StarSong
Awkward is my Superpower
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Great advice as always, Aunt Bea My father died in 1986 and my mother lived alone until she died in 2006. However, I lived in PA for many years and my mother and I were not very close (ever), so I had no clue what was happening during those years after my father died. We took a trip to visit her one summer and she had made a Will and POA through legal services at General Motors, where my dad had worked for 42 years, and left everything to the next door neighbor and her husband. That included the house and everything in it. She had changed her insurance policies and bank accounts also. She called them her "new family". I wasn't even allowed to talk to her doctor about her medical conditions. She had been "taken over" by them and when she died, she didn't even have a decent dress to be buried in. It was borrowed from the neighbor's daughter!. My mother was always dressed "just so" and had beautiful clothes. She died penniless and they got everything. These things happen a lot, unfortunately.
Nope. Not me. I worry about it sometimes, but there's nothing I can do about it. I don't expect my step-kids will be in any hurry to help me out if their father pre-deceases me. We tolerate each other because we have to. Maybe I'll be lucky enough to have dementia and won't know or care what's happening to me .
It sounds like your family's sad history is in danger of repeating itself.