Who Do You Find The Easiest?

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who do you find the easiest to talk with men / women / some people cannot do both ,
my self I can feel at ease with both genders- let us know how you relate to someone!
and if its just one type -why would that be .
 

Ok here goes:

I can talk to men and women any age group and love talking to children young and teens both genders. I'm an extrovert and outgoing and enjoy people in general...nice ones, that is. I love lighthearted chat and banter and thrive on both off and online. Been told I'm people person. However, I treat people with respect and a good listener.
 
Anybody within earshot of my good ear

However, I'm drawn to conversing with the grumpy, the withdrawn, the low in spirit
...not in a pestering way, but seems they can't not fixate on my countenance
Like 'WTF is this guy so effing joyful about?'

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and that draws a response from me

it's a bit of a careful art, but, after years of experience, it's now quite easy
 
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I find it's fun to talk with either gender. People now days are semi-surprised when someone actually chats with them. Since being retired I enjoy just shooting the breeze without having to play offense/defense with office agenda politics and pleasing the clients! However, if given the option of sitting on a couch to chat with a specific gender, I'd rather jabber with a man. No kids please....I'll leave them to the folks that can relate to the little darlins as they are screaming and running around like little wild banshees. o_O
 
Like Gary, I'm happy and eager to talk with virtually anybody with the exception of constant complainers. Even on this forum there are those who whine, whine, whine, but are highly resistant to taking any action that might improve their situations.

A friend of my parents - a very cheerful man - when confronted with someone like that would quickly extricate himself from the conversation and mutter softly as he walked away, "Ugh... She'd complain if they hung her with a new rope."
 
StarSong said:
Like Gary, I'm happy and eager to talk with virtually anybody with the exception of constant complainers. Even on this forum there are those who whine, whine, whine, but are highly resistant to taking any action that might improve their situations.

A friend of my parents - a very cheerful man - when confronted with someone like that would quickly extricate himself from the conversation and mutter softly as he walked away, "Ugh... She'd complain if they hung her with a new rope."
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I can think of at least 2-3 of them. I lose my patience and give up trying to suggest solutions to solve their problems. I like to find solutions to problems, I have no patience with listening to habitual venting about the same damn problem and uttering hypocritical platitudes to please their persona.
 
As Jackie Blue stated; "I find it's fun to talk with either gender.". We probably all have a certain conversation that we abhor. For me it's conversing with people who can't stop re-living their days on their job. They never should have left it. If they were reduced to cleaning the rest rooms, they should have stayed. No matter what the conversation is about, somehow their employment manages to slide in. And obviously this conversation comes from old folks, like most of us, who've been "put out to pasture".

Other than that and the occasional overdose of "humble bragging" , I have no problem. But happy folks or sad. People with problems or folks without a care. I can sit and share conversations with them and for the most part enjoy them.

Might be that I'm a "pain in the a$$ to them but they'll hear little about my past employment or the small fortune that I've accrued through "Hard" work, what ever that means. LOL
 
RadishRose said:
I enjoy chatting with anyone, any age.
I have noticed that men usually prefer to talk more about themselves more than anything else, which is ok, too.
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Reminds me of a tip I gave my daughter when she started dating, ask a man a question about himself at the start of your evening, he’ll talk about himself all night, then tell you what a great time he’s had.....(only joking boys) ;)
 
Wren said:
Reminds me of a tip I gave my daughter when she started dating, ask a man a question about himself at the start of your evening, he’ll talk about himself all night, then tell you what a great time he’s had.....(only joking boys) ;)
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Other good tips:
Look at their mother and father and you'll have an idea what your intended will look like when they get old
Observe how they treat others, especially service staff, and you'll know what kind of person he/she really is
If they only talk bad about others, they will talk bad about you behind your back (everyone has something to criticize, but not constantly)
Whatever bad habits they have now, they will never lose them and may even get worse after marriage
 
Judycat, so then you're saying that men and women are both self-obsessed and boastful. Kind of an overreach, IMO. Of course there are people who fit both types.

But I don't think this is a gender-related issue. Mr. Rogers and Michelle Obama would be extremely easy to talk to, I imagine. And there are horrible examples on both sides.

I do think I'd have problems conversing with a transgender person, though.
 
I get along with just about all women except for the pushy NY real estate agent types. Men? Very few. I don't "do" football, Nascar or golf so finding a kindred spirit never seems to happen. Plus, I work from home which cloisters me socially. I can count the close male friends I've had on one hand with fingers to spare. They have all pre-deceased me.
 
Catlady said:
I lose my patience and give up trying to suggest solutions to solve their problems. I like to find solutions to problems, I have no patience with listening to habitual venting about the same damn problem
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I find it a bit tragic when bumping into these folks, moldering on and on about all the unfairnesses
What a terrible waste of precious time
I've found it rather gratifying when I can help divert their focus

but then.....some folks just plain enjoy the waller
 
RadishRose said:
I enjoy chatting with anyone, any age. I have noticed that men usually prefer to talk more about themselves more than anything else, which is ok, too.
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Even worse are those Gary Cooper types: Yep, Nope, Maybe, I suppose, not really, etc.

I remember an episode with Benny Hill. He was the host in a talk show. His guest would only answer with 1-2 word replies. Benny was getting desperate, he had asked all his questions and he still had a lot of time left on his show. I was cracking up, he had these hilarious facial expressions. 😹
 
I enjoy conversation with anyone - any gender, any age. But that is true conversation, an equal exchange of information, thoughts and ideas.

I don't like being talked AT. IOW, to someone who just wants an audience, not a conversation.

An exception is for toddlers and children under 10. Those I just listen and enjoy.
 
I'm a guy. I speak the ancient language of my "tribe". As men, we are expected to act and feel a certain way, whether or not we agree. That "language" is the closest to me. Women come from another tribe. Again they are expected to act and feel what culture tells them. With all this cultural baggage, communication suffers. Life is complicated, and we have to make the best of what we have.
 
treeguy64 said:
I never met a person I didn't like talking to..... until I met my first mother in law!
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That’s how I felt about my uncle’s m-i-l. I would tell anyone that asked, I would never hit a woman, but I may make an exception in her case. My uncle was just a few years older than me, so we were good friends. He was the kind of guy that was what we called down home. Just a very plain and simple man. His gf’s mom hated it when they decided to get married.

He sure changed her mind after becoming a multi-millionaire. He owned a few acres of land in southern Ohio. He had bought the land from a buddy, who got it from his dad. He was going to build a home on it someday, but moved to NE Ohio instead. I don’t know how it got to the point where some geologists or who, but Chevron asked permission to dig on his land and he agreed. They hit gas and oil. He was paid very well for the mineral rights. There’s much more to the story, but why bother you with the details?
 

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