When was the last time you turned the other cheek?

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By this I mean that you didn't escalate a situation such as an argument or conflict situation.
You didn't take an insult personally.
You stopped the cycle of aggression/verbal violence.
You didn't seek revenge.
Oops heavy topic eh. I tend to obsess over these things.
I aspire to good behaviour such as turning the other cheek.
Not that I succeed.
 

I now try to do it often. I recall the last situation and I just let it slide and went with the flow. Sometimes I feel angry at what someone has said or done but I don't act on it. Rather I try to think of where the person is coming from and to understand them better. I realize not everyone is going to understand what they are doing as in the past I did not either. It takes a lot of patience and my mother always said "patience is a virtue."
 
Ruthanne said:
I now try to do it often. I recall the last situation and I just let it slide and went with the flow. Sometimes I feel angry at what someone has said or done but I don't act on it. Rather I try to think of where the person is coming from and to understand them better. I realize not everyone is going to understand what they are doing as in the past I did not either. It takes a lot of patience and my mother always said "patience is a virtue."
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nice answer. good old empathy wins the day. thanks for the reminder Ruthanne!
 

Since I work with emotionally broken people, turning the other cheek is a regular occurrence. In my private life I do my best not to sweat the small stuff. Some things are worth conflict, most are not. Often it is better to fold your tent and slip away, silence speaks very loudly
 
This woman, at an emergency eye clinic, walked into my examination room, where I sat with the gf, screamed at me that she was sick of listening to me talking, and slammed my door shut. I was stunned, but decided to let it go, figuring she was in pain, and being driven crazy by it. The old, younger me, would've opened the door and told her to eff off. I did open the door, again, but I kept quiet. Yeah, I've mellowed a bit, as I've aged.
 
Aunt Bea said:
For me it's not really turning the other cheek I just don't care or can't be bothered.
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I once was there and loved the freedom of it. Then I started caring and am a basket case again. Not caring has such significant advantages. It simplifies life ,making it less stressful.

Oh what I wanna say. 🤭
 
I've always turned the other cheek...provided the other person is only using words. (That "sticks & stones" thing.) Even when I was young, I never minded being thought of as a "wimp" or "not macho." I think men who escalate conflicts have never grown up & they're usually people who are insecure about their manhood.

Trying to physically hurt me is a different story...I'd be determined to make sure it cost them.
It's a good thing I'm like that, considering what I could do - I'm usually armed & am a competitive shooter.

As for specific incidents, when I was married, I was looking for a parking spot in a crowded lot. After driving around for 10 minutes, I saw a car pulling out & waited for the spot. It was a one-way lane. I started pulling in & I heard a loud, rattling engine revving from the opposite direction & an old van cut me off & started pulling into the space. My ex wife started yelling & I told her to shut up; it's not worth fighting over. The guy got out of his van & walked over to our car with an insane look in his eyes & what looked like Meth tracks along both arms. I quickly drove away.
 
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I usually try to hold my anger. Thursday I will be put to the test again because I will be in the company of a very hateful and rude woman. Boy how I wish I was a drinker. It would be a lot easier to put up with her if I was drunk.LOL
 
Sassycakes said:
I usually try to hold my anger. Thursday I will be put to the test again because I will be in the company of a very hateful and rude woman. Boy how I wish I was a drinker. It would be a lot easier to put up with her if I was drunk.LOL
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Good luck with that. Your life sounds like mine.
 
Shalimar said:
Since I work with emotionally broken people, turning the other cheek is a regular occurrence. In my private life I do my best not to sweat the small stuff. Some things are worth conflict, most are not. Often it is better to fold your tent and slip away, silence speaks very loudly
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wisdom like this post is very helpful. thanks
 
im glad i started this thread. because to be honest ive become over reactive the last few years. Maybe I need to quit Twitter. That place is a breeding ground for escalation ,hate, anger, demonisation, stupidity.... the list goes on.
Anyway let me focus on creating a new habit. A good habit. Non reactive. Looking past bad behaviour in others.
Dont get caught up in petty spite.
Assertiveness is important but sometimes we confuse that with aggression. Quietly stating your casfe without provocation might be the way to go.
I want to mellow as I age. Not feel resentment or anger. Life really is to short.
 
Sad to say, I guess I never have, except when I was in front of a judge in Divorse Court. That bastard threaten to put me in jail. My ex-wife made me look real bad and I never open my mouth except to say, yes your honor. The business I was in at that time made it necessay that we crossed paths. His first name was James and I always referred to him as jimmy to his face.
 

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