I'm happy that this person was able to get out and into a place of peace they can enjoy as they'd hoped. Yeesh.
Happy it's working so well for you.
Maybe I'll feel differently when I'm 80, the typical amenities would be desirable but I'm used to the freedom of living in this rural area on a multi-acre property, with the nearest neighbor being at least 150 yards away. I would hate having a homeowner's association dictating every little detail "allowed" on my property.
My brother & SIL live in a Del Webb seniors community in NW Las Vegas, it's very nice and has several recreation centers complete with indoor pools, tennis and pickle-ball courts, paths for walking or bike riding and such. They like it there well enough, but they lived in L.A.(San Gabriel Valley) their entire adult life.
I hope so too. Sorry you went through such a rough time.
This sounds like my husband: he keeps saying maybe some day but not yet, not yet; and doing something about it keeps getting pushed into the future so I'm afraid, if he goes first, I (who no longer drive much) will be stuck here in this great big place way out from town & stores, etc., trying to get it sold and get myself into some kind of place more suitable (after the average 2-years on a waiting list that it takes around here, of course). So sometimes, things can be put off too long.
I agree with you about that and it's a situation I'd like for myself. Unfortunately, there seem to be more and more things, around here anyway, that fight against that. I was chatting with a realtor who told me that any time she takes prospective buyers who are middle aged or younger to go look at houses, if the prosp. buyer sees even one head of gray or white hair in the neighborhood, they'll frown and ask her, "They're aren't a bunch of old [said disgustedly] people living in this neighborhood, are there? Because I do not want to live somewhere where old people will be constantly griping about how much noise my kids make. Nor do I myself want to have to hear sirens every other day because some old person is having chest pains. So, let's go look at the next house on the list, please." And she said no matter how she tries to tell them how great the house is, they want no part of it; she said this happens all the time.
Uh, I guess you misunderstood my reply. I'm not in the market for a realtor--I wish I were but Huzz refuses to move--and in the 2nd place, as far as I know she seems to be a perfectly fine realtor, rather it's her middle-aged-and-younger clients who are the problem since they seem to be so darn set on living like Peter Pan's "Lost Boys" that they won't even look at a probably perfectly good house. So I'm at a loss as to how that makes her not a good realtor??
I live in a 62 plus senior community. I am moving as fast as I can - in 2 months- to a mixed community. Some here are gossipy mindless tongue-wagging trolls who have cliques and are good at leaving others out. Some come from unfortunately homeless situations and pay only $200 a month while others pay the going rate close to two thousand. Homeless ones donât want to rock the boat so if ceiling is leaking, plumbing problems, or mice have taken over, they donât complain. Some have relatives they call âcaregiversâ living with them- but are very obviously needing care themselves and they take up the closest parking. The manager has favorites and gives them important community updates to pass word of mouth but if you arenât out much or not in the clique you may not know until the day of. Two men had a drunken fist fight the other day out in the courtyard. At times grandkids scream and play and purposefully hit our trees with their toys. No activities for seniors at all unless you count the bullying and gossip. This was a lovely place when first opened 4 years ago. Now, itâs filled with all sorts of residents who have little interest in book clubs, knitting, bird watching, healthy conversations other than gossip, etc and their live-in relatives and perhaps not my cup of tea. Itâs relatively quiet though much of the time and I will miss that some. Canât afford the $3500-$5000 places as I imagine they much are nicer.Bolivar, you sound angry, and maybe you have had an unusually bad experience. As a long-time resident of a 55-plus community, my reaction on reading your list of nastiness was that it's the exact opposite of my own experience. Maybe this is unfortunately true of some senior communities, but there are probably thousands of such communities by now; how can you generalize about all of them like that?
It's like saying, "How can anyone want to live in a city? There are lots of bad people in cities." Yeah, but...
Bratty kids? We very seldom see kids of any sort around here, and I would put that down as a defect in senior communities. I like kids. Occasionally, on the weekend or holidays, we do see a kid or two, visiting their grandparents. I have never seen a single one acting "bratty."
Here, relatives are not allowed to live with the seniors. That would negate calling it a "senior community." They can come for short visits, that's it. Younger people are usually here for quick visits. I have never heard any visitors make noise of any kind.
Hookers? Drug dealers? You've gotta be kidding. We have a practically nonexistent crime rate. And any hooker hanging around here looking for business would probably starve.
About the bullying (I've never seen it) and general cruelty, I've never seen that either. It might exist here and there, as people are people, and you might find that in any apartment house or gated community, or anyplace else where you get lots of people of any age. I haven't seen any particular "immaturity" either, though some of the oldest people do slide into dementia, and usually end up moving to assisted living, or some other arrangement.
I think your description is ridiculous. And your attitude sounds hostile.
And you really wished he'd beat it.
