Where is Debby?

I hope she is well, though it seems according to her stats, she has been on the site as recent as today or yesterday, unless someone else is using her account. Still Debbie, if you see this say hi to let us know how you're doing. We do care to know, not just being busy bodies. :)
 
Hi folks, thanks for your concern and all. I haven't been on my computer much lately because as I mentioned to Jim just a couple hours ago in response to a PM he sent, I had to call the vet to euthanize my two old horses a week or so ago and it's kind of messed with my head. They've been part of our family for twenty years but due to age and health problems that only get worse in summer, it became the kindest thing to do......but I still feel like crap because like I have always promised them, mine was the last face they saw after a great meal and a lovely day in the sunshine. So I haven't been much in the mood for anything other than staring at the TV (that's mindless and takes no effort) and I did peek at SF a couple times, but didn't have much heart to say anything.

But thank you all for asking how I'm doing and I'll get over it soon enough. So all of you lovely folks, take care in the meantime.
 
I'm so sorry, Debby. I know your heart is broken. It will take time. Please know we're all here for you if you need us. :love_heart:
 
Oh Debby-I`m so sorry to hear this. I don`t know why,but losing horses was always the hardest for me. I don`t know why-I`m closer to my dogs and cats,but the horses always left me feeling so lost-to the point where I got a donkey that should outlive me. I don`t want to go through that again. My kids know she is theirs after I`m gone.....Hope you`re feeling better soon.
 
Debby said:
Hi folks, thanks for your concern and all. I haven't been on my computer much lately because as I mentioned to Jim just a couple hours ago in response to a PM he sent, I had to call the vet to euthanize my two old horses a week or so ago and it's kind of messed with my head. They've been part of our family for twenty years but due to age and health problems that only get worse in summer, it became the kindest thing to do......but I still feel like crap because like I have always promised them, mine was the last face they saw after a great meal and a lovely day in the sunshine. So I haven't been much in the mood for anything other than staring at the TV (that's mindless and takes no effort) and I did peek at SF a couple times, but didn't have much heart to say anything.

But thank you all for asking how I'm doing and I'll get over it soon enough. So all of you lovely folks, take care in the meantime.
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I'm so sorry, and I understand. Back in April I had to put both of my dogs to sleep -- they were large dogs and both were about 13 (not sure, because they were rescues). Wthin a couple weeks of each other they both developed things that could not be successfully treated and my vet advised me it was time. I've had many dogs in my life, but it always SO hard when it's time. After the second one, I sort of sat and stared for several days.

I have since adopted another rescue dog (I cannot bear to be without a dog, I just love them so). She is an older girl, a mostly black with some white pitbull mix who had been at the Humane Society for quite a while, and she is a delight and a joy. She has helped bring me out of my funk. She is sweet and loving, and is SOOO happy to have a home. I love her to pieces already! She is a 65 pound lap dog.

I hope you feel better soon. Losing an animal is losing a member of your family, I know.
 
Debby...always remember how lucky your horses were to have lived twenty years under your care and with your love.
 
It's never easy Debby, but we don't allow our beloved animals suffer like we do ourselves. You did the kindest thing and it hurt you to do it but it was the right thing to do.
 
Debby said:
Hi folks, thanks for your concern and all. I haven't been on my computer much lately because as I mentioned to Jim just a couple hours ago in response to a PM he sent, I had to call the vet to euthanize my two old horses a week or so ago and it's kind of messed with my head. They've been part of our family for twenty years but due to age and health problems that only get worse in summer, it became the kindest thing to do......but I still feel like crap because like I have always promised them, mine was the last face they saw after a great meal and a lovely day in the sunshine. So I haven't been much in the mood for anything other than staring at the TV (that's mindless and takes no effort) and I did peek at SF a couple times, but didn't have much heart to say anything.

But thank you all for asking how I'm doing and I'll get over it soon enough. So all of you lovely folks, take care in the meantime.
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Sorry to hear about your loss Debby, I can imagine how you must feel, I was with Lisa a while ago, when we took her very ill 16 year old cat to the vet to be euthanized, it was heartbreaking and she is still missed.
Take care.
 
So sorry Debby and I understand completely what its like. Losing beloved animal friends hurts so bad and takes a while to recover, so take care of yourself and give yourself special treatment. Time will heal. :love_heart:
 
I can't tell you how glad I am that I stopped in to peek at what you guys are all talking about day before last! And when I finally told someone(s) about what's been going on lately in my life, I think it was the thing I needed to do to shake me out of my mental 'malaise'! Putting it into words at some point seems to be necessary when you're grieving and I just haven't been able to do that at home here even though my family is so wonderfully supportive. Maybe it's the verbalizing that feels worse than writing it out and I get so tremendously weepy? Anyway, thank you to all of you and I heartily agree that losing our critters is always tough. Not as bad as our people family, but still tough.

The weird thing that I've found is that despite my beliefs in what happens when we die (and I've explained that here to you all), I still found it incredibly painful! Better place, do-overs and all.......I guess it's a case of missing 'the missing piece' and dealing with the change. Maybe that's the explanation.

The one thing that's been a comfort such as it is, is that unlike every other year, suddenly we've got so many blackflies like we haven't had before in this location. The grey mare has always been ultra sensitive to fly bites to the point where last year she was rubbing herself raw and biting constantly at her itchy parts last summer and that didn't end until the weather began to get cold. Imagine your entire body just crawling with itchiness that doesn't stop! This year was on track to be even worse.

As for the other mare, she had a bad laminitis attack three years ago (from some mystery weed?)and no matter what kind of changes I've made in her routine every year since, she spent the summer hobbling around because her poor feet were killing her...and the grass had begun to grow in patches in the small field she lived in and the only way that I might have saved her from that pain would be to lock her into a stall away from that dangerous grass for the entire summer and fall. Is that really living? So they each had their issues that made life miserable and for one to be without the other would have been miserable because they've been each others 'herd' for twenty years, never out of sight.....

Anyway, there it is and knowing that we've all made these kinds of decisions for furry critters that we love gives me great comfort that you understand my 'silly' shut down behaviour. Fortunately for me, there was a Mad Men marathon on tv that first weekend and even though I don't even like the show, it gave me something mindless to stare at without having to look for something to watch! So set it to record, lay on the couch and moan pathetically for another box of tissues and get over it right?
 

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