Who accepts aging better, Men or Women ?

Sassycakes

Sassycakes

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I accept the fact that I am getting old, my husband doesn't believe he is getting old. He thinks he can still do what he did years ago. There is no stopping him no matter how much I try. He has medical problems but still does everything he wants to do. It really upsets me especially when I see him limping around and still doing what he wants.

We moved about a year ago and we live in the suburbs. We had lived in the city all our lives. When we first moved in we had a lawn service. After a few months he let them go because he said he could handle it, but honestly it's too much for him to do. The other day he even helped the neighbor next door take care of building a shed. I could name 100 other things he shouldn't be doing but still does. He does not want to face the fact that he is getting too old to do some things. I know my limits and accept them. Why can't he. Is it just a Man thing ?
 

Sassycakes said:
I accept the fact that I am getting old, my husband doesn't believe he is getting old. He thinks he can still do what he did years ago. There is no stopping him no matter how much I try. He has medical problems but still does everything he wants to do. It really upsets me especially when I see him limping around and still doing what he wants. We moved about a year ago and we live in the suburbs. We had lived in the city all our lives. When we first moved in we had a lawn service. After a few months he let them go because he said he could handle it, but honestly it's too much for him to do. The other day he even helped the neighbor next door take care of building a shed. I could name 100 other things he shouldn't be doing but still does. He does not want to face the fact that he is getting too old to do some things. I know my limits and accept them. Why can't he. Is it just a Man thing ?
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Oh yes it is a man thing LOL!
 
If I had known I was going to live to be this damn old I would have, just kidding .... I did it all and somehow survived. :love:
 
Perhaps women prioritize more, knowing we will need to save some of our limited strength and stamina, for something necessary to be done, later.

Perhaps some men, don't prioritize, as they think they can/will still do everything, or that when they can't , someone else will? :D
I wonder who? ;):LOL::giggle:
 
Are we talking about average or normal folks and at what ages - -50's, 60's, 70's, 80's? I'm moving into my late 80's and believe me, I can no longer come close to what I could do 10 years ago, in my mid 70's, never mind the two previous age groups. Parts just stop working or they won't co-ordinate well enough to allow me to accomplish what I like to do.

There's exceptions in both directions, better and worse, and I say that while excluding the people with unplanned health problems. They have a set of problems that the rest of us don't have to share.
 
I usually don't give my age (83) a thought unless I look into a mirror or write to a Forum. :) I have had to give up many physical activities over the years but have not regretted it since I have daughters and sons-in-law who are actually eager to jump in and help. And I still have my books and TV and computer games to fill my days. I tend to take each day as it comes, just happy to be still around. The only thing I really miss is my libido! One moment it was there, and then it was gone. That hurts! 😡
 
Men will not accept that they are getting older-and by getting older I mean their physical strength is declining. The reason I know this, is that I'm a guy. Sassycakes, I don't think you have any idea what it means to a man to be able to do things. It means independence. It means you still have the ability to care for yourself. You can make your way in the world. You can stand on your own two feet-you matter. You, as a woman. were never supposed to grow up to be a strong man. I was. Men are supposed to go out and do work. When you don't have that, what is your purpose in life?
 
Gary O' said:
Tell the others, the slackers....'best git busy'
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Must be growing up without a father that turned me into a slacker. :) I never valued myself by how much I could do physically. I looked forward to retirement and was quite happy when the day finally arrived when I could kick back and read a book without feeling guilty. But I have seen too many marriages suffer when the husband retired and didn't know what to do with himself to deny that for most men to be able to keep "doing" is very important for their self-esteem.
 
Old Salt said:
Must be growing up without a father that turned me into a slacker
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Nada
I meant the youngsters of today that do little...and yet complain.
Hell, we earned our spurs. We deserve to do whatever we want, whenever we want.
It was git busy 'cause nobody's gonna do it for ya.
Now? At our age? It's git busy before ya can't
...and if watchin' TV is whatcha wanna do now, why not
 
Well, the ladies here seem to be in agreement that men have more trouble with aging. Hmmmmmm, I wonder which gender spends the most money and time on magic ointments, medicines and spa or beauty shop treatments. I had an aunt who made her living as a model for three decades. When her looks started to go she became a tragic drunk.

A little box of powder and a little pot of paint serve to make a woman look like what she aint.
 
First thing I did when I retired was stop with the make-up. I was through with getting up every morning at 5:30, shower, put on make-up, do hair, dress up and leave by 7:00. If it's a special occasion or if I just want to do it then I'll put on make-up. But usually just a tinted cream or lotion works if I need some 'color' to my face when I get anemic and turn too pale.

But I think how we age depends on how we feel about ourselves. And some men can't handle it; some women can't handle it. I can still work around the house all day but it may take me 2 days to do what I use to could do in 1 day. I'm only taking care of my father now (Alzheimer's) and it seems like I have too much time on my hands.
 
think women are far worse ' men think they can which I find is all in the mind lol …….
mine thinks hes 18 in his head -but women worry about looks more than anything .
 
Packertjohn said, "There are so many women there but so few guys." .I was only 60, but because I disabled, I was allowed to go to my local senior citizens center. I first walked into the building to find mostly widows. I never thought of myself as a "hunk", yet, when I walked in all eyes were on me. I had my moment in the sun as a "young stud". When I was in the "assisted living center", the ratio of men to women was 1-10. One guy to every ten women.
 
I make it a point to engage in as much Physical activity as my aging body can stand....yard work, logging, etc. I have learned to pace myself, and take frequent breaks, so as not to aggravate my minor arthritis, etc., and this routine is allowing me to stay fairly fit, and out of the doctors office. My wife isn't nearly as active, but if "genetics" are part of the equation, we both have several decent years ahead of us....I hope.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
Men will not accept that they are getting older-and by getting older I mean their physical strength is declining. The reason I know this, is that I'm a guy. Sassycakes, I don't think you have any idea what it means to a man to be able to do things. It means independence. It means you still have the ability to care for yourself. You can make your way in the world. You can stand on your own two feet-you matter. You, as a woman. were never supposed to grow up to be a strong man. I was. Men are supposed to go out and do work. When you don't have that, what is your purpose in life?
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I just worry about his health. He has health issues and I want him around for a long long time. In my eyes I still see the young man I married and I don't want to live without him.
 
Packerjohn said:
It's hard to say because it depends on the person. I know one thing. Whenever, I go to any function & look around me, I always notice the same thing: There are so many women there but so few guys. That must tell me something. Either men are anti-social or they are dead. Mmmmmmmmmm!
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Can you imagine what it's like living in Florida, our retiring mecca? Aging lotharios must love it there, very little competition.
 
Llynn said:
A little box of powder and a little pot of paint serve to make a woman look like what she aint.
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I've seen plenty of ''before and after makeup'' photos and the results are truly amazing, almost a miracle.
 

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