Why So Many Single Families?

HermitHogan said:
The problem with a system like that is: it creates incentive for poor, single women to have children. They can escape poverty by becoming a single mother. It's like a program that was set up back in the '70s, I believe, where they paid people $5,000 to quit smoking. People started smoking so they could be paid to quit.
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Short term gain for long term pain. That's how it needs to be sold. Too many pretend it's easy, and that they wouldn't change anything. The old "but I love my kids so I wouldn't change anything" talk. Some people accept, early on, that they won't personally amount to anything, so procreation becomes their societal contribution. A shame.
 

I'm shocked that people can condemn and disparage having and raising children. But I guess it's a problem that resolves itself since their lineage will die and fall away from the tree of humanity.

Still, the problem is well documented and has even been exaggerated to make the point in popular culture:


A popularized version of the story told in 1951's "The Marching Morons."
 
A family is a unite comprised of two or more beings living together. Your question, Why so many single families is an oxymoron because a family is considered more than a single aka one. Therefor, a single family has nothing to do with the number of parents within the family because a single family is considered a unit of more than one
 

Young single mothers are on the decline, a steep decline.

This is a big part of both our demographic collapse and the increase in birth defects. Carrying a child at 35 is already a medically geriatric pregnancy.

We live in a culture of "you can have it all" reality denial today. But not all stories have a sad ending.

 
It's what he has on the inside that counts ... honesty, integrity, dedication & being hardworking are just a few things they should really be looking for. Money & looks can go, but a man who stay around is priceless.
 
The single ladies are showing it all, wonderful clothing and just be the Man is a thought!

Few young families here have 2 children, Why , $1000 a month child care costs. Our Gay's adopt drug parent's kids. Thas just the way it is.
They are free of Drugs. Why? Sure they know what they are doing. Thas a no brainer. Basically, the youth under 40 years old have not a clue!
After 40 they are just a PITA! Nuke us please Kim.
 
dilettante said:
Young single mothers are on the decline, a steep decline.

This is a big part of both our demographic collapse and the increase in birth defects. Carrying a child at 35 is already a medically geriatric pregnancy.

We live in a culture of "you can have it all" reality denial today. But not all stories have a sad ending.

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Wrong !
 
dilettante said:
Mating selection is almost entirely the choice of the woman. Pathological cases exist but these are very rare. Bad choices lead to bad outcomes. The question is really: Why are so many bad choices being made?.......................


69% of divorces are filed by women. This can be done on a whim under current law, and generally women substantially gain financially under current law.

40% of births now occur outside of marriage. Up from 28% in 1990.
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Perhaps bad choices are made because those women had bad examples growing up and those bad choices were because they had bad examples ....... And maybe all that is because women were forced to file for divorce or runaway from men who were abusive or non-providers or a combination of both. In my lifetime, as the child of a single parent, I've never known any woman who left her husband, to have gained financially unless she remarried someone who was a real partner/provider.

My mom booted my dad because he was an alcoholic who worked only sporadically and picked fights with her constantly and made life miserable. I went to church as an adult with several women who were single parenting because their husbands cheated and left them and my one daughter left her husband because he was a man-baby and she got tired of being a mother to his perpetually hurt feelings and reluctance to 'be the man of the house'.

The reference to women 'leaving on a whim' isn't fair and utterly fails to take into account the lives that those women endured before they took that step. Very few women leave on a whim. We look for partners we can respect, who respect us and where we both mutually want to take care of one another. We are forced to leave when down the road, we realize that those needs aren't being met and often, safety has become an issue.
 

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