Winking and whistling. Acceptable and non acceptable.

I knew your position was based upon more recent corporate policies (and laws) aimed at reducing the potential for lawsuits. That's why we see such a reduction in the number of times this behavior is exhibited.

So when you came on strong, I understood.
I expressed my view, and you have a right to yours. I didn't mean to come on strong. Sorry. It was just a knee-jerk reaction, when thinking how it might make the whistlers feel better, but can be disturbing to many women. I know my wife, for example would not have liked it at all.
 
I expressed my view, and you have a right to yours. I didn't mean to come on strong. Sorry. It was just a knee-jerk reaction, when thinking how it might make the whistlers feel better, but can be disturbing to many women. I know my wife, for example would not have liked it at all.
I understood your position perfectly including the fact that your wife may have had an opinion that you respected.
 
I've been whistled at by women in the street a few times. Mainly in my late teens and 20s. I can't recall being winked at though.

Well I say that. Now I think about it, I have been winked at a few times, but it was from myself in the mirror. Sometimes in life you have to do things yourself!

I can't ever recall whistling to or at a woman. Or a man for that matter.
 
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#4: Or she could be flattered and so take it in the spirit it was intended. No response needed on her part. Just sayin'. Not everyone has an evil intent. When you think of construction workers who are bored to death on the job, seeing an attractive woman makes their day better.
Yes, construction workers are generally the ones. I never let it bother me. You got used to it working in the city.
 
Probably now, Mack, but once upon a time it was common, at least in good sized cities.
Yes, I lived in Dallas and worked in the heart of the city a few years. It happened when construction was going on. Maybe I shouldn't mention this, but at that time, my 26 year old cousin worked downtown. Some guy pinched her on her back end, and she took off her spikes and hit him with the heel right in the chest. Not a smart move, and both could have gone to jail, but he took off running.
 
Yes, I lived in Dallas and worked in the heart of the city a few years. It happened when construction was going on. Maybe I shouldn't mention this, but at that time, my 26 year old cousin worked downtown. Some guy pinched her on her back end, and she took off her spikes and hit him with the heel right in the chest. Not a smart move, and both could have gone to jail, but he took off running.
That sucks.. people should have the right to defend themselves, especially against a physical attack.

(I'm sure there are individuals who will 'LOL' at that, too..

😔
 
I remember many years ago, when my granddaughter and I were sitting in a train going into the city. I noticed a man sitting
opposite us about 3 seats away, giving my granddaughter a wink, I looked straight at her and she winked back at him, she was only 9 years old. I immediately said, "Don't ever do that again, you don't know him, he could be a creepy man". She couldn't
see the harm in it. Another time a man waved to her from his car and she waved back. It was a big worry as she is a very friendly girl. But now she is 30 years old and can see what I was talking about.
 
Yes, I lived in Dallas and worked in the heart of the city a few years. It happened when construction was going on. Maybe I shouldn't mention this, but at that time, my 26 year old cousin worked downtown. Some guy pinched her on her back end, and she took off her spikes and hit him with the heel right in the chest. Not a smart move, and both could have gone to jail, but he took off running.
Bet he never did that again.
 
I remember many years ago, when my granddaughter and I were sitting in a train going into the city. I noticed a man sitting
opposite us about 3 seats away, giving my granddaughter a wink, I looked straight at her and she winked back at him, she was only 9 years old. I immediately said, "Don't ever do that again, you don't know him, he could be a creepy man". She couldn't
see the harm in it. Another time a man waved to her from his car and she waved back. It was a big worry as she is a very friendly girl. But now she is 30 years old and can see what I was talking about.
You gotta know how to handle people. I was once on a train platform where a drunk guy kept talking to this young woman who had an infant with her. He was just going on about something. She glanced at me like she was scared and I kept thinking about what I could do about it. Well, after awhile he comes over to me and starts talking to me. I went from looking approachable to looking him straight in the eyes and angrily saying, "Why don't you stop bothering people?!". He backed off immediately and started jabbering on about its cool. He was so startled he didn't know what to say. He wandered away down the platform. The woman with the infant was so happy.
 
That sucks.. people should have the right to defend themselves, especially against a physical attack.

(I'm sure there are individuals who will 'LOL' at that, too..

😔
That's precisely what I meant. No one has a right to touch you or make an obscene gesture at you. That is sexual harassment, but a whistle and a wink certainly are not. Any cop would laugh at you for reporting some one winking at you or whistling in your direction.
 
Yes, I lived in Dallas and worked in the heart of the city a few years. It happened when construction was going on. Maybe I shouldn't mention this, but at that time, my 26 year old cousin worked downtown. Some guy pinched her on her back end, and she took off her spikes and hit him with the heel right in the chest. Not a smart move, and both could have gone to jail, but he took off running.
I say he got what he deserved and he's lucky that's all he got!
 
My manager got hit on his butt by the female cleaner. He was so shocked. He just told us all. He had said to her: Don't do that anymore! And that was it.
 
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