It occurs to me that a great many men in this world probably aren't being cherished by anyone in the world today, with divorce rates so high, and unlikely to fall far when countries like the UK have recently slackened divorce laws even further.
You could argue the same applies to women, yet some wise and knowledgeable
women have told me that women in general tend to cope much better following relationship breakdown, (they're better able to network or pour out their feelings I'm told).
Just for my critics I'll throw in how
many men get excluded from their children's lives, so little opportunity for your finer qualities to get recognised and appreciated there!
I don't think I'm pretending "men are the victims" (or at least not unfairly), and yes it is very true
many men probably are treated just as they deserve by their former partners, maybe even their kids, (though its a moot point for me!), and
"the system" has to some extent, be designed to cope with errant dads who'll try to make a mockery if everything, or haven't truly grown up perhaps(?)!
Still my view though that breaking down barriers and old taboos, (like making divorce, and unfaithfulness so acceptable nowadays), that
men probably aren't being cherished as much as in former times, when roles were more clearly defined etc. 
I'm not sure what
“a great many men in this world probably aren't being cherished by anyone in the world today, with divorce rates so high” means. I'm having a little trouble following exactly what you're trying to get at here, but I'm gonna take a stab at it. Where to start, lol?
Divorce rates are high. Getting a divorce is relatively easy. People get married thinking if it doesn't work out, they'll just get divorced. That strikes me as the wrong way to enter into a marriage. If I thought that way before marrying my husband, I wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Marriage was a big deal, and we didn't enter into it lightly.
Most women have friends or family they can talk to, and it's acceptable for them to cry about it. Having support helps. I know some men who've gotten divorced, and they quickly moved on. How well either copes depends on the person.
What are the reasons for men being excluded from their children's lives? Maybe after the divorce, she keeps the children from him. Unless there's a good reason for it, there are laws to prevent that. If the father is truly a bad influence, the court will suss that out. Does she hate her ex-husband so much that she's poisoned their minds against him? Maybe so, especially if they're too young to grasp what's happened. If that's the case, fathers need to do all they can to maintain contact with their children and continue to be a part of their lives. If that means duking it out in court to make it happen, so be it. Fathers have a right to a relationship with their children.
In modern society, we no longer have what can be described simply as a set of well-defined roles. In the past, men were traditionally the breadwinners. Today, it's primarily a dual-earner household. Because women have also become providers, with no reduction in household duties or child care, gender roles have become more fluid. What's not to cherish about a man who steps up to the plate to become engaged with household duties and child care because his wife is also working a full-time job?
It may well be getting harder to find someone we might feel we're compatible with, and who might accept us for all our foibles, (as we can manage for them in return), but if the next generation are being taught "self interest is what matters or should matter", its hard to see things getting better in future!!
Let's face it, at this age, we all have a bit of baggage. Finding a partner later in life who wants to accept whatever your load is, big or small, isn't easy. It takes understanding, tolerance, and a willingness to shoulder it along with their own. It would be ideal to be able to share the loads with one another. I'll help you carry yours, and you'll help me carry mine.
If you want to be "cherished", you have to give as good as you get. If you want love, tenderness, affection, and respect, you must give it in return. It's not a one-sided deal. It can only be found if it's mutual.
If the next generation is being taught that “self-interest is what matters or should matter”, it's wrong. While there's nothing wrong with looking out for yourself, you must step outside yourself and learn to care for others. If you're only self-interested, you're going to end up a very lonely person. Gee whiz, I'm so great, why can't I find someone? The first step is to stop being a selfish idiot. Relationships aren't all about your needs.
If you lived in this country you'd maybe reconsider whether or not it is us men having the upper hand, or been married to someone like my "warrior wife", (- her description of herself, the inference being I was a " peasant"- not a term I'm unhappy with these days, though if pushed a fighting spirit is still to be found, under all the apologising for myself I've grown up to use so often!).
As far as having the "upper hand," it's not an effing competition to see who can get on top. That's horse pucky. It's a partnership where no one is jockeying for position. You're on the same side. You support each other. It's you and me against the world, baby! That's how I see it.
I thought I was finished with this comment until I read the rest of what you posted. Oh, boy. Controversial? You said it.
"A woman is naturally submissive to a man who she trusts to lead ... even if she's an alpha female."
"A truly submissive woman is to be treasured, cherished and protected for it is only she who can give the man the gift of dominance."
Of course, I followed my husband's lead, but he was also brave enough and smart enough to follow mine.
If this is your idea of what traditional gender roles should be and what cherishing your husband means, you want to go back to the dark ages. If a man has the need for a woman to be naturally and truly submissive, there's a problem. Alpha, beta, delta, theta, schmeta. My husband “treasured, cherished and protected” me, but I was not submissive, and he did not dominate me. He was more than worthy of my admiration, love, tenderness, and respect. I still love and cherish my dearly departed husband, and I always will. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't long for him.
Good luck with whatever it is you're after here.
Bella
