I don't get it. That can be somewhat solved by video chatting with someone that appeals to you before meeting in person. Just about all devices these days come with a camera and microphone. And chatting that way can reveal better what each person is really like.
This. And if they decline, that’s a deal breaker right there.
I weeded out a couple of potentials after several weeks of chatting with them because they wouldn’t send me a selfie. (Another deal breaker for me) if their profile Pic was so out of date that they didn’t want me to see a current pic of them them then hmmm...nope.
A couple claimed ineptness with cell phones/didn’t have one/didn’t know how. Riiiight.
The fact that you’re on the computer to access the dating site to begin with shows some facility. Get a friend to take a pic of you. Go to a photo booth and post that one. Make the effort. Otherwise nope.
I was also leery of only one photo. I posted many, doing what I loved, in a variety of different venues and settings, some quite unflattering.
Full disclosure, y’know? The one time I broke that rule, AND the one about a selfie first, I was shocked at the disconnect between picture and real life. At least a 100 pounds of disconnect.
The gentleman looked somewhat overweight in his picture but that didn’t bother me. Even all that extra weight wouldn’t have bothered me visually but he had trouble with mobility as a result and was largely housebound. You know me well enough here now that you know I’m very active. While it wasn’t imperative that I be with someone who did everything I did, I also did not want to have them living life 100% vicariously through me. That is actually what happened. I decided to date the man because I had more in common with him than anyone else in my entire life. That part was wonderful! But when it came right down to it, a little while in, I realized that I did not want to go out and do everything I do by myself, then come back and sit on the couch and recount it all to him for his enjoyment. That just wasn’t working for me.
It was after that that I decided no more dating somebody with just a single profile pic, and who wouldn’t send me at least one selfie or more current one.