You Can Call Me Sweetie, Darling. Love, Hunny Bun, Chuck, Scouser or Handsome If You Want!!!

Thanks, Boozer, your locale sounds very nice. I might just take you up on that visit. :)

Over here, we greet each other simply with "Hi, Howzitgoin'? = Tronna Canuckian
 
Australians have solved this vexing problem. We have decided that is appropriate to address anyone in any situation with a simple G'day mate.
 

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Here in North Florida it is very southern, people call each other honey, sweety, hon (even the patients who don't seem to mind). I on the other hand am from south Florida which is more northern. Are you with me? I don't like to be called hon, sweety, baby etc. I only call my children and hubby terms of endearment. I don't call my patients these things either, but that is because I would be uncomfortable doing it. I guess it is as regional and cultural as an accent.
 
I'm not even going to say what I want. I'm mostly in agreement with the original poster though.

These inspectors...
 
I find it condescending and disrespectful, I don't like it at all. If you can't pronounce a senior's last name, ask if you can call them by their first name, which many prefer anyway.

In regular life, I get very irritated if some man calls me anything but Linda. (Except for the dude I've been sleeping with for the last 51 years. :) I don't like to be called Mrs. so and so except by people who don't know me at all. I don't say anything, but I also feel irritated when someone calls me "Miss Linda". The medical assistant at our primary care Dr does that, but I let it go since I like her and I don't want to offend her.
 
In recent times I've noticed a tendency of some younger female retail employees to call old gents like myself "hon". I don't mind, don't feel disrespected, but yea- I realize it's a bit patronizing....but I don't care.
 
tnthomas said:
In recent times I've noticed a tendency of some younger female retail employees to call old gents like myself "hon". I don't mind, don't feel disrespected, but yea- I realize it's a bit patronizing....but I don't care.
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tnt, you sound like my husband. He doesn't care if the clerks, hair dressers or waitresses call him hon or sweetie or the like. He never calls them endearments back though, he refers to them as miss usually unless he knows the hair dressers name, which sometimes we do.
 
I spent a very worrying six hours in Emergency with lots of people looking at my heart condition. It is was rather a frightening time for me. I was released about five o'clock.

The next morning, a Patient Liaison Officer called me at home, and having established my identity, asked, 'How are you feeling, Love?'
I found that so comforting, so caring.

I frequently use the words 'Love', 'Chuck' and 'Pet' when I am talking to the fairer sex, and have yet to be told off for being disrespectful.
 
Hanfonius said:
I spent a very worrying six hours in Emergency with lots of people looking at my heart condition. It is was rather a frightening time for me. I was released about five o'clock.

The next morning, a Patient Liaison Officer called me at home, and having established my identity, asked, 'How are you feeling, Love?'
I found that so comforting, so caring.

I frequently use the words 'Love', 'Chuck' and 'Pet' when I am talking to the fairer sex, and have yet to be told off for being disrespectful.
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And that is exactly my feelings Hanf.
Exactly.

I do hope that your heart problem has settled down and that you are alright now.

O.K. Sweetie! :D

Kenny.
 
When I was traveling through the American South I was constantly called "Honey" or "Sugar" by waitresses, clerks and even women whom I randomly passed on the sidewalks.

Didn't bother me a bit.

Of course, I was in my mid-twenties at the time.

Now? I don't care what they call me, but then I'm a monk, so I rarely encounter women at all these days. :chargrined:
 
I have been a high school basketball referee and a college baseball umpire for almost 40 years, so I have learned to have thick skin. Calling me an endearing name is not insulting or disrespectful to me and in fact, I sort of like it. Dr. Joyce Brothers once said that people who call others by using endearing terms is sometimes classified as innocent flirtations. Calling me anything else is just immature behavior. When I read people's posts on this forum calling a politician, cop or others an idiot or stupid, I often wonder why it's necessary to refer to people in that light. I don't like hearing people calling others rude names, but I could care less what people call me. Many years ago, my mother taught me to live by the ode, "Sticks and stones (you know the rest).

Just because someone calls me a jerk does not mean that I am one. On the other hand, if someone calls me Sweetie and as long as it's a female, I am OK with it. Name calling has always been one of the things in life that I detest. It's not necessary and it tells me a lot about the type of person I am dealing with. I once had a passenger refer to one of the flight attendants as "that stupid idiot of a stewardess blah, blah, blah." First, never call a flight attendant a stewardess. They DON'T like it. They tell me it makes them feel like a subservient and not part of the flight crew. In this case, the passenger was really upset because the flight attendant would not allow him up to use the lavatory during severe turbulence. I had the seat belt sign off for over an hour and had just turned it on when the passenger decided that he now had to use the facilities. (I even warned the passengers that we were expecting turbulence in about 10 minutes and the seat belt sign would be turned on.)

It's like what Pee Wee Herman said in the movie, "Pee Wee's Big Adventure" when he was being called names by the obese kid that stole his bike, "I know you are, but what am I?"
 
I don't like females calling me, Sugar, Hon, etc., but I don't say anything. I also don't like people calling me Miss AprilSun. For some reason, it makes me feel so old or maybe I should say, it reminds me of how old I really am. For whatever reason, I still don't like it.
 
venus said:
Depends on how well you know that particular person and the kind of relationship between you.
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This is quite right Venus.
As you and I have a lovely kind of relationship between us, and particularly as we met on a Forum Meeting,
I know that I can call you...

Sweetie Pie, Darling, Love, Hunny Bunny, Chuck, and say that you are pretty If I Want to!

So please remember that...


So there! :love_heart:
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When I was still in the military a subordinate once called me "mate" when he answered the phone.

God, that was a good morning.

Cleared my liver for a couple of days!

My own staff, who were familiar with my idiosyncrasies, couldn't work for about twenty minutes, they were laughing so much!
 
I have been called a lot of names over the years. Some are nice and some are not so nice.
 
Shalimar said:
I agree with those posters who stated how inappropriate these terms are.
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O.k., I'll link (reply) from yours- 100% in agreement with you.
And the 'trend' that's been spreading for quite a few years of store clerks, etc., addressing customers (any age/gender) that way is also inappropriate.

On the seniors/elderly, though, I've noticed location has a lot to do with it- when I took CNA classes in the south, for example, I thought it was horrible that they considered it acceptable to ask elderly folks 'Do you want to go wee-wee in the bottle?' Treating elderly people like infants is awful. It has nothing to do with 'PC,' it's just a matter of manners and respect.
 

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