Will you stay in your home as long as you can?

kssf said:
I think I like to be with people as when I'm home alone I tend to worry about stuff - which is a bad habit - wishing I could stop this negative thinking sometimes because I have many blessings to be thankful for. Anyway, keeping my mind on something at all times is helping me.
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Continue to think of all your blessings..it may help stop the negative thinking. It takes time.
 

Ladybj said:
Enjoy being alone and with others. Introverts prefer to be alone - Extroverts enjoy being around others, they get their energy being around others - they do not enjoy being alone.
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I think everyone is an ambivert in the end. We sit somewhere on the spectrum between full extrovert and full introvert.
 

One of the biggest issues for those who want to remain at home is transportation. As an enthusiast of tech gadgets I've been interested in the self driving car. Cars capable of true self driving fall into two classes - Level 4 and Level 5. Both might have some area limitations, and 4 will have limitations based on road conditions and weather. Level 5 should be close to limitless. Various companies currently have Level 4 test vehicles on the road. Elon Musk has claimed Tesla will bring one to market later this year -- a claim which few really believe, but sometime in the next five years seems possible for Level 4. That might make ageing at home a more palatable choice.

BTW -- something I did for a neighbor living alone. She was concerned that if she became immobile and called the fire dept they would have to break down her front door. It seems that in many areas a locked box containing a door key can be installed by the front door, or an agreed upon place. The fire department is given a key (or combination) to open the box. It's something you have to arrange with the local fire house.
 
ElCastor said:
One of the biggest issues for those who want to remain at home is transportation. As an enthusiast of tech gadgets I've been interested in the self driving car. Cars capable of true self driving fall into two classes - Level 4 and Level 5. Both might have some area limitations, and 4 will have limitations based on road conditions and weather. Level 5 should be close to limitless. Various companies currently have Level 4 test vehicles on the road. Elon Musk has claimed Tesla will bring one to market later this year -- a claim which few really believe, but sometime in the next five years seems possible for Level 4. That might make ageing at home a more palatable choice.

BTW -- something I did for a neighbor living alone. She was concerned that if she became immobile and called the fire dept they would have to break down her front door. It seems that in many areas a locked box containing a door key can be installed by the front door, or an agreed upon place. The fire department is given a key (or combination) to open the box. It's something you have to arrange with the local fire house.
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I sure wish they had those self-driving cars right now.

We installed a key code lock on our front door after seeing a neighbour had done this. She had to have the ambulance come in the middle of the night. We have one code reserved for emergencies. If I can call 911, I can still give them the code. Our friends who have the code for our security system also know it.
 
timoc said:
If I were to go into one of those facilities, it would be imperative that the place be fully soundproofed, so that my farts couldn't be heard and I wouldn't hear anyone elses. I always carry a peg in my pocket. :)
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I have to confess that it took me a minute or two to realise what the peg was for!!! :ROFLMAO:😊
 
I sure hope I'm able to. I've been in my apartment for 53 years and I don't think I'd be truly comfortable anyplace if I needed long term care. There's not too many steps to maneuver and when I had my kitchen and bathroom remodeled years ago, I had grab bars installed next to the toilet and in the shower. My apartment is just under 700 sq ft, so I don't have a large space to deal with. All outside maintenance is taken care of by the co-op.

My son, Honorary Daughter, grandchildren (and my DIL used to) all say they would not put me in a nursing home. Plus Medicare seems to be making at home care a more viable option. I have an Aetna Medigap plan via my retirement benefits with the State of N.J. They will pay for 35 hours a week of at home care with no out of pocket cost for me unless I exceed 35 hours, at which time I'll be responsible for the rest. That is SO much more reasonable cost wise than being in a semi-private room at a nursing home.
 
Ron and I plan to age in place, and the way our house is laid out that should be possible. One step up and one step down in a couple of rooms but easy to ramp if either of us ends up in a wheelchair. Level entry from driveway to inside.

That said, I think that we don’t always get to make the decision of where we end up. Depending on our physical and mental health as we age, oftentimes the decisions as to where we’ll spend the rest of our lives are taken out of our hands.

Honestly as much as I abhor the idea of going into a nursing home, I hate even more that any of my children would be saddled with that level of care of me.

I cared for my own mother for several years when she became bedridden, and it’s physically demanding as well as emotionally draining. I finally had to give it up when she became incontinent and I just couldn’t do it any more. She only lasted about three months after she was moved.
 
Ronni said:
Ron and I plan to age in place, and the way our house is laid out that should be possible. One step up and one step down in a couple of rooms but easy to ramp if either of us ends up in a wheelchair. Level entry from driveway to inside.

That said, I think that we don’t always get to make the decision of where we end up. Depending on our physical and mental health as we age, oftentimes the decisions as to where we’ll spend the rest of our lives are taken out of our hands.

Honestly as much as I abhor the idea of going into a nursing home, I hate even more that any of my children would be saddled with that level of care of me.

I cared for my own mother for several years when she became bedridden, and it’s physically demanding as well as emotionally draining. I finally had to give it up when she became incontinent and I just couldn’t do it any more. She only lasted about three months after she was moved.
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I hope you will get to stay in your lovely home Ronni.
 
Unfortunately, our Wisconsin government doesn’t support it as they allow seniors on fixed incomes to be taxed out of their homes. I think it is criminal!

At best, you can get about $300 knocked off in a credit. But they do offer loans for you to pay taxes 🙁
 
Michael Z said:
Unfortunately, our Wisconsin government doesn’t support it as they allow seniors on fixed incomes to be taxed out of their homes. I think it is criminal!

At best, you can get about $300 knocked off in a credit. But they do offer loans for you to pay taxes 🙁
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would you mind explaining that more clearly to a Non-American please..I'm not sure I understand what you mean .. What exactly does your Wisconsin Govt not support ?... :unsure:
 
I'd have to be dragged out of my house kicking and screaming. I would be so sad to be taken away from all the things I love and know that most of them will just end up in the garbage. I know they are just "things" and I shouldn't get attached to them, but ... well, I just hope someone else will take them instead of ending up in a dumpster.
 
hollydolly said:
would you mind explaining that more clearly to a Non-American please..I'm not sure I understand what you mean .. What exactly does your Wisconsin Govt not support ?... :unsure:
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They do not support the idea of making it affordable for seniors to stay in their homes that they worked their whole life to purchase. There is no significant property tax relief.
 
Our county in CO cut senior property taxes by 50% after 65, but you have to request it, not automatic. I grew up in Wisconsin. Used to be very liberal, even socialist (city of Milwaukee) at one time. They now are just to the right of Attila the Hun. They seem to spend the better part of their time trying to figure out how to squeeze the last dime out of there citizens. I plan to be in my home until they collect my corpse from my back porch. Mike
 

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