When You Have Only A Short Time To Live

chic said:
I would want to make it the best time of my life. But what if it's now? I can't go anywhere or do anything because of the virus so all I can do is keep it all inside and try not to worry my loved ones. :cry:
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Chic have you been diagnosed with something?
 

I would throw caution to the wind and eat the last piece of fudge in the refrigerator. :)

Other than that, I would sell all my hobby stuff except for some essentials so my wife wouldn't be stuck with it.

I don't really have any desire to travel. I've seen London and Paris. Rome would be cool to see, but it's a long flight to get there. Maybe a trip to the NE to visit my hometown.
 
Irwin said:
I would throw caution to the wind and eat the last piece of fudge in the refrigerator. :)

Other than that, I would sell all my hobby stuff except for some essentials so my wife wouldn't be stuck with it.

I don't really have any desire to travel. I've seen London and Paris. Rome would be cool to see, but it's a long flight to get there. Maybe a trip to the NE to visit my hometown.
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“Eat the last piece of fudge in the refrigerator?” Hmm, I’ve purchased fudge, I’ve brought a bit of fudge home after I purchased it, but I’ve never had any fudge make it to the refrigerator. I mean if I have fudge, I store it in my tummy, not the refrigerator.

How does fudge get stored in the refrigerator? Sounds like a case of fudge cruelty to me. 😧
 

chic said:
No!!! Not at all. I'm just thinking of how I would react if I were.

I've had so many family members die of cancer and they wanted to do things before they died, and they could. But people now who are diagnosed with a terminal illness can't even travel and have fun while they still feel well enough to do so.
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Well, you can have a terminal illness without being too ill to travel. If you were terminal, then COVID-19 would make no difference to your ability to travel. It’s fear of catching the virus and dying that stops travel, IMO. If I knew for sure I’d die next month, I would go see my daughter and her family.

As for having fun, depends on your definition of fun. Hmm, I see a new thread 😂
 
I suppose when I hear "diagnosed with terminal illness," my first inclination is not to plan a party. Just waiting on test results makes me physically ill with anxiety. Not to mention that people with terminal cancer, etc. are usually going through chemo and/or radiation and feeling very weak and sick. I'd like to give each of my children a proper goodbye, but as for "having fun!" or planning a trip... I don't see that happening.
 
I don't know...a party with one of those cocktails laced to send you packing mid party maybe...might not be so bad. If it would just cause me to dose off and never come back. I'd be ok with that. Get the music pumping and people having a good time while I down my laced drink and head for lights out.
 
SifuPhil said:
When you have only a short amount of time left - say, a doctor has diagnosed you with terminal cancer and you have maybe two years left, tops - what do you do?
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Nothing different than I do daily. The doctor isn't guaranteeing two years, death has no time table it will happen when it happens.
 
Aneeda72 said:
Sorry about your BIL diagnosis. It must be really hard. How old is he?

Some do go gentle into that good night, however, so it’s not a myth. I have a brain aneurysm on my carotid artery. If it bursts, I will bleed out and die before I, or anyone, knows there is a problem. It was found a few years back after it leaked and I had a brain bleed-you get the head ache from hell with a brain bleed.
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He's 56...so young...
 
Aneeda72 said:
“Eat the last piece of fudge in the refrigerator?” Hmm, I’ve purchased fudge, I’ve brought a bit of fudge home after I purchased it, but I’ve never had any fudge make it to the refrigerator. I mean if I have fudge, I store it in my tummy, not the refrigerator.

How does fudge get stored in the refrigerator? Sounds like a case of fudge cruelty to me. 😧
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Reminds me of 1 of the lunches out I went out to before Lockdown; I was talking about a great way I had found to store ice cream in the freezer so it doesn't get ice crystals all over it. Blank stares from the other gals there and one says, "You have ice cream around long enough for it to even get ice crystals?!" (Of course, since Lockdown, I haven;t had that problem anymore. :LOL: )
 
Aneeda72 said:
“Eat the last piece of fudge in the refrigerator?” Hmm, I’ve purchased fudge, I’ve brought a bit of fudge home after I purchased it, but I’ve never had any fudge make it to the refrigerator. I mean if I have fudge, I store it in my tummy, not the refrigerator.

How does fudge get stored in the refrigerator? Sounds like a case of fudge cruelty to me. 😧
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My wife made enough to feed an entire village. She gave a lot away, but there was still enough left to put me into a diabetic coma, so I'm pacing myself. :)
 
A good friend of mine died two months ago, having been diagnosed with terminal cancer ten or twelve months ago.
I didn't ask him what he might have liked to do before he died, and as he'd had a very full life, visited many parts of the world etc, it maybe wasn't as relevant as in some cases. I think, or at least guess, he wished to be treated in the same way as a friend than before he'd revealed his diagnosis, and if I was right on that score, he continued to show interest in my troubles, whatever was bothering me etc. I hope I didn't try to unburden myself quite so much, and I didn't ring him as often because I sensed he'd prefer it that way, (though you can see when he's been on social media sites, and share funny anecdotes or news items there can't you instead, as I did continue to do).
 
officerripley said:
I think that unfortunately, a "peaceful end" is a myth.
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When I was young my roommate (she was 24 yrs old) had a sudden aggressive cancer. I think she was scared of dying in pain because she told me the doctor assured her that she would have meds that she could use if she chose to die, she was very happy about that. But, the cancer spread to her brain and she went into a coma. Her mother said she seemed to pass peacefully, she said she breathed more and more slowly and then not anymore.
One thing that was interesting was that if her life had been a movie I think she would have quick married her fiance and spent what time she had left with him, but what she did do was go back to the state her family was in and spend the rest of her life with her parents and sister.
I think, but not sure, that if it were me I'd go on a round-the-world trip and maybe do daring things that might otherwise be too scary (balloon ride over the African Safari etc - tho I'm hoping I'll be courageous enough to do that anyway!). But, it is also possible I'd spend the time sitting on the porch looking at the clouds.
 
SifuPhil said:
When you have only a short amount of time left - say, a doctor has diagnosed you with terminal cancer and you have maybe two years left, tops - what do you do?

Do you follow the path of self-pity, spending your time wallowing in despair? Or do you go out and do all the things you always wanted to do? Do you update your will? Do you start a porn website for seniors? Do you take up extreme sports?

Or is it impossible to say until it actually happens?

A bit of a morbid question, I realize, but I was just wondering ...
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Hmmm, 8 year old thread but still relevant. I hadn't thought about this issue, but we are all subject to facing a death sentence sooner or later.

I would try to live life as "normal" as the illness would allow. Probably eat more of my favorite foods, but still keeping within healthy guidelines.

I'd reach out to my ex, and estranged adopted daughter, to try to settle matters.
 
It would depend a lot on my ability or disability but I would make prefer to die at home
If I was taken quickly in a hospital setting so be it but if I was given a certain amount of time then
I want to live (however that may be is uncertain of course) out my days in my own surroundings
Then I would take each day as it comes until I 'Go Back To The Dreaming'
However we don't always have our 'druthers do we?
 
officerripley said:
Thanks, Aneeda. (I keep trying to post a gif here of hugs but can't figure it out...gonna keep trying...)
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you could just use the ones that come with this forum software for now, 'till you figure out how to post gifs...

Just click on the little smiley face above the reply box ^^^^ and scroll down, you'll find something you can use there.. 🤗
 

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