Who can you trust? Who do you trust? Are you, yourself, trustworthy?

Wren said:
Some people can certainly be trusted to shoot their mouth off at every given opportunity, disrupting a perfectly logical thread to make it all about them .....
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So you have noticed it time and again, too?;)
Farrah Nuff said:
I get the feeling that you're a straight shooter too.
By not naming names, that's very admirable of you!
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I love straight shooters. The posts are honest, but not vindictive of other posters. You are dependable and a delight, FN.
 
Right Now said:
So you have noticed it time and again, too?;)

I love straight shooters. The posts are honest, but not vindictive of other posters. You are dependable and a delight, FN.
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Heck, I've only been here for six days and my inner bs meter starts buzzing loudly once in a while. 🤭 Mostly territorial stuff peeking through... but that's okay because for the most part, I am stunned at the number of delightful people who "live" at this forum. I am *so* glad I found ya'll!
 
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I trust most people.

This has led to problems, of course. But I'd rather be like this than some people I've known, who just assume that everyone is up to no good.

Am I trustworthy? In the short term, telling the truth, honoring confidentiality, etc., yes. But sometimes I haven't been able to stick with long-term contracts and so on.
 
Apart from family (who I trust completely) I probably have five friends who I would say are definitely trustworthy.

Whether people think I am trustworthy, I don't know but I hope so, I certainly think I am trustworthy and have, in the past, gone above and beyond to help people close to me.
 
When the title of post itself not only asks questions about trust including 'Are you trustworthy?' How can anyone be faulted for responding on a very personal level--it is a personal question unless you do a lot of clarifying in the body of the OP!

To me there's a difference between trusting someone (where/however you meet them) and between accepting what they say about themselves as true on a contingency basis until/unless they say/do something to reveal they exaggerated, omitted info or outright lied. If they are not seeking $$ or💞 from me i see no risk in accepting what they say about themselves at 'face value', reserving the right to change my mind if contradictory evidence comes to light. Choosing to to trust someone does indeed, as someone pointed out earlier, have a component of needing to consider if and how they might negatively impact your life. This is one reason why once trust is broken with anyone it is very hard to restore.

Online most people have very little real power to hurt you in any substantial way unless you give it to them. i have cyber friends i've known for close to 15 years--in that time they have been consistent in what they reveal about themselves in terms of personal history and facts and in how they behave towards others. i trust some of them more than i trust some people i've known out here in 3D world.

As for my own trustworthiness i can only say that i put a good bit of energy into saying what i mean, and meaning what i say. There are people who might consider me duplicitous because they mistook my tendencies toward kindness and compassion for weakness and so they are angered when i won't tolerate certain behaviors toward either myself or others. Because here/now incarnate i am human and subject to human emotions, while i've exerted some control over some tendencies like all of us i'm a work in progress. i tend to think of myself as a pragmatic optimist or optimistic realist. Meaning i KNOW the difference between how the world is, people are and how both could be if more people valued concepts like honesty and compassion more than they value things.
 
I am reminded of a long ago co-worker, who said about his best friend "He's the most honest person I know. I would trust him with anything I have, well, except for my wife or old pick up truck."

I had to ask "why not your wife or truck?"

"Because they're both too easy to throw a rod in..."

Sorry. :ROFLMAO:
 
Without going into gory detail, I suffered a betrayal this summer from the person I trusted most and least expected it from. So it has left me trusting No One, but I am now more open to others who offer sincere kindness and help when needed. I have learned only to trust myself because I alone have my best interests at heart.

Am I trustworthy? Opinions will differ and I understand that but if you tell me a secret it will go no further.
 
I have trust issues, always will. CPTSD does that. Yet, I do my best to treat others as I would wish to be treated.

Regarding my own trustworthiness, very much so, with one caveat. If my flashbacks go off the rails, my behaviour is

affected. I can say caustic, accusatory things. Fortunately, this is a rare event. I trust my fiancé with my life.
 
One always has to look for a conflict of interest. A surgeon might push an unneeded surgery that he or she performs. A sales person of course wants to make the sale. A teacher might prefer a curriculum because the new one might be too much work to implement (I plead guilty on this one). And politicians, no need to say any more.

We all are susceptible to our own conflict of interest, which is why jurors are dismissed.
 
I may not be the most friendly or sociable guy around, but I live by the old Greek maxim: primum nil nocere, or first, do no harm, or something to that effect. Or the teachings of Hillel the Elder: “That which is hateful unto you, do not do to your neighbor."
 
I give people the benefit of the doubt and will trust them to a certain extent until they show me otherwise. Then I trust them with nothing. There are very few people I really trust. Am I trustworthy? I would never betray a friend's confidence. I can assure you that your secrets are safe with me.
 
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