Will you stay in your home as long as you can?

mellowyellow said:
I know some very independent people who will fight tooth and nail to stay in their own home for as long as possible. Our government supports it too and there's a lot of help available including house cleaning, meals on wheels, lawn mowing, even showering etc. Would you rather go into a facility and socialise with others or stay put?
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Where in the world have you found government sponsored house cleaning and lawn mowing for seniors staying in their own homes? Our local Senior Centers don't provide these things. The only thing most Senior Centers provide is meals on wheels and the requirements needed to receive these aren't clear.
 

TabbyAnn said:
Where in the world have you found government sponsored house cleaning and lawn mowing for seniors staying in their own homes? Our local Senior Centers don't provide these things. The only thing most Senior Centers provide is meals on wheels and the requirements needed to receive these aren't clear.
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IIRC, Mellow is in Australia, maybe?
 

TabbyAnn said:
Where in the world have you found government sponsored house cleaning and lawn mowing for seniors staying in their own homes? Our local Senior Centers don't provide these things. The only thing most Senior Centers provide is meals on wheels and the requirements needed to receive these aren't clear.
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There is a small fee involved in cleaning, lawn mowing etc which is taken out of the old age pension and provided by the local council. After delivering Meals on Wheels to seniors for over 20 years, I found most clients were fiercely independent and would fight tooth and nail to stay away from a nursing home.
 
My MIL resisted moving to an apartment complex that was restricted to people 60 and older because...wait for it...she didn't want to be around "all those old people". We finally coaxed her into moving, and she was very happy there around "all those old people" until she died at 87.
 
WheatenLover said:
One thing I know for sure is that I will never live in a nursing home. I will do whatever it takes to prevent that. I signed a DNR so that at least that won't happen.
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Besides the DNR, what can be done to prevent it? Not meaning to argue but wondering what to do since I don't want to live in a nursing home either. (Although, since I don't have kids, I'll probably end up in one anyway).
 
Hubby and I love our acreage and will stay here as long as we're physically able to keep it up. We're hoping that will be sometime in our 80's, We bought the land and built the house 20 years ago so that will make 40 years that we will have lived here. I love it so much that I want my ashes spread here. (Don't know exactly how to accomplish that though) We built the house with aging in mind. Bent ranch with wider doors, taller toilets, flip handles on the doors, etc.

When we are too old to manage the upkeep, we will move to an independent living community. We have some in this city where you can purchase a condo, pay for as many services as you want or need and when the time comes, move into a more dependent care facility.
 
Alligatorob said:
A good stash of pain killers.

If the time comes that I am not enjoying being here that's what I currently plan to do. However I am not sure if that time will every come or what it will look like.
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Wow the doctors in your area will still prescribe pain killers? You practically have to be a burn victim or cancer patient to get 'em here.
 
Uptosnuff said:
Hubby and I love our acreage and will stay here as long as we're physically able to keep it up. We're hoping that will be sometime in our 80's, We bought the land and built the house 20 years ago so that will make 40 years that we will have lived here. I love it so much that I want my ashes spread here. (Don't know exactly how to accomplish that though) We built the house with aging in mind. Bent ranch with wider doors, taller toilets, flip handles on the doors, etc.

When we are too old to manage the upkeep, we will move to an independent living community. We have some in this city where you can purchase a condo, pay for as many services as you want or need and when the time comes, move into a more dependent care facility.
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My huzz is like you, just loves our acreage and this old country-fried living. What bothers me, though, is you can make all the aging-in-place adjustments in the world to your house but if you're too far away from anything to walk to, you'll be in big trouble when you can no longer drive. And let's face it, if you live long enough, that day will come. Heck it comes sooner than some people are willing to admit (most of whom are men). And taxis and ubers are nowhere near as reliable as they used to be (if they ever were) out in the country; a lot of taxi and uber/lyft drivers quit when Covid hit and aren't coming back.
 
officerripley said:
Besides the DNR, what can be done to prevent it? Not meaning to argue but wondering what to do since I don't want to live in a nursing home either. (Although, since I don't have kids, I'll probably end up in one anyway).
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Well, not to put too fine a point on it, I am willing to die to avoid being in a nursing home. My daughter worked in one, pre-Covid. The patients were not taken care of to her standards (which are reasonable). There is no way I'm going to be helpless in the face of substandard care. It isn't that the staff didn't care, at least I hope not. It is that the home was purposely understaffed so that the bottom line would be effected positively.
 
WheatenLover said:
Well, not to put too fine a point on it, I am willing to die to avoid being in a nursing home. My daughter worked in one, pre-Covid. The patients were not taken care of to her standards (which are reasonable). There is no way I'm going to be helpless in the face of substandard care. It isn't that the staff didn't care, at least I hope not. It is that the home was purposely understaffed so that the bottom line would be effected positively.
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Ok and I know I'm being stupid here, but how does one achieve a painless death? It's almost impossible to get even mildest of pain meds or sleeping pills anymore so that doesn't leave any painless way, does it? I really don't know?
 
officerripley said:
does Oregon consider not wanting to be in a nursing home an uncurable condition?
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I don't know either. There used to be an organization that would help with rational suicide planning, and not just for those with "uncurbable" conditions. Just did some Google searching and cannot find it now.

I do not support suicide planning help for otherwise healthy people who want to commit suicide. Particularly not for younger people who have depression or some other mental condition that should be treated.

However I do consider old age informatory to be an uncurbable condition, though I suspect the law would not always agree with me. I believe we have the right to decide when our lives are no longer enjoyable and can't get better. Even if our hearts are beating and we are breathing. Should be our choice, not the government or anyone else.
 
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