Sounds like one of those Darn if you don't, Darn if you do situations. My prayers are with her and her hubby.My friend's husband had a stroke about 3 years ago. She is in her 70s. She fought hard to get help and get him out of hospital. She gets him up , dresses him, makes dinner etc and puts him to bed. She had many nights getting up and changing bed sheets. He is unable to speak or has sometimes said just a few words. She is allowed a care worker for 4 hours a week. Today she said she's just waiting to die and that she has no life and just want's to go to bed to sleep and not wake up but can't because she has to put her husband to bed. Given what most of you have said about nursing homes, do you have an opinion or any advice I can offer her. I would not want to go in a home myself and understand that she does not want her husband to be in a home but she may start to get ill herself and have no option. She has 2 children but they seem occupied with their lives. I guess I'm her listener and have been for a number of years and hopefully when she's talked it out she can carry on for another day. But the situation with her husband will not get better. Would you suggest a nursing home if one was unable to cope with their o/h if help was limited and one was getting ill trying to cope? Of course the virus situation may not give her an option even if one was available Hope I didn't go too off piste ☺ oh and I wouldn't go in a nursing home, worked in them when I was a youngster and the lack of stimulation and care for those in the homes, council or private, was certainly not up to my standards and the phrase 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you' skipped them by.