Why are some people attracted to being online as on forums and others not?

Olivia

Olivia

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I have close friends, actually four close friends (and two more in family) who are just not attracted to being online especially not on forums. I find that kind of odd compared to people in general. Do you know people like that, and what do you think is the reason?
 

Not sure if this is exactly what you are asking about, but I once had a co worker who would use the computer/internet rather grudgingly while at work. But was very uninterested in even owning any computer/tablet/smartphone for personal use. She said she found it all "uninteresting".
But she also seemed unwilling to even learn new things, claiming she was too old...in her mid 60's. I chuckle now as I know we have people here who are in their 70s and 80s. This lady never learned to program the remote for her TV, or to access her voice mail on her phone. Again claiming too old to learn new things. She was not an unintelligent person at all.
 
Two of my brothers almost never appear or even 'like' others on Facebook.
Neither of them have much education. Im guessing they feel that online is only for the educated and literate.
but that is just not true. one is in his seventies, the other late fiftees.
In some ways i respect their individuality.
 

There is about 10 seniors that meet for coffee every day.

Of the 10, I am the only one that has a cell phone and posts online.

I have another friend who just texts to me and rarely calls.

I find these people have a lot of other things to do at home that keeps them busy, with children and grandchildren, repairs and what not, etc. They go fishing and enjoy the outdoors.

I'm the only one that is single.
 
i think if you suffer from dyslexia and almost never read a paper or write
you might find social media tiresome.
but then many of us find social media becomes tiresome anyway. 😊
 
Camper6 said:
There is about 10 seniors that meet for coffee every day.

Of the 10, I am the only one that has a cell phone and posts online.

I have another friend who just texts to me and rarely calls.

I find these people have a lot of other things to do at home that keeps them busy, with children and grandchildren, repairs and what not, etc. They go fishing and enjoy the outdoors.

I'm the only one that is single.
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i need a one day a week time out no social media day set aside....but i havent done it yet.
 
I agree with Keesha and Rose, people's interests vary and some folks are too busy with work, social life or other things to spend much time on a forum. I've been much more active online since I retired, before that not much time to think of forums. My husband has zero interest to be talking to strangers on a forum, he has phone. in person or email contact with a couple of friends and that's good enough for him.

I like it because I'm interested in other people's opinions and interests, good way to spend the time when you don't feel like doing anything constructive (like housework). :p I also like to have some laughs or read people's thoughts on news, technology, personal matters, etc. Kind of nice to have some online friends to chat with. :) Neither of us have any any desire to join fb or twitter.

I'm sure there are a lot of folks, especially in our age group, who aren't comfortable using computers or just don't have one.
 
hypochondriac said:
i need a one day a week time out no social media day set aside....but i havent done it yet.
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We've gone on camping vacations for 2 or 3 weeks with no computer or TV access, and very little if any radio reception. I have to say it's a great way to unwind, healthy for the mind, especially when you're out enjoying the simple beauty of nature. 🦉
 
Marie5656 said:
Not sure if this is exactly what you are asking about, but I once had a co worker who would use the computer/internet rather grudgingly while at work. But was very uninterested in even owning any computer/tablet/smartphone for personal use. She said she found it all "uninteresting".
But she also seemed unwilling to even learn new things, claiming she was too old...in her mid 60's. I chuckle now as I know we have people here who are in their 70s and 80s. This lady never learned to program the remote for her TV, or to access her voice mail on her phone. Again claiming too old to learn new things. She was not an unintelligent person at all.
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Hi Marie,I was like your co-worker in some ways. When I was working,I only used the computer to read inter office emails,no personal stuff since I didn't know how.
For couple of yrs.I had a 'gizmo' called 'mailstation',I hooked it up to my phone jack,could send emails but nothing else,couldn't get attachments.
My siblings kept asking'why don't you buy a computer,you can learn lots of things surfing the web"
In 2011,I bought my 1st computer which I'm still using,{will have to buy new one before then end of this yr}in the beginning, I didn't know anything learned as I went along
Thanks to Lenore,our wonderful graphic designer in the business office at my church,she taught me all the computer skills I have now. Sue
 
Living around many retired seniors with time on their hands, I would think some might be interested in interaction with other people on the Internet...
I should take a poll one day. ... I need to find some recruits.😉
They will gather daily at the community center and outside by the pool common area and talk for hours. But I imagine many think that internet forums are just AARP or other specialized topic boards. ... and some are just plain afraid of COMPUTERS!
 
My world revolves around family. We live in the same home with our daughter's family which includes a college attending son and a daughter in high school, 2 dogs and 2 cats. My wife and I lack little in daily contact and have another daughter who pops in a few times a week (or we pop in there). Her kids live nearby, along with one of our greatgrands.

Our social life, by choice, is pretty much limited to these folks on a daily basis. Haven't visited one of the local senior centers for 5 years or so. I enjoy a couple of forums but don't post often. It's like picking up the newspaper, or book, and seeing what's going on today or where the story is going.

I find most of the folks on these forums to be interesting and friendly, with a few political hardasses (mostly hidden by forum rules) but these unpleasant folks are found everywhere. I can enjoy the camaraderie on these forums but don't need it on a daily basis. Family fill any void that we have regarding company.
 
We are social animals. We need interaction with others. That's why we have places like bars where someone can get a drink and have a conversation.

I remember a movie with Rock Hudson. He was living alone like a hermit. One day he went out to wash his face in a pool of water. When he saw his reflection in the pool he went crazy.
 
I'm on forums for entertainment purposes only
well
not 'only'
I like to get an occasional mental spark from folks. It instigates a writing jag, of which I enjoy...in a masochistic sorta way.
 
DaveA said:
My world revolves around family. We live in the same home with our daughter's family which includes a college attending son and a daughter in high school, 2 dogs and 2 cats. My wife and I lack little in daily contact and have another daughter who pops in a few times a week (or we pop in there). Her kids live nearby, along with one of our greatgrands.

Our social life, by choice, is pretty much limited to these folks on a daily basis. Haven't visited one of the local senior centers for 5 years or so. I enjoy a couple of forums but don't post often. It's like picking up the newspaper, or book, and seeing what's going on today or where the story is going.

I find most of the folks on these forums to be interesting and friendly, with a few political hardasses (mostly hidden by forum rules) but these unpleasant folks are found everywhere. I can enjoy the camaraderie on these forums but don't need it on a daily basis. Family fill any void that we have regarding company.
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You're a very lucky man, DaveA. Maybe both lucky and knowing how to display love and good values. Either way, you're blessed. Close family is one of the most beautiful things in life, imo.
 
People's interests vary.
Some people have a lot going on offline and have little or no time or interest in online forums.
Others just don't want/have problem learning to use a computer.

It's not really something I've wondered about.
 

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