You Can Call Me Sweetie, Darling. Love, Hunny Bun, Chuck, Scouser or Handsome If You Want!!!

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boozercruiser

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As we all know, political correctness is slowly but surely taking over.
But the below article in the UK Daily Mail takes it to a new level,
and has made my blood pressure go up!!!
SO.
What do YOU think about this then?:mad::mad::mad:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...re-home-staff-told-patronising-demeaning.html


Don't call residents sweetie or darling, care home staff are told - because they are 'patronising and demeaning'


  • Workers have been reprimanded for calling residents affectionate names
  • Staff hit back at the ticking off, saying the residents like the informal terms
  • But officials from Care Quality Commission have insisted terms aren't used
 

Typical PC lunacy. Some years ago when I was in Minnesota, a colleague from Yorkshire was reported for sexual harrassment by an american female for greeting her with 'Morning Love'. She was made as welcome as a bad smell after that.
 
Sorry... but I ABSOLUTELY agree with the article. Seniors are adults... not children.. They should be addressed with the respect they deserve and have earned, even if they appear to be childlike and suffering from dementia. Unless a Senior gives his/her permission to use their first name or another endearing term, it should not be used. Until that time they should be addressed as Mr. or Mrs.. X. This comes after many years of nursing experience.. I would never demean a Senior, nor would I want to be addressed as sweetie, honey, or baby cakes.. It's VERY impolite.
 

I agree with the article that it is demeaning, disrespectful and inappropriate. We do not address our work colleagues that way nor would we like to be addressed this way.
 
Shalimar said:
I agree with those posters who stated how inappropriate these terms are.
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That is fair enough Shalimar, and I appreciate and understand opposing views of course.
However, coming from Liverpool where we are regarded as Scousers, most of us would say to someone of any age.
Hello Love, hello Sweetie, and I have even had a Hello Handsome would you believe.:playful:

Having recently been in Hospital for around three weeks due to a Heart Operation, the nurses in general would refer to me roughly along the above terms.
Some would just say "Hello Kenny".

Hello Mr. Thain doesn't really do it for me.:D
 
boozercruiser said:
That is fair enough Shalimar, and I appreciate and understand opposing views of course.
However, coming from Liverpool where we are regarded as Scousers, most of us would say to someone of any age.
Hello Love, hello Sweetie, and I have even had a Hello Handsome would you believe.:playful:

Having recently been in Hospital for around three weeks due to a Heart Operation, the nurses in general would refer to me roughly along the above terms.
Some would just say "Hello Kenny".

Hello Mr. Thain doesn't really do it for me.:D
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I'm sure that you gave your permission for them to use other forms of address..? Like saying... "Please call me such and such" If you did not, it was unprofessional IMO

That said.. I do know that "hello love" is a very common form of address in England and that nothing is thought of it.
 
Well, would another man say 'hello love' or 'hello sweetheart' to another male? It's usually said to one who is 'beneath' them in some way, usually a member of the opposite sex of women to women. I find it ingratiating and although I get it from older people, I don't feel the need to say it to anyone.
 
I have been called "dear" and "sweetie" by much younger people... I don't always correct them, but it does bother me.. Sometimes I will say, "my name is Mrs.XYZ... If I am in a particularly ornery mood I will say. "I'm not your Dear... and trust me... I'm far from sweet"..
 
Such idiocy...it totally depends on who you're addressing and the situation. I'm fond of " Darlin'" and " Son" as in " Son, I understand exactly what you're trying to say there". I'm happy to hear sweetie etc etc, I think many people are. We have a greatly mixed population at work. For women who have been there a long time they add Miss to your first name as a sign of respect. Then the Latinos are fond of " Mami", my all time favorite from the young and flirty " Smile Mami, it makes you beautiful"...thank you I'll grin the rest of the day.
 
Again... you are talking about people you are familiar with. They are co-workers.. You are with them all day. If you didn't correct them the very first time, then that is implied consent to be addressed that way.

Still.. I see nothing "cute" about a grown person being referred to as "sweetie" by a much younger person.. It's demeaning... and I simply do not like to be addressed like one would a child.
 
We have customers all flirty and chatty too and it's sweet. Ask for my phone number and you've crossed the line though. You know what annoys me are jobs where they expect you to address managers by Mr or Mrs. Whathaveyou and they call those under them by first name. Maybe it's a generation thing but I'm not addressing someone twenty years younger as MIster...it's demeaning and meaningless.
 
:DI am rather surprised that the majority of people do not appear to agree with me on this.
But for me, just so long as the person is not being patronising, or saying it in a demeaning way then I stand by my thread title.
I find that Most people say that in a friendly manner though.
And I can tell which is which!:D
Oh! yes I can! :playful:

It is a little like me sticking my tongue out there in a cheeky, friendly way.
But someone, somewhere will take offence at it.
Sorry about that! :)
 
fureverywhere said:
We have customers all flirty and chatty too and it's sweet. Ask for my phone number and you've crossed the line though. You know what annoys me are jobs where they expect you to address managers by Mr or Mrs. Whathaveyou and they call those under them by first name. Maybe it's a generation thing but I'm not addressing someone twenty years younger as MIster...it's demeaning and meaningless.
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I agree with this.. I have never been in a work situation where people didn't address each other by their first names... EXCEPT for the docs.. they are always addressed as doctor so and so... even when they are what we older nurses love to call.. "pups". hahahahahaha
 
Last year when I visited Cornwall, I thought it was charming that every salesperson, server, etc. that I encountered greeted me with "Hello, luv." They just said it automatically, to everyone.
 
"However, coming from Liverpool where we are regarded as Scousers,"

Most scousers have always called me "'la", though there was one young lass who called me sweetheart, but that's outside the scope of this thread!

In Cornwall, of course, "my loverr" is standard between al age groups regardless of sex, just as in Devon "me 'andsome" is the normal mode of address.

One cannot really take offence in Derbyshire at being called "me duck"!
 
Laurie said:
"However, coming from Liverpool where we are regarded as Scousers,"

Most scousers have always called me "'la", though there was one young lass who called me sweetheart, but that's outside the scope of this thread!

In Cornwall, of course, "my loverr" is standard between al age groups regardless of sex, just as in Devon "me 'andsome" is the normal mode of address.

One cannot really take offence in Derbyshire at being called "me duck"!
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Exactly Laurie.
You have said that very well.

And I repeat...

Just so long as the person is not being patronising, or saying it in a demeaning way then I stand by my thread title.
I find that Most people say that in a friendly manner though.
And I can tell which is which!:D
Oh! yes I can! :playful:

It is a little like me sticking my tongue out there in a cheeky, friendly way.
But someone, somewhere will take offence at it.
Sorry about that! :)
 
It all depends on where you are and who you are. In this country (Canada) in the corporate workplace of a large city, no one calls the CEO or manager luv or sweetie or honey, nor do they address them as Mr or Mrs. anymore - mostly first name basis these days. The culture is casual but respectful. No one would dream of addressing their boss or manager with a "hiya sweetie, how's handsome doing today?" If the CEO comes up to a female employer and says, "hiya honey bun, how's my little sweetie", it sounds kind of like sexual harassment and patronizing at the least. You wouldn't go in to your bank manager for a loan and address them with hello baby cakes, would you?

Our grocery cashiers also do not generally address the customers by pet names such as dearie, darling, honey, etc. I think it would be inappropriate for a 20 year old grocery cashier addressing customers this way. However, I don't mind at all if my geriatric neighbor calls me dear.

But it sounds like over where the OP is located, my guess its a small village where people know each other, the barmaid at the local pub might well call customers ducky, or luv or whatever. Shopping at the local grocery store might be the same. That is customary and acceptable there.
 
Cookie said:
It all depends on where you are and who you are. In this country (Canada) in the corporate workplace of a large city, no one calls the CEO or manager luv or sweetie or honey, nor do they address them as Mr or Mrs. anymore - mostly first name basis these days. The culture is casual but respectful. No one would dream of addressing their boss or manager with a "hiya sweetie, how's handsome doing today?" If the CEO comes up to a female employer and says, "hiya honey bun, how's my little sweetie", it sounds kind of like sexual harassment and patronizing at the least. You wouldn't go in to your bank manager for a loan and address them with hello baby cakes, would you?

Our grocery cashiers also do not generally address the customers by pet names such as dearie, darling, honey, etc. I think it would be inappropriate for a 20 year old grocery cashier addressing customers this way. However, I don't mind at all if my geriatric neighbor calls me dear.

But it sounds like over where the OP is located, my guess its a small village where people know each other, the barmaid at the local pub might well call customers ducky, or luv or whatever. Shopping at the local grocery store might be the same. That is customary and acceptable there.
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Hello Cookie. (Sounds nice):D
Actually I live in Rhos On Sea, and very near Llandudno, which are very lovely and very busy seaside resorts in North Wales. We have a lovely promenade right opposite us, plus a lovely beach.

And if you visit the UK anytime, you would be welcome to come and stay with us.
Have no fear, I would only refer to you by your proper name.
Like perhaps, Hello Cookie!:cool::D
We have a lovely 2 bedroom ground floor apartment, just across from the promenade, with sea views out of the patio door, and garden.

Obviously in some of the situations one would NOT call people by my examples.
But out and about, particularly with anyone I know, then I like it if people say any of the above endearments.
 
I greet most customers with " Heyhowyadoin'?", it's a regional thing...Northern Soprano;)
 

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