Would anybody want to go into a nursing home now with the virus here?

Aneeda72 said:
I will take the no thanks I’ll die at home option. Yes rehab and acute care are different facilities. I was considered too fragile for those more intense facilities. Apparently the doctors had never checked out stupid nursing homes where a diabetic, who never uses insulin, has to get three shots a day of insulin cause the nursing home provides a carb heavy diet. And other stupid issues designed to kill me.
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The nursing homes switched over to Culture Change which allows them to eat what they want regardless. They claim this is a more dignified life. I think it's a way to kill off the elderly and open up a bed.
 
Virus or not I would never want to go into a nursing home. I worked as a practical nurse for 10 years in what I think was a pretty good one. We had only about 100 patients,the food was good and the care better than average. Before it became a nursing home it was an old farmhouse and retained the large wrap around porch and rooms with deep bay windows where people could sit.
Even though it had a homelike atmosphere it still wasn't home.
Years later I worked for public health. I visited many people in their homes who had help with their daily needs and meals on wheels provided good food each day.
These people did so much better in their home environment. I hope I can remain in my home,not be a burden to my kids and one night just fall asleep in my bed and never wake up.
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
Virus or not I would never want to go into a nursing home. I worked as a practical nurse for 10 years in what I think was a pretty good one. We had only about 100 patients,the food was good and the care better than average. Before it became a nursing home it was an old farmhouse and retained the large wrap around porch and rooms with deep bay windows where people could sit.
Even though it had a homelike atmosphere it still wasn't home.
Years later I worked for public health. I visited many people in their homes who had help with their daily needs and meals on wheels provided good food each day.
These people did so much better in their home environment. I hope I can remain in my home,not be a burden to my kids and one night just fall asleep in my bed and never wake up.
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I totally agree.
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
Virus or not I would never want to go into a nursing home. I worked as a practical nurse for 10 years in what I think was a pretty good one. We had only about 100 patients,the food was good and the care better than average. Before it became a nursing home it was an old farmhouse and retained the large wrap around porch and rooms with deep bay windows where people could sit.
Even though it had a homelike atmosphere it still wasn't home.
Years later I worked for public health. I visited many people in their homes who had help with their daily needs and meals on wheels provided good food each day.
These people did so much better in their home environment. I hope I can remain in my home,not be a burden to my kids and one night just fall asleep in my bed and never wake up.
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That's how I hope to go. Just doze off and poof!
 
Any institution where you have people living closely together, must be a breeding ground for viruses. It isn't just at the present time. Everything is shared with other people, so good hygiene is a must.

I have no intention of ending up in a nursing home. If I can't live independently, my life isn't worth living.
 
Rosemarie said:
Any institution where you have people living closely together, must be a breeding ground for viruses. It isn't just at the present time. Everything is shared with other people, so good hygiene is a must.

I have no intention of ending up in a nursing home. If I can't live independently, my life isn't worth living.
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Well, assisted living is the way to live when living independently becomes impossible. Help when you need it or want it. No one ever intends to end up in a nursing home, but the homes are full of people.
 
Aneeda72 said:
Well, assisted living is the way to live when living independently becomes impossible. Help when you need it or want it. No one ever intends to end up in a nursing home, but the homes are full of people.
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Actually, I have worked in a nursing home and some of the residents DO enjoy living there. Women enjoy not having responsibility for domestic chores and men enjoy having people fussing over them.
 
Rosemarie said:
Actually, I have worked in a nursing home and some of the residents DO enjoy living there. Women enjoy not having responsibility for domestic chores and men enjoy having people fussing over them.
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There are huge differences between assisted living residences, memory care/Alzheimer's AL facilities, short-term skilled nursing rehab centers, and long-term nursing homes. I saw many people who were quite happy and well socialized in assisted living, and many who had short, successful stints in short-term PT, OT and other rehab after broken hips, bad falls, strokes, etc.

Long term nursing homes are another story altogether. Ugh. They're basically warehouses for those unable to care for themselves.
 
I've made it very clear to my three grown kids not to ever put me in one unless absolutely necessary and with a hidden camera in the room to monitor my care, or possible abuse, to stay on top of things.....home health care is what I'd shoot for first.
 
My friend's husband had a stroke about 3 years ago. She is in her 70s. She fought hard to get help and get him out of hospital. She gets him up , dresses him, makes dinner etc and puts him to bed. She had many nights getting up and changing bed sheets. He is unable to speak or has sometimes said just a few words. She is allowed a care worker for 4 hours a week. Today she said she's just waiting to die and that she has no life and just want's to go to bed to sleep and not wake up but can't because she has to put her husband to bed. Given what most of you have said about nursing homes, do you have an opinion or any advice I can offer her. I would not want to go in a home myself and understand that she does not want her husband to be in a home but she may start to get ill herself and have no option. She has 2 children but they seem occupied with their lives. I guess I'm her listener and have been for a number of years and hopefully when she's talked it out she can carry on for another day. But the situation with her husband will not get better. Would you suggest a nursing home if one was unable to cope with their o/h if help was limited and one was getting ill trying to cope? Of course the virus situation may not give her an option even if one was available:unsure: Hope I didn't go too off piste ☺ oh and I wouldn't go in a nursing home, worked in them when I was a youngster and the lack of stimulation and care for those in the homes, council or private, was certainly not up to my standards and the phrase 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you' skipped them by.
 
When I see pictures of care homes, they show a large room where the residents are sitting together doing jigsaws or watching tv. That would be absolute hell for a loner like me. If I can't have my own sitting room and be left alone to do as I please, I'd rather be dead.
 
Rosemarie said:
When I see pictures of care homes, they show a large room where the residents are sitting together doing jigsaws or watching tv. That would be absolute hell for a loner like me. If I can't have my own sitting room and be left alone to do as I please, I'd rather be dead.
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In modern assisted living facilities, residents have their own sitting room areas within their apartments.
 
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