Where to go meet people?

Gaer

Pursue what sets your soul on fire!
Fuzzybuddy: I know what you're going through. It's the same with me. Unfortunatly, There is NOTHING near me to meet people. My two kids live thousands of miles away, and I really don't like the "friends" I've made! A few fat,old women! (They just gossip and complain) During the pandemic, wish I had an extraordinary man around my age to communicate with online.(privately) I'm COMPLETELY ALONE! Haven't even heard a man's voice for months!
Guess I'll just tough it out! If you hear of a good site, let me know! (Don't trust those sites) Guess I DO NEED some interaction!
 

jerry old

redneck, but brainy
No where really, church on occasion, library, but vision problems halted that.
Watch traffic, 8-9 cars a day; being a hermit, I did not think this
enforced isolation would bother me-it does.
Main activity is watching my beard grow, don't groom it-Why
bother, I'm not going anywhere.
Cold keeps me inside, supposed to be warm tomorrow, yea.
 

Marie5656

Well-known Member
Location
Batavia, NY
An older thread, but for others who are in same boat (after all this is over) I would suggest library, or church. There are several churches in my area that have a higher senior population.
To be honest, I had gotten away from regular church or senior center attendance. But this isolation has caused me to rethink my priorities. When this is done, I am going to work on my social skills again.
 

Wren

Well-known Member
Location
Europe
I imagine, like most peeps, my social life came to a screeching halt over 4 weeks ago. I live "in the boonies" about 5 miles from the nearest town (one traffic light). I used to go to the diner there every day, mostly to socialize, but for lunch also. The owner, who I know (everybody knows everybody around here) has been hanging on by a thread for years. He owns a lot of apartments and builds houses, so he doesn't depend on the diner for income. He should sell it but hasn't yet.

So after the CV crisis is over we have no idea if he'll open it again. If he doesn't, we really don't have any place to go that is big enough. There is no "senior center" or anything like that around here, and this is something we discussed a few years ago -- anticipating a future problem. So here we are: I have plenty of friends but won't have any place close by to have lunch with them when things get back to normal.
Would it be possible to take turns meeting up for lunch at each otherā€™s homes Old Dummy ?
 

Em in Ohio

Senior Member
Location
OH HI OH
Fuzzybuddy: I know what you're going through. It's the same with me. Unfortunatly, There is NOTHING near me to meet people. My two kids live thousands of miles away, and I really don't like the "friends" I've made! A few fat,old women! (They just gossip and complain) During the pandemic, wish I had an extraordinary man around my age to communicate with online.(privately) I'm COMPLETELY ALONE! Haven't even heard a man's voice for months!
Guess I'll just tough it out! If you hear of a good site, let me know! (Don't trust those sites) Guess I DO NEED some interaction!
Have you tried Meet-Up sites (if they still exist) or on-line dating? Or, maybe it really is time for you to move to a more populated location (after the pandemic).
 

jerry old

redneck, but brainy
Empty: "...move to a more popu
lated area."
But. but, but, but, you can't walk out on your back porch and
let off a few rounds in the city. You can't take a leak on your
property, you can't walk around outside in your underwear,
you can't have a cuss fit, foam at the mouth,...

You mean go to the city where you have to act civilized?
Yes, you have stores and movies, activities, put there are bunches of people there.
People, as a whole, are a pain.
Nay, just set out here in the rural and whim about being lonely.
,
 

Gaer

Pursue what sets your soul on fire!
Empty: "...move to a more popu
lated area."
But. but, but, but, you can't walk out on your back porch and
let off a few rounds in the city. You can't take a leak on your
property, you can't walk around outside in your underwear,
you can't have a cuss fit, foam at the mouth,...

You mean go to the city where you have to act civilized?
Yes, you have stores and movies, activities, put there are bunches of people there.
People, as a whole, are a pain.
Nay, just set out here in the rural and whim about being lonely.
,
Well Jerry, I don't take a whiz off the porch!
 
I lived outside of DC from the age of 9 until the age of 56 (I moved in 2010.) I used to do some amount of stuff with the museums and galleries. I've been fossil hunting with the Smithsonian, stuff like that.

I moved to a very rural area about a half hour away from Charlottesville and 45 miles away from Richmond (I'm on a large plot of land that's fairly isolated.)

I found a great Meetup group in Charlottesville when I first arrived. It was very loose...the groups was large and very fluid. Different people showed up at different events. Someone would post an event (movie, dinner, play, bowling, whatever) and if you could make it, you just showed up. If it required reservations, you signed up so they could anticipate the headcount.

I loved it. No one cared who did or did not attend any given event, and no one kept track of who showed up or who didn't. It was very casual. That changed when a new organizer took over and demanded rigid participation with tons of rules, including attending a minimum number of events each year. Due to the drive, I never attended that many events in the first place, so I dropped out.

I've yet to replace it. I still go on MeetUp every once in a while and scan it. Most of the groups seem like they are smallish and have more of a commitment to regular attendance. I just live too far a drive to want something that requires a routine presence. And I'm not interested in dating, so avoid those groups and events where it seems that such pressure might be brought to bear.

I worked for a non-profit for 7 years that kept me busy. I did field work and was Treasurer & general business guy. I really liked it. Then it went under (lack of money & volunteers.) I've not found a suitable replacement. My weekly church attendance and the occasional events there are my only routine activities.

It's funny, I recently went to an event on a college campus 50 miles away, and was talking to retired guy who lived in the neighborhood there. He was telling me of all the free events he attended on campus within walking distance of home. I was thinking how nice it would be to have such easy access to those things like I had in DC, and was wondering if my move to the country was what I really wanted. Then I drove away and got into traffic! I then remembered that there are always compromises, and I'm better off living where I do and making the drive to events than I would be constantly living in chaos.

Maybe when COVID passes I'll start perusing MeetUp again. Or maybe break out that community college schedule of classes I keep meaning to sign up for.
 
Empty: "...move to a more popu
lated area."
But. but, but, but, you can't walk out on your back porch and
let off a few rounds in the city. You can't take a leak on your
property, you can't walk around outside in your underwear,
you can't have a cuss fit, foam at the mouth,...

You mean go to the city where you have to act civilized?
Yes, you have stores and movies, activities, put there are bunches of people there.
People, as a whole, are a pain.
Nay, just set out here in the rural and whim about being lonely.
,
Jerry:

Here are pics taken through my patio door. Whenever I think of moving, I just look outside.

buck back yard.jpg

Turkey snow front yard.jpg
 

Liberty

Well-known Member
Location
Texas
Fuzzybuddy: I know what you're going through. It's the same with me. Unfortunatly, There is NOTHING near me to meet people. My two kids live thousands of miles away, and I really don't like the "friends" I've made! A few fat,old women! (They just gossip and complain) During the pandemic, wish I had an extraordinary man around my age to communicate with online.(privately) I'm COMPLETELY ALONE! Haven't even heard a man's voice for months!
Guess I'll just tough it out! If you hear of a good site, let me know! (Don't trust those sites) Guess I DO NEED some interaction!
Gee, if you lived closer you could come over here, have a nice cool glass of wine and we'd sit out on the back deck and I'd invite you to listen to the soothing voice of my darlin' husband! He's the big strong silent type, but just dump some wine in him and he turns into a Clint Eastwood "chatty cathy"...lol.
 

hellomimi

Namaste šŸ™
Location
City of Angels
There's meet-up groups in DTLA I was looking at before the lockdown but I haven't signed up since all activities have been on hold till further notice.

I signed up for dance class and yoga at the senior center. I can't wait till activities are resumed. I have two left feet, I want to find out if I'm still teachable...hehe I'd be so proud of myself if I can learn to dance salsa!

To those like me looking for a friend, go out there, smile and make a friend.
 

jerry old

redneck, but brainy
Post 35
Liberty's deer outside in back yard...
your not going to see that in the city, no they don't converse
; I don't know if I would prefer the deer or people?
Neat picture, so natural...do you put out corn or other food to get deer in yard?
 

Liberty

Well-known Member
Location
Texas
Post 35
Liberty's deer outside in back yard...
your not going to see that in the city, no they don't converse
; I don't know if I would prefer the deer or people?
Neat picture, so natural...do you put out corn or other food to get deer in yard?
Well those weren't our deer, but we do have deer...saw 5 does this morning, 4 of which looked like they were going to deliver next month. We do not feed them - they've got plenty to eat around all year. My mom used to call them "rats with horns", because they ate her flowers...lol.
 

RadishRose

SF VIP
Location
CT USA
I imagine, like most peeps, my social life came to a screeching halt over 4 weeks ago. I live "in the boonies" about 5 miles from the nearest town (one traffic light). I used to go to the diner there every day, mostly to socialize, but for lunch also. The owner, who I know (everybody knows everybody around here) has been hanging on by a thread for years. He owns a lot of apartments and builds houses, so he doesn't depend on the diner for income. He should sell it but hasn't yet.

So after the CV crisis is over we have no idea if he'll open it again. If he doesn't, we really don't have any place to go that is big enough. There is no "senior center" or anything like that around here, and this is something we discussed a few years ago -- anticipating a future problem. So here we are: I have plenty of friends but won't have any place close by to have lunch with them when things get back to normal.
Make an offer on the diner, hire a cook and you're in business.
 
Post 35
Liberty's deer outside in back yard...
your not going to see that in the city, no they don't converse
; I don't know if I would prefer the deer or people?
Neat picture, so natural...do you put out corn or other food to get deer in yard?
Hey, Jerry.

I don't put out food, I just live in a very wooded section of a very rural county. My place had been vacant for years before I bought it. I used to have lots of fox when I first moved in, but they're not as visible now. And that mature buck is an anomaly...I see lots of doe and young spike bucks.
 
Well those weren't our deer, but we do have deer...saw 5 does this morning, 4 of which looked like they were going to deliver next month. We do not feed them - they've got plenty to eat around all year. My mom used to call them "rats with horns", because they ate her flowers...lol.
Your mother was right.

I plowed up a 2,400 sq ft area that had obviously been a garden years ago and put in a couple of dozen plants (tomatoes & green peppers) just to get me started. Less than one week later, they had all been eaten. None of then had borne fruit, the critters just ate the young plants.

So I put up a 6' tall electric fence around it. The next day I looked out and there's a deer standing in the middle of the garden, inside the fence. It looked like I was operating a deer ranch. I later saw him jump it in a single bound.

I gave up the garden but left the fence standing. It's now a weed prison.
 

Old Dummy

Just another nobody
Location
Backwoods of NYS
Make an offer on the diner, hire a cook and you're in business.

Haha, sounds easy. Just sit back and count the money.

There is enough population to support one good diner, and it did do a good business 20 years ago when somebody else owned it. After the current mess is over, we can only hope that somebody (who knows what they're doing) buys it. Assuming, of course, that it goes up for sale.

As for me: I'm already self-employed, been doing the same thing for 52 years, and zero interest in anything else. Not to mention I'm semi-retired.
 

Liberty

Well-known Member
Location
Texas
Your mother was right.

I plowed up a 2,400 sq ft area that had obviously been a garden years ago and put in a couple of dozen plants (tomatoes & green peppers) just to get me started. Less than one week later, they had all been eaten. None of then had borne fruit, the critters just ate the young plants.

So I put up a 6' tall electric fence around it. The next day I looked out and there's a deer standing in the middle of the garden, inside the fence. It looked like I was operating a deer ranch. I later saw him jump it in a single bound.

I gave up the garden but left the fence standing. It's now a weed prison.
That is so true, Sticks... you can grow 'em in pots and move them around...last spring I put a couple green bell pepper plants in a pot and a month or so later saw the deer had eaten the leaves down to the nubs, left the ripening peppers though. Still have that pot and I kept it inside all winter, enjoying red bell peppers - put it out on the back deck a month ago and there are tons of buds and green peppers in various stages of growth on it now. Maybe I should let the deer munch the leaves more often:

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sehr alt

New Member
My family lives in another state. When you retire, it's surprising how many of your friends are work related, and they tend to fall away. Plus I'm disabled, I can't walk far at all. They do have Seniors programs here. They provide a nice meal and bingo. They are great programs, they are way to early for my meds to kick in. I don't need a meal, and hate bingo. I'm a vet, and I'm 71. A lot of those vet posts are closing as we vets pass on. The groups on MeetUp are 'strange'. I live in a community of 1.5 acre plots, and my neighbors work. So I don't know where to go to meet people.
I don't either know where to go to meet people. I have found out a very important thing though. Watch out for those outfits that will pair you up with somebody, for a fee. Those fees roll in with great frequency. You can spend a small fortune before you realize it.
 

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