Why do some single men avoid single mothers?

I had a couple dates with a 63-year-old man who had sole custody of his 15-year-old daughter. She was NOT happy about him dating.

On our first date, she called him 11 times in the 2 hours we were together. On our second date, she called several times and worked herself into such a state, he had to go home.

There wasn't a third date.

At my age, I was not interested in taking on someone else's angry teenager. Been there, done that and had the t-shirt.....
 
Good question!! - I was once on a dating site - local - all safe and sound and met a lovely lady who had a 7/8 year old daughter and herself was a prison officer - both those factors flash sorta non-compatible flags - but lookin back I often regret not persuing that further????????
 
jujube said:
I had a couple dates with a 63-year-old man who had sole custody of his 15-year-old daughter. She was NOT happy about him dating.

On our first date, she called him 11 times in the 2 hours we were together. On our second date, she called several times and worked herself into such a state, he had to go home.

There wasn't a third date.

At my age, I was not interested in taking on someone else's angry teenager. Been there, done that and had the t-shirt.....
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My son just said: Mom can you please do us a favor and stay single? You have a horrible taste in men. So obedient as I am I did.

He said: We don't want another guy here with a new set of rules. Can't really blame him. One bossy guy I very briefly dated started to bark at the youngest. Immediately played the boss and took over. He told him he could not start eating before I took a bite. They were not allowed to order what they wanted. I paid. He had no job of course. My youngest son did not agree and to nag him he put the bunny on the table during dinner. He told his dad who had to laugh and said: You don't have to listen to that man. Only to your mom. There went the guy's authority out of the window.

My dad said: No wonder you always date these weirdo's and losers. You're not attractive.
Well thanks mate.
You have 3 small kids and an ex. No normal man wants that.
Oh you mean that. Yeah I guess you're right.

It was an eye opener that he addressed the elephant in the room with his Dutch bluntness.
 
DailyArtsyCrafter said:
Yes, I was in my 40s. Met a guy in my age group whom I wanted to get to know. Then, found out that he had a 4yo son living with his mother. I was so disgusted and turned off. I told him, I've already raised my son. He's grown. Why at your age do you have a young son that you have to raise?
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I'm not sure what you found disgusting?? A guy in his 40's had a 4 year old son?
 
My son and DIL had their youngest when they were both age 38 - so they will have a 4 year old in their 40's.

this doesn't seem at all unusual to me, let alone disgusting.
 
January said:
did not watch video - but if somebody doesn't want a child that is a reasonable deal breaker.

applies to single women dating men with children too
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Didn't watch the video either.

When dating, I was wary of guys who were divorced. The guys with kids? I'm here to tell you, I dropped them like a baaaad habit. I may have only been in my twenties but was quite clear that I needed the stress and intrigue of an ex-wife, ex-in-laws, custody disputes, child support and alimony, not to mention being cast as the wicked stepmother, like I needed a case of the flu.

I went into dating relationships clean, meaning no broken marriages and no offspring. I mostly limited my search to men offering the same. And I found just the right one.
 
Being in my 60's, I don't have to worry about his *except* my wife works at a WIC-related shop and there are plenty of kids being raised by their grandmother. However, many of those ladies are too young for me. Also, if I was single, the chances of getting remarried are pretty slim for me. I like having me as a roommate.
 
I divorced at 48 and had sole custody of my kids so never considered trying to excluded single mothers. Heck I was probably more interested in women with children, that would mean our life styles would be more similar.

Even before I married at age 28 I never shied away from single mothers, I always loved kids and wasn't afraid of that kind of commitment. I will qualify that statement by saying the way a woman acted as a mother had a big influence on my interest in her, bad parenting instantly erased any interest I had.
 
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