Catlady
Well-known Member
- Location
- Southern AZ
I am 62 and my oldest is 40 (girl) and youngest is 26 (boy). So in all fairness it is a lot of water under the bridge. I can’t speak for any of them and I can assure you they feel confident in their convictions of my wrong doing. I have heard many things they have said but all 3rd party so let me address what I know for a fact. My oldest is very bitter because she never got to know her father. I got pregnant with her when I was in college and he and I were not in a relationship at all. He was the star athlete at a very prestigious college. He had no interest in me or her and in fact had another girlfriend at the time. I was stubborn and would not listen to anyone and insisted on having her. I was even told by the doctors to abort the pregnancy due to medication I was on Dilantin for a seizure disorder I have had since birth. The medication caused birth defects 70% chance. I did not listen and continued the pregnancy and yes she was born with a birth defect. She had surgery to correct the defect but not 100% so she has to live with it. This is true and I may have made the wring decision but it is what it is. This is one of the many issues.
Thanks for your reply. I hope you understand how we the posters were frustrated to help you with no details available about your circumstances.
Re your daughter, I can understand her anger, but you didn't say what her birth defect is. Did not the Dilantin cause defects in the other five children? What did she lie to the others about?