Which would you rather have- a partner, or your life as it is?

Up until a few years ago, the men I was with often did annoying things. I'm sure they felt the same about me. But hormones, hope, or lack of experience made it seem worthwhile.

Now ... It's too easy to get turned off or see the warning signs. My very nice neighbor has the TV or radio on, even when we're talking. I can stand that for about 5 minutes. One guy (my age) on the dating site shares custody of 2 young children. Gah!

The logistics of living together seem daunting now, including
the paperwork and other tasks that go with moving. Even visiting or going out together could be inconvenient.

I do not want to live alone. But I'm gradually becoming another person. Maybe someday I'll prefer it.
 

If you meet someone who could be a companion or a potential partner, there will have to be compromises to make it work. How far are you both willing to go? I know I have definite deal breakers. There are some things that just won't work for me.

A few months ago, I met someone. I even posted about it. I was happy to meet an attractive man who was interested in me. God knows that doesn't happen every day! We began casually seeing each other for coffee, and then he wanted to take me out for dinner. He was nice enough and seemed to have a lot going for him, but as I got to know him better, I knew it was pointless to continue. I broke it off and told him why. He wasn't thrilled, but at least he was a gentleman about it. I'm sure he'll meet someone who's better suited to him. Will I meet someone else? Well, I'm not holding my breath, but I ain't dead yet. :)

Bella ✌️
 
OldFeller said:
I did the online dating thing in my 50s.

I met a woman who made a great "go out and have an enjoyable time" partner. So we went out for 4 years. But it was most important to her that we get married.

I didn't want to be married again. I'm not really the marrying kind even after 25 years having been married.

So she married another guy a few months after I told her.

I miss our getting together, but I don't regret not marrying her.

I only have to worry about myself and I'm the only one deciding money matters.

I felt like my hanging around with her was only because I felt lonely.

So I thought about why I felt lonely and I decided it's all an illusion how you feel.

So I decided to be happy until the day I die.

As long as I can converse with others, I won't be lonely.
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I am seeing my current girl friend for the same reason. I don't want to be lonely. I like her a lot, but am not in love.

I enjoy being with her, for hugs and kisses, and sometimes more, but I want my time alone, too. She is OK with that. I get 3 days off every week to be by myself.

I don't think I could be happy without a girl friend, though.
 

I am blessed.
I have my best friend living with me. We have been together for over 52 years now. We are married and raised 3 kids, who blessed us with 6 grandkids, who blessed us with one great grandchild (so far). I am still passionately in love with her...and she with me! We have had some bad times and some times we had to work at it, but looking back, getting through hard times is part of what has bound us together. It hardened the steel. We both know our time is short, relative to our time together. So more than ever now, we enjoy each day and all of our time together. From this side of life, life really is short, make the most of it!
 
At age 74, still know there are plenty of very compatible women out there I would much enjoy sharing the rest of my outdoor and science oriented life with. Issue is in this era, ways for many types of people to find each other are abysmal, full of land mines while excellent for many of cultures I avoid.
 
My parents were 35 and 37 when I was born. I got married at 34 but that didn't last long because we both had too many divergent ideas and weren't willing to compromise. When I passed 40, something came over me that I wanted to have "a family." So I married a younger gal with whom I had two gorgeous children. Under 40, children would have been only a nuisance. But having them in my mid-forties gave me the heaven I had been longing for. Now in my upper eighties, life would be terrible lonely without a family life. Yes, marriage has its ups and downs, but in my second marriage (the first was merely a trial run) I was finally "mature" enough to build bridges instead of burning them. Back to square one: yes, I am 100% pro marriage.
 

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