where is AZ Jim?

If you really know him, and you are concerned, I don't think you would be out of line to have the local authorities do a welfare check. I called the police to check on my neighbor. The mail had sort of piled up in his box, he didn't answer the door, and things just didn't look right. I called the police. Turns out he was ok, but his hearing was bad, and he was just not willing to get up and answer the door. I'm not sorry I called. If AZ Jim is truly alone in this world, and has no one to check on him, you should contact the authorities, NOW.
 

CarolfromTX said:
If you really know him, and you are concerned, I don't think you would be out of line to have the local authorities do a welfare check. I called the police to check on my neighbor. The mail had sort of piled up in his box, he didn't answer the door, and things just didn't look right. I called the police. Turns out he was ok, but his hearing was bad, and he was just not willing to get up and answer the door. I'm not sorry I called. If AZ Jim is truly alone in this world, and has no one to check on him, you should contact the authorities, NOW.
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..yes ok...so who does that?...someone who lives close to him, or anyone in the USA ?...someone who has his home address? ..he does have a son, and grandchildren.. but if something has happened to him, I would doubt his son would think to post on here..

We're all very concerned about him, but some of us are in a completely different country, so perhaps if anyone in the USA who knows how to deal with the authorities in AZ would feel comfortable doing it, it would be a relief for all of us..
 

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hollydolly said:
..yes ok...so who does that?...someone who lives close to him, or anyone in the USA ?...someone who has his home address? ..he does have a son, and grandchildren.. but if something has happened to him, I would doubt his son would think to post on here..

We're all very concerned about him, but some of us are in a completely different country, so perhaps if anyone in the USA who knows how to deal with the authorities in AZ would feel comfortable doing it, it would be a relief for all of us..
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When I tried going to the local PD about a similar situation.....They basically said it was none of my business. I asked why, they said well, all you know is his name, and that he lives somewhere here in the village. [about two villages, ten miles from here] They gave me the "once over" . Name , address, show them MY I.D. etc. I know that the cop that followed me out, also copied my tag number as I left the lot.

Good news.... he contacted me,as it turned out, he had met a woman on-line....and was moving out of state, to be with her . He just didn't want everyone knowing his business.
 
It's a delicate balance, between respecting someone's privacy, and caring about them. In this case, he has been talking about being severely depressed since the death of his wife, and I think we would be justified in trying to find out what happened. But how to do it remains a mystery.

This is an Internet-age problem that has probably never come up before. We do know a lot about the regulars on these forums, at least what they choose to say about themselves. But we don't really have any way of reaching each other.
 
rgp said:
When I tried going to the local PD about a similar situation.....They basically said it was none of my business. I asked why, they said well, all you know is his name, and that he lives somewhere here in the village. [about two villages, ten miles from here] They gave me the "once over" . Name , address, show them MY I.D. etc. I know that the cop that followed me out, also copied my tag number as I left the lot.
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I imagine that is how any search would go these days, if you aren't a close relative. ... Being 'close friends' with someone for years on the Internet doesn't hold much water in the eyes of the law.
You would end up being the one interigated..
 
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RadishRose said:
Sorry, but I think if Jim wanted to tell us anything he would have. If he hadn't had the time to do so, that's our problem to resolve for ourselves.

Once I felt differently, but I've changed my thinking. I don't believe there is any justification in chasing him down. Just hope for the best and move on. JMO
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I agree.
 
RadishRose said:
Sorry, but I think if Jim wanted to tell us anything he would have. If he hadn't had the time to do so, that's our problem to resolve for ourselves.

Once I felt differently, but I've changed my thinking. I don't believe there is any justification in chasing him down. Just hope for the best and move on. JMO
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And doesn't he live in a mobile home park? Vaguely I remember him saying something about where he lives, didn't he? Would assume if he has neighbors near by someone would have thought to check on him?
 
Somehow, this sad old song popped into my head. It's A Most Peculiar Man, by Simon and Garfunkle.

He was a most peculiar man.
That's what Mrs. Riordan said and she should know;
She lived upstairs from him
She said he was a most peculiar man.
He was a most peculiar man.
He lived all alone within a house,
Within a room, within himself,
A most peculiar man.
He had no friends, he seldom spoke
And no one in turn ever spoke to him,
'Cause he wasn't friendly and he didn't care
And he wasn't like them.
Oh, no! he was a most peculiar man.
He died last Saturday.
He turned on the gas and he went to sleep
With the windows closed so he'd never wake up
To his silent world and his tiny room;
And Mrs. Riordan says he has a brother somewhere
Who should be notified soon.
And all the people said, "What a shame that he's dead,
But wasn't he a most peculiar man?"
 
RadishRose said:
Sorry, but I think if Jim wanted to tell us anything he would have. If he hadn't had the time to do so, that's our problem to resolve for ourselves.

Once I felt differently, but I've changed my thinking. I don't believe there is any justification in chasing him down. Just hope for the best and move on. JMO
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I agree, RadishRose....I am in another Forum...Many people have moved on....Mostly because of face book....I too, hope for the best.....
 
Liberty said:
And doesn't he live in a mobile home park? Vaguely I remember him saying something about where he lives, didn't he? Would assume if he has neighbors near by someone would have thought to check on him?
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NO, that's Pappy... Jim lived in an aparment I think I remember him once talking about a neighbour down the hallway...
 
I'm going to be less active on SF from now on because I've been spending too much time here ''debating'' and have been neglecting stuff and not doing my projects, like clearing out the garage and file cabinet and re-organizing a couple of closets. Am not getting any younger and don't want to punish my daughter having to do it after I'm gone.

So, don't worry about me (those who might care), but I will do, and hope you guys do it too, write a note for my daughter and leave it in my ''In case of death'' envelope in my little safe to come to SF and post that I am gone. I will give her log in info and also have a note to contact my pen pal. This AZ Jim quandary has really bothered me. Hope he's okay, but he was so depressed that I doubt it. šŸ˜æ
 
I'm a wannabe gumshoe, that's why I enjoy watching all the detective shows out there. I was able to find the contact info for Jim yesterday. But, I am deaf and cannot call the cops to make a welfare check, when I need to make a phone call I pay my neighbor to do so. If anyone here is willing to make the call and face the consequences of a possible ''invasion of privacy'' problem, convo me and I will give you the info in private. I hope I'm doing the ethical thing.
 
The thing is, even though I was thinking about Jim, this morning, as I was washing dishes, I believe we're all entitled to our privacy. If he's left because he felt the time was right to do so, so be it.

The preceding being said, I have felt that this forum could come up with a "Checking in" sub-group, wherein those who wish to, could file their personal information with Matrix, including a contact phone number, with a directive to ring them up if they're not posting within X number of days.

Rest assured, I understand that a formalized system like what I just described, would be a logistics nightmare for Matrix, and could easily get into heavy liability issues, so I know it won't actually fly. Even so, an informal system, among ourselves, might be a good thing.
 
treeguy64 said:
The thing is, even though I was thinking about Jim, this morning, as I was washing dishes, I believe we're all entitled to our privacy. If he's left because he felt the time was right to do so, so be it.

The preceding being said, I have felt that this forum could come up with a "Checking in" sub-group, wherein those who wish to, could file their personal information with Matrix, including a contact phone number, with a directive to ring them up if they're not posting within X number of days.

Rest assured, I understand that a formalized system like what I just described, would be a logistics nightmare for Matrix, and could easily get into heavy liability issues, so I know it won't actually fly. Even so, an informal system, among ourselves, might be a good thing.
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I agree with everything you said @treeguy64 , that's why I call it a quandary. You're damned if you care and damned if you, the horrors, ''invade someone's privacy''. As to how to find out without getting anybody in trouble, including Matrix, the best way would be for Matrix to have permission to contact a relative with the express permission of the member to do it and after how long. I don't know if Matrix would be willing to do that, but he's the most logical candidate since he runs the forum. I doubt that we old foggies would be dying en masse, so it shouldn't be that big of a chore. I, myself, plan to leave a note in my "In case of death'' envelope, which I instructed my daughter to check before doing anything else.
 
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