she didn’t want to discuss it.

She went to a university with a large Jewish population, but still kept in touch.
 
I must say I am jealous of people who have a large group of friends. My sister being one of them; they bond over their love of alcohol and they seem to always have a good time. I had a close friend for 15 years who abruptly turned away from me for another; it hurt. Now i tend to hold everyone at arm's length; wanting to be close, but cautious. I do consider some of my coworkers good friends.
 
When I moved into my new apt here at retirement facility end of May I was warmly welcomed by most of the residents A couple have become my new friends, warm& outgoing. I usually see them every day or couple times/wk
We either have lunch in the cafe or dinner in the dining room with other residents who I don;t know well, that is changing I know most of the residents by name now, always say' Hi' to them vice versa
 
moviequeen1 said:
When I moved into my new apt here at retirement facility end of May I was warmly welcomed by most of the residents A couple have become my new friends, warm& outgoing. I usually see them every day or couple times/wk
We either have lunch in the cafe or dinner in the dining room with other residents who I don;t know well, that is changing I know most of the residents by name now, always say' Hi' to them vice versa
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Sounds wonderful.
 
We almost never move beyond our kids, grandkids, and greatgrands. As it is, 6 of us all live in the old family home. Ages 90, 88,70, 66, 31 and 23. The rest of our crowd, with the exception of one couple, live within comfortable driving distance.

My wife has one friend from her childhood that she stays in contact with (lives nearby) but my last 3 old friends have passed away in the last few years. There is much inter-action between our 4 kids and their families and it has been a blessing for my wife and I. Also. no Ex's, or Steps to muddy the waters.

Nothing special , just a bit "old fashioned" in today's world.
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It’s been a while.
 
I once contemplated having a llama as a pet or friend, until I heard that they are inclined to spit in your eye, well, it cost me a fortune to get my eyes done, and I didn't fancy having to keep wiping unchewed food out of my eyes, so I got a dog instead, but his hobby was chewing the furniture. 😊
 
Facebook. Imagine that. Whatever your interested in, there is probably a group of like minded people to share your interest. I have made several new friends there. I joined to get my sons pictures and videos he shares from Guiana where he is living in a Christian community. I was leery of joining but I think it is an amazing platform to find people and subjects that I am interested in. No matter how eclectic your interests might be, you can find others that are just as weird. :)
 
I made acquaintances, but have not made a true friend since the passing of my husband (13 yrs ago). I find making a true friend is almost impossible to do at my age 66. Everyone I come in contact seems to be married, or 10-15 yrs older than me, which usually don't have the mobility to share interests.
 
I’ve finally given up on friends. I won’t invest anything anymore at this point in my life. Not always but most times I’m content.
 

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