Writing Your Own Obituary

Jules

Jules

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Would you write your own obituary? Or at least prep the basics so whoever prepares it gets the facts right? There’s likely a lot my family don’t know.

Would you consider putting together some thoughts to be posted on online sites like this. Your family could have a list of forums that are significant to you and you’d just like to say goodbye. No real names would be needed.
 
Jules said:
Would you write your own obituary? Or at least prep the basics so whoever prepares it gets the facts right? There’s likely a lot my family don’t know.

Would you consider putting together some thoughts to be posted on online sites like this. Your family could have a list of forums that are significant to you and you’d just like to say goodbye. No real names would be needed.
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Both ideas sound good to me.
 
Jules said:
Would you write your own obituary? Or at least prep the basics so whoever prepares it gets the facts right? There’s likely a lot my family don’t know.

Would you consider putting together some thoughts to be posted on online sites like this. Your family could have a list of forums that are significant to you and you’d just like to say goodbye. No real names would be needed.
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I , personally , like the idea.
 
I dont know about my Obit but I have written down much of my very varied life across two continents and over a dozen residences and a wide variety of 'jobs'. I add to it every so often with stuff from the distant past that I had forgotten but suddenly spring in to my mind from nowhere, I an never quite sure if I am remembering it correctly, embellishing it, or dreaming it.
It will however make interesting reading for some distant relation in the future.........
 
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My obituary has not been written. I do have a living will so I suppose the beneficiary will have some sort of write up when I go. What matters to me most is that my funeral with all of the fixings are paid for including the opening and closing of my grave. No one will have to worry about my funeral (I'm actually just having graveside rites and no funeral).
 
I've been planning to write my own obituary, probably for a decade now. My husband and I discussed doing ours and he's been gone for over 7 years. One of the most stressful things I had to do when my parents passed was to write their obituaries. One wants to honor their loved ones, list their accomplishments and certainly obituaries should be grammatically correct I've seen some where the wording was terrible). It can be hard to gather pertinent, interesting facts about a person's life to include in an obituary. Some things I knew about my parents, some things I had to ask. I'm sure my son doesn't know everything about me that could be included.

Then there's the task of listing the pre-deceased and close relatives that are still living. Sometimes special friends or god children are included. Add to that, putting it all together in a cohesive manner, while not making it too long....I think writing it myself would be one less thing my son would have to worry about doing.

Like @Teacher Terry's mother, my mom pre-paid for her funeral and she was going in the double grave she and my father, who passed before her, had purchased.
 
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I would like words said at my funeral to come from my children and grandchildren. They will know little of my early life other than what I have told them. My daughter knows my curriculae vitae pretty well and can supply details of my early life, schooling and service to the community. I'll leave it up to the living to decide how I should be remembered.

The church service should be tightly scripted but afterwards, at my wake at a local reception room in a tavern, there will be opportunity for many more people to speak of me, either chatting in small groups or via the available microphone.

This is how we farewelled Hubby nearly 2 years ago and I was very pleased with both parts of his send off. I would like something similar but have not demanded anything. I trust my loved ones to honour me as they see fit.
 
My eldest son wrote the Obituary for his father. It was very well written, and he put in many funny moments in my husband's life. Things I never thought he would remember. Everybody had a good laugh, and that's what my husband would have wanted.
I don't want anything airy fairy for mine. They know I had a great sense of humour and hope it will be a happy occasion.
 
My dad had written loads of stuff online, on a geneology site from the place where he had lived, about the family and them, lots of details about their lives and my sister used it for her talk.
 
I've already selected a photo and I've written my own obituary, both of which will only appear on the website of the funeral home that holds my prepaid contract. Included in my contract are notarized instructions restricting my family or successors from making any changes, and prohibiting any kind of memorial or other services.
 
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There won't be a public funeral for me, thus no obituary needed.
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Same for me, family scattered all over the country, all have pets to have someone watch, etc, etc
Divide my ashes amongst the 3 sons and spread them in a place that is special to them, near them.
The most treasured places in my life was anywhere I could see my son's faces, so the above suits me fine.
They all have their own memories and takes on me, no sense to get them fighting over not agreeing What Mom was or wasn't. :ROFLMAO:
 
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