Why's everybody always picking on me?LOL

[Sassycakes]

I understand that most girls are Daddy's little girls. I know I thought my Dad was God. In my case, my mom picked on me all the time and my Dad defended me. Today my Husband had to get a needle in his eye. He gets the shot every few months. My Grandson drove him since I don't drive. My husband is only a year older than me. I was 15 when I met my husband and he was 16yrs old. We have been married for over 50yrs. It seems like she forgets all the good things I did before and now picks on me every day. She says I make him do too much and I don't do anything. I have stage 4 kidney failure and many other health problems. Why is she always picking on me?

 

[Pepper]

Tell your daughter in no uncertain terms to knock it off. Stand up to her. We've got your back!

 

[Sassycakes]

Tell your daughter in no uncertain terms to knock it off. Stand up to her. We've got your back!

Thank you, Pepper. I do stand up to her,but I never win !

 

[Pepper]

Hmmmmmm, we'll think of something!

 

[Llynn]

Tell her that her treatment of you has earned her a free trip out of your will.

 

[Pepper]

You know what it is, Sassy? At a certain period, the kids think we're their kids and start acting like we're the old fogies we are. Sometimes I have to hang up on my son. Not often, but if he starts getting know-it-all bossy I can't stand him. He reminds me of his dad!

 

[Packerjohn]

Hello Sassycakes. You know yesterday I read 2 long articles about families being estranged. One article told why children get their parents out of their lives. The other article said why some parents get their kids out of their lives.

In a toxic situation, I feel that space would be good. If a temporary parting of the ways does not work, then a serious discussion about your will, just might make someone think. Do not put up with abuse. No reason for it. Remember in an abusive situation, there are 2 people: the person causing the abuse and the person that allows the abuse to happen. You just might have to show her where the door is.

 

[hollydolly]

Sassy with all due respect, I've lost count of the times you come here and told us that both your husband and daughter are picking on you.

It's not right and it's not fair that this is happening, but the only reason it is, is because you've not put a stop to it..and you must do this. It's imperative your daughter understands you're her mother and because of that you deserve respect and you won't engage with her unless you get it.

The same with your husband.. occasional tiffs are one thing, but you tell us this happens on a regular basis. You tell him the same thing.. don't speak to you in a less than respectful manner as his wife and mother of his children or you will refuse to engage with him...

 

[Jules]

First, remind her that you’re her mother and to stop being rude to you.

Two, make a list of all the things you do in a day. When she starts to criticize, tell her what you do.

If she’s doing this on the phone, hang up.

 

[Tish]

Oh, Sassy, I am so sorry you are being bullied walk away from her, you do not need to engage in that kind of bullying behavior.
Just put your hand up and walk away, maybe then she will get the hint.

 

[Jules]

One thing you could do is remind your DD that the way she treats you is what her daughter sees. She’s not setting a good example. It might get her thinking.

 

[Alligatorob]

Why's everybody always picking on me?

 

[Mike]

Lock your door and don't let her in until she gets some
manners, you get on to her, for a change.

Mike.