Dating After 50

I used to belong to several dating sites and for the most part I really enjoyed them. Now, I just feel like I'm a bit too old to join but I'd still like to try but I don't know which sites are reputable. Most of the men I met, meaning messaged, were quite pleasant and good for companionship.
 

Ruthanne said:
I was chatting with a man at a dating site and I guess I took too long, in his opinion, to try to get to know him. He quit chatting with me. I find many of the guys who contact me want to go off the site right away. The site warns not to do go off the site with the person too quickly.

So, now I am chatting with 3 other guys there trying to get to know them and decide if I want to meet any of them.

I want to meet someone but am not desperate and do okay on my own, too.

Is anyone else dating or trying to date at this age?
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Greeting 😎
It is said that boys will be boys and middle are men too, but a gentleman is gentle with words and a lady is a virtue ♥
 
My experience with online dating sites is very limited, but was not pleasant. One of my friends talked me into signing up for Match dot com a year or so ago since he met his sweetie on there, and because I haven't met any people (men or women) to pal around with since moving back home after living out of state for 30+ years. I still have casual acquaintances and old H.S. mates, but most of them are married and pretty much have all of the friends they are interested in having at this point.

Who knew it would be so difficult to meet people once you are retired??? Anyway, after much nagging from my friend, I signed up. What a disaster/joke/unpleasant experience it was for the whole month I stayed active. I was contacted quite a few times - by guys half my age wanting to "experience a good looking cougar" (sorry, fellas, I raised my boys and don't want that job again); by guys who lived across country who thought if I really loved them, I'd move to where they are (love them? I didn't even know them and, besides, I made it clear in my profile I was not looking for marriage or cohabitation). Some guys made crude and rude sexual comments. Others wanted personal information I'm not willing to share (finances, etc.). A few were actually very nice guys but with whom I had not one thing in common. I actually went out with one guy one time. He was perfectly nice but he still had children at home (if I want to hang out with children, it will be my own and my grandkids), a long story about a wife who had committed suicide (TMI), and oh. . .we had nothing in common. After that experience, I signed off.
 

Marlene said:
My experience with online dating sites is very limited, but was not pleasant. One of my friends talked me into signing up for Match dot com a year or so ago since he met his sweetie on there, and because I haven't met any people (men or women) to pal around with since moving back home after living out of state for 30+ years. I still have casual acquaintances and old H.S. mates, but most of them are married and pretty much have all of the friends they are interested in having at this point.

Who knew it would be so difficult to meet people once you are retired??? Anyway, after much nagging from my friend, I signed up. What a disaster/joke/unpleasant experience it was for the whole month I stayed active. I was contacted quite a few times - by guys half my age wanting to "experience a good looking cougar" (sorry, fellas, I raised my boys and don't want that job again); by guys who lived across country who thought if I really loved them, I'd move to where they are (love them? I didn't even know them and, besides, I made it clear in my profile I was not looking for marriage or cohabitation). Some guys made crude and rude ****** comments. Others wanted personal information I'm not willing to share (finances, etc.). A few were actually very nice guys but with whom I had not one thing in common. I actually went out with one guy one time. He was perfectly nice but he still had children at home (if I want to hang out with children, it will be my own and my grandkids), a long story about a wife who had committed suicide (TMI), and oh. . .we had nothing in common. After that experience, I signed off.
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Greeting 😊
in life as in our lives, the thing we did, or the things that we can't change, along beautiful life passing away, but many more to come, only if we reflect within ourselves, I should bring back that was good in my life, but there is the obstacle of life, there are new challenges, look up see the world in open eyes, don't look back at pass, but bring back those things that were good to me, if something is missing only you know retirement is when you only give up, meet the new challenges of retirement, be free, love all, so dating is not for me, but if I was interested, it,s man I would want be with, but if you loved only one, then I say lookup
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I've belonged to probably 5 different dating sites..not at the same time! But, I agree there are some real creeps out there but it only takes a minute to weed them out. I've said no to someone who didn't have good grammar. Bottom line, after being on these sites I dated about 4 men, all very nice. I met them at a restaurant, after telling my neighbors where I was going to be, and let my date know that.
I've met a lot of nice men on dating sites but no one that I really clicked with. I would do it again if they just would not ask my age.
 
Marlene said:
My experience with online dating sites is very limited, but was not pleasant. One of my friends talked me into signing up for Match dot com a year or so ago since he met his sweetie on there, and because I haven't met any people (men or women) to pal around with since moving back home after living out of state for 30+ years. I still have casual acquaintances and old H.S. mates, but most of them are married and pretty much have all of the friends they are interested in having at this point.

Who knew it would be so difficult to meet people once you are retired??? Anyway, after much nagging from my friend, I signed up. What a disaster/joke/unpleasant experience it was for the whole month I stayed active. I was contacted quite a few times - by guys half my age wanting to "experience a good looking cougar" (sorry, fellas, I raised my boys and don't want that job again); by guys who lived across country who thought if I really loved them, I'd move to where they are (love them? I didn't even know them and, besides, I made it clear in my profile I was not looking for marriage or cohabitation). Some guys made crude and rude ****** comments. Others wanted personal information I'm not willing to share (finances, etc.). A few were actually very nice guys but with whom I had not one thing in common. I actually went out with one guy one time. He was perfectly nice but he still had children at home (if I want to hang out with children, it will be my own and my grandkids), a long story about a wife who had committed suicide (TMI), and oh. . .we had nothing in common. After that experience, I signed off.
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Marlene, I don't have anything to add to his discussion but this remark of yours, regarding guys half your age, made me chuckle - -"(sorry, fellas, I raised my boys and don't want that job again)".
BTW, I met my wife on a blind date, both of us were teens at the time. This was back in 1953 and we're looking forward to our 64th wedding anniversary next month.😉
 
DaveA said:
Marlene, I don't have anything to add to his discussion but this remark of yours, regarding guys half your age, made me chuckle - -"(sorry, fellas, I raised my boys and don't want that job again)".
BTW, I met my wife on a blind date, both of us were teens at the time. This was back in 1953 and we're looking forward to our 64th wedding anniversary next month.😉
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Wow. Congratulations. That is an amazing milestone
 
The trouble with dating after 50 is that both sides are carrying a lot of baggage. When you're young you're a blank slate and also very naive. After 50, if you're looking that means that you have had past relationships (widow, divorced, lots of failed relationships), you have kids from other relationships, you worry about golddiggers, and other hangups. I quit looking when I was 59 after a disastrous short term dating experience and decided I was too old and too much of a loner to want to have to share and compromise.
 
katlupe said:
I have never used a dating site. Truthfully, when I left my husband, I did not want another one. So I was not looking. I am in a relationship with someone I went to kindergarten through 4th grade with and reconnected on Facebook. Just friends in the beginning. It grew from there.
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This is so adorable. ❤️
 
kaemicha said:
I used to belong to several dating sites and for the most part I really enjoyed them. Now, I just feel like I'm a bit too old to join but I'd still like to try but I don't know which sites are reputable. Most of the men I met, meaning messaged, were quite pleasant and good for companionship.
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If I found myself Single.... I would be looking for companionship. Never know what the future holds but I don't think I will marry again.
 
Butterfly said:
I don't need all that drama in my life. I have no desire to cater to, cook for or clean up after anyone other than myself ever again. Period.
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Me either.
~Ruthanne: you asked about dating. I'm 54. Been married and divorced twice. None of my relationships prior to or after have ever worked out. Me and men just don't get along. Most of them just want maids with benefits. I no longer give the milk away for free, the cow is not for sale, the barn is closed. LOL! Seriously, I'm so much better off without a man. Isn't there any singles where you live that you can meet in person? I would be wary of the dating site men. Most have ulterior motives. After the story they did yrs ago about the gals that went on this dating site and got killed by the man and put in a storage locker inside 55 gal drums...I never went near a dating site again. I only had one date off this one and it was a bomb. I'm more interested in living my life than dealing with the headache of a relationship. I'm finally free to be me and I love it. I get it if you're lonesome. But, I would think there would be a safer way to meet men. :sneaky:
 
Senior Bachelor will be on ABC soon. I can’t wait to watch this train derailment! Oh my, talk about so many different facets for issues. Both sides adult children, grandkids, homes.

If something ever happened to my wife I would have zero desire.

Is saddens me when I see people so insecure and desperate to find someone immediately after a divorce or death. Gee, relax, get to know yourself, enjoy some time alone.
 
Ruthanne: Someone said you were only 60? Good grief! If you're that young, I say go for it too! There is no way I could ever go through the pain of losing my love through death again, and I'm pretty old, but 60 is . . You're just a baby! At that age, you should have a big,hunky man in your life!
This is a really interesting thread you've started! Some really interesting opinions!
 
Olivia said:
Ruth, don't get discouraged by some of these women here who have given up. I can tell you that not only is there love after 50, but also after seventy. Of course those here who have given responses of some sort tells me that their marriages weren't so great or are not that sweet anymore. Or maybe they just don't care for sex anymore.

C'est la vie. Go by what you want and not what old women tell you. From what I recall, you are not even 60 or a little past i t. I just had to say this because of all the other negativity posted in this thread.

Ruth, go for it!
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I feel the same way. We have to go through a few frogs before we find a Prince...lol. I understand at our age putting in the work can be a bit discouraging and tiresome but may be well worth it. It's all in what we want and the steps we take to get it. At my age, God forbid anything happen to my hubby... I would put in the work to find a companion. I know the type of man I want and don't want. I would ask him questions to find out what he is looking for in a relatiionship. Getting too old for guessing games.. lets be upfront. I do not fore see being alone if anything happen to my hubby... To each is own.
 

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