Who in your life hates you?

C50 said:
I feel that way too. I easily dismiss people who I don't get along with, I waste zero energy thinking about them after that.
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Unfortunately I do care whether others like me or not but Iā€™m learning to let it go. Hate, I canā€™t comprehend people I know online, hating.
They donā€™t know me enough to hate and if they do, itā€™s their problem, not mine.
 
I wouldn't have anyone in my life that hates me. If they do, they are not a part of my circle of family and friends. That's not to say that there aren't people who dislike me. I know there are. Two come immediately to mind. But I have zero contact with them and never will.
 

Hate my actions or decisions that I have done in the past ? Yes. I certainly did some stupid things and made some bad decisions when I was younger. But time healed that. Hate me as a person ? As far as I know, no one in my life hates me. Would be kind of a waste of time and energy for them if I am still in their life and they hate me.
 
VintageBetter said:
Do you have any enemies? For me, it's basically anyone who has told a lie and then I walk in with evidence of the facts. They hate me.
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Objectively translated, if I may be so bold, is:
Do you have doubters of your absolute superiority? For me, it's anyone who has stated an opinion that differs from mine and then I give them the benefit of my loftier opinion. They ignore me.
 
Roadwarrior said:
A year ago I could've said no one, but since then something I said or done didn't set well with my newest DIL. I have a habit of shooting from the hip with inappropriate comments or actions. Social graces are not my strength. She's been really cool to me since. I would apologize but I'm not sure what for.
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She probably doesn't hate you. She likely just thinks you're an old fart. šŸ˜‰
 
At some point & time, probably yes. I haven't ever gone out of my way to make someone feel bad or make them mad, but at times things happen that you don't realize.

Some people really don't need a reason to dislike someone. It's as if it's a need for them. There's no use in trying to figure out people like that & sometimes you won't know at all what you did, if in fact you really did anything. I think other times it's a misinterpretation or a perceivement of what was said or done & the other person won't try to clear it up but allow it to grow into something.

Life is too short to hate someone for something that wasn't important in the first place, which seems like is the usual case. Maybe we are better off if these people not around us.
 
My brother's ex live in girlfriend hates me. It wasn't something I did but something I neglected to do (invite her to visit during the three years we lived in England.) I knew she was expecting me to, but I went through a bad time, bit of real clinical depression, worrying about my son, etc. So I kept thinking I'll feel better next week, I'll call her then, and before you knew it the base was closing and we were being sent home a year early.

Later, I explained and apologized but she never forgave me. Twenty years passed and my brother died. It was my job to call her and tell her. They hadn't lived together for about 30 years, but she knew she was the beneficiary on his life insurance. I told her he was gone. He'd had cancer and she knew it was time. She asked when she could expect the check, and then asked for my phone number.

I said, "Now that you have my number lets stay in touch!" She said, "No. I just wanted to know where to call if I don't get the check."
Girlfriend can hold a grudge, I'll give her that.
 
Roadwarrior said:
A year ago I could've said no one, but since then something I said or done didn't set well with my newest DIL. I have a habit of shooting from the hip with inappropriate comments or actions. Social graces are not my strength. She's been really cool to me since. I would apologize but I'm not sure what for.
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Reach out. Ask her what you have done that has offended her. The young can be very easily offended and inclined to hold grudges. This can be overcome by being the bigger, wiser person seeking to make amends.
 
officerripley said:
One sibling; it ruined their whole world the day I was born, it really did (and part of that can be laid at my parents' feet). And as @TheOtherRick says above, indifference can really hurt too; that old--familiar in my case--feeling of, "This person forgets I exist if I'm not standing right in front of them."
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I don't know if my older sibling hates me, but I too ruined her life by being born. Also surely part of my evil compact with my parents to take attention away from her. (Stated with irony.)
 
@PeppermintPatty I wish I could tell you about my life filled with NOTHING BUT Love and Laughter! Love, laughter, appreciation for every wonderful skill I have learned and what a great person I have been; a life also filled with great success in the employment arena and glorious, long-term relationships with several adoring lovers and/or husbands who can see past my weight and love me anyway.

I'd also love to write about several long-term memberships with loving, kind, non-obsessed, non-addicted churches with pastors who INVITE questions from all members and answer them without fear; don't see questions as threats to their power and control, but merely as thoughts from active, engaged minds.

Would be great to have stories of all my international vacations too, but the extent of my international travels are driving into Canada to see Niagara Falls. That's more than most people on the globe have seen though, so I keep that in mind.

I don't have happier stories for you, Patty.

If you click on a member's name you can choose the option to IGNORE THEM. I think you should probably choose that option with me, then you won't see any of my posts.
 
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