Noticing that people treat me different now that I am older.

Damaged Goods said:
If I'm being too personal, please let me know.

How long was the rehab time after shoulder replacements before you could resume normal activities? I assume that you didn't have both procedures done at the same time? Did you require a support system such as family members to help you through rehab? Thanks.
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I was a bit concerned about the first operation. I elected to have the left one done first so that I could have my dominant hand functional while the other shoulder healed. I was particularly worried about how I would manage pulling up my knickers with just one hand. I needed have worried. The arm was kept in a sling, not because it was non functional, but to protect the tissues that needed to heal from damage due to weight bearing. I could take my arm out of the sling to deal with the knickers and other delicate tasks.

There was no need for any rehab and the exercises were minimal for the first 6 weeks (?). After that they were designed to improve range of movements but I was still not supposed to carry anything heavy until three months after the op. Driving was out until three months too. Then I had the right shoulder done and it was just as easy although not driving was a bit of a pain.

The cut was made from the front and the collar bone has to be dislocated to fix the joint. Sounds horrible but was not painful after the op at all.
 

As long as we're straying off topic, @Warrigal, would you please explain your signature line?
"Henceforth all Australians are required to pronounce USA as ‘oosah’ until the emoo situation improves." I understand the oosah part but no idea about the emoo reference.
 
Aneeda72 said:
I really hate the words some people use to the elderly. It’s ok dear. I am not their dear, or honey or sweetie, or sweetheart.
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There aren't many things that irk the * out of me, but that's one of them.
I don't know about your location, and not sure where you're located, but it's not entirely an elderly thing- when I first started encountering it around 2013, web search brought up a site/forum where individuals of all ages had been complaining about it since 2010, and yesterday another site/forum went back to 2008. It's disrespectful, condescending, and I hate it.
 

Oh, for heaven's sake. With all the turmoil, hate, hunger, homelessness, poverty, injustice and whatever all else in the world, this is what's on folks' minds?

Call me anything, just don't call me late for supper.

Seems like anymore everybody's gotta have something to be offended about. *Is that lady giving me the side eye? *I didn't like the tone of voice that boy used. *I don't care what she meant, I care about the way I heard it.

Let's all wear dark glasses so people can't judge our response by our eyes. Let's all maintain radio silence in fear of being misunderstood, especially being "misunderstood" on purpose so we can be offended yet again.

Chill, people. Chill. Life is too short to spend it waiting for someone to knock the chip off your shoulder.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
Oh, for heaven's sake. With all the turmoil, hate, hunger, homelessness, poverty, injustice and whatever all else in the world, this is what's on folks' minds?

Call me anything, just don't call me late for supper.

Seems like anymore everybody's gotta have something to be offended about. *Is that lady giving me the side eye? *I didn't like the tone of voice that boy used. *I don't care what she meant, I care about the way I heard it.

Let's all wear dark glasses so people can't judge our response by our eyes. Let's all maintain radio silence in fear of being misunderstood, especially being "misunderstood" on purpose so we can be offended yet again.

Chill, people. Chill. Life is too short to spend it waiting for someone to knock the chip off your shoulder.
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“Call me anything, just don’t call me late for supper”. Hmm, my husband’s motto and he is 340 pounds-give or take 5 pounds. And, so you know, I call him a variety of names at the appropriate time-so there is no fear that he will misunderstand me. 😂

It is impossible to offend my husband. I’ve tried. Others have tried. Imagine a world filled with people like him, people who care only for themself. People who cannot be guided by the herd. People who are chill, very very chill. I can assure you, you won’t like such a world of cold blooded people.

On a brighter note, yes, this is what is on our minds are on; because we are sick and tired of the shootings, the looting, the virus, the go to school or don’t, the eat out or don‘t, the no we are out of that item, the constant worry, the economy, the politics, more politics, no money, no place to go, and the endless never ending crap that hits us in the face every dang day.

I am NOT a chill person. I’m old, sick, disabled, in a great deal of pain, and slightly angry most of the time. I have earned the chips on my shoulders. Anyone who wants can try and knock them off. When they get out of the hospital, they can try again. 🤓. I have a somewhat poor attitude.

I am not a doormat. But, hey, have a nice day. 😍
 
I must be living in some Utopia as I rarely run across any of these people that abuse, ignore, and supposedly despise we older folks. If anything, as I've aged I have more offers of assistance, smiles, and what appears to be respect, from younger folks.
And my "old" is now mid 80's, and 20 years ago I didn't get as many offers of help but still got friendly smiles and pleasantries.

Is it possibly a case of the "eye of the beholder" that sees all of these slights and insults? I have no idea but just find that my day to day interactions with folks, young and old, seems to be a lot more pleasant than some.
 
RedSky4u said:
I noticed recently that when I go to the store or doctors office, that people treat me as a senior. I know that I am a senior, but I don't like being treated as one.
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The grocery store employees are just doing their job, so I get a secret chuckle out of their offers to help. My former primary care doctor would talk as if my concerns weren't that important, as(in his view) I was ready to go "feet first" at any minute.
My dentist made a statement several years ago- "now that you're retired you won't need dental insurance". ??? I should have pressed him to explain, as I still want to have teeth!
 
DaveA said:
I must be living in some Utopia as I rarely run across any of these people that abuse, ignore, and supposedly despise we older folks. If anything, as I've aged I have more offers of assistance, smiles, and what appears to be respect, from younger folks.
And my "old" is now mid 80's, and 20 years ago I didn't get as many offers of help but still got friendly smiles and pleasantries.

Is it possibly a case of the "eye of the beholder" that sees all of these slights and insults? I have no idea but just find that my day to day interactions with folks, young and old, seems to be a lot more pleasant than some.
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Well, when I am at Costco, and headed for the exit, I watch all the people race by me, to get to the door first instead of patietly waiting for me, who is first in line, to get there. True, I usually have two speeds, slow and slower. Still it’s rude.

And I have this issue everywhere, as people rush to get to the checkout, movie line, etc. The “eye of the beholder” is me eyeing everyone’s butts as they rush by, 😳
 
When I was much much younger (teen years) cars would stop at the zebra crossing to let me cross. Even now they still stop at the zebra crossing and let me cross. But here's the thing I am not that naive and I know the difference in their decision to stop. Ooh young woman...... awh elderly woman. Who cares I get across the road in safety. (Especially with the number of crazy drivers on the road). Just saying ☺
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
Oh, for heaven's sake. With all the turmoil, hate, hunger, homelessness, poverty, injustice and whatever all else in the world, this is what's on folks' minds?

Call me anything, just don't call me late for supper.

Seems like anymore everybody's gotta have something to be offended about. *Is that lady giving me the side eye? *I didn't like the tone of voice that boy used. *I don't care what she meant, I care about the way I heard it.

Let's all wear dark glasses so people can't judge our response by our eyes. Let's all maintain radio silence in fear of being misunderstood, especially being "misunderstood" on purpose so we can be offended yet again.

Chill, people. Chill. Life is too short to spend it waiting for someone to knock the chip off your shoulder.
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You know what? This is AWESOME!!!! Should we waste our days waiting for better ones? Georgia, You put the petty problems in perspective!
 
Treacle said:
When I was much much younger (teen years) cars would stop at the zebra crossing to let me cross. Even now they still stop at the zebra crossing and let me cross. But here's the thing I am not that naive and I know the difference in their decision to stop. Ooh young woman...... awh elderly woman. Who cares I get across the road in safety. (Especially with the number of crazy drivers on the road). Just saying ☺
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Isn't there a law that requires drivers to stop for pedestrians in a crosswalk? Does it specify ages of the pedestrians?
 
Aneeda72 said:
Well, when I am at Costco, and headed for the exit, I watch all the people race by me, to get to the door first instead of patietly waiting for me, who is first in line, to get there. True, I usually have two speeds, slow and slower. Still it’s rude.

And I have this issue everywhere, as people rush to get to the checkout, movie line, etc. The “eye of the beholder” is me eyeing everyone’s butts as they rush by, 😳
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It makes a difference who gets where first? If somebody else is in a hurry, fine by me. I'm retired. Nowhere to go and all the time in the world to get there. I hardly expect that if I'm moving slowly that everybody else line up behind me and move at least as slowly as I do out of "respect" for my advanced age? What? Makes more sense to me to step aside and make room for somebody who's in a hurry. Maybe it's somebody hurrying to pick up their kids from school, or somebody who needs to make a plane, or...somebody who was waiting to check out and got a call that a loved one was in an accident.

I'm not so important that everybody else should make way for my pokey self.

Folks! Listen up! A hundred years from now, having your feelings hurt today won't make an iota of difference in the overall scheme of things.
 
Yes there is a law @GeorgiaXplant about zebra crossings but If I understand it correctly drivers are not obliged to stop if the person is waiting to cross but must stop if one has a foot on the crossing- it doesn't specify age but I was just trying to keep it light- hearted (except about the crazy drivers). There are so many awful things going on in this world. I try not to worry if people treat me differently now I am older. They will reach a senior age one day!!! Thanks for the question/s. ☺
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
It makes a difference who gets where first? If somebody else is in a hurry, fine by me. I'm retired. Nowhere to go and all the time in the world to get there. I hardly expect that if I'm moving slowly that everybody else line up behind me and move at least as slowly as I do out of "respect" for my advanced age? What? Makes more sense to me to step aside and make room for somebody who's in a hurry. Maybe it's somebody hurrying to pick up their kids from school, or somebody who needs to make a plane, or...somebody who was waiting to check out and got a call that a loved one was in an accident.

I'm not so important that everybody else should make way for my pokey self.

Folks! Listen up! A hundred years from now, having your feelings hurt today won't make an iota of difference in the overall scheme of things.
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My feelings are not hurt. I don’t why you think that’s an issue. In every area that you live in there is an acceptable way to act, and an unacceptable way to act. We are one of the fastest growing states in the union population wise. Lots of the new people lack basic manners apparently.

If you are waiting in line, you do not jump the line. With social distancing, long lines, and people who have a sense of entitlement, manners are forgotten. Sometimes if someone is pratcially running to bypass me, I will make the comment “run, Forrest, run.” 😂

Do I expect people to wait in certain situations, yes. It is expected in my area, perhaps in your area rudeness is more acceptable. Different strokes for different folks, but I have enough self worth to speak up when people are being rude.
 
Warrigal said:
I was a bit concerned about the first operation. I elected to have the left one done first so that I could have my dominant hand functional while the other shoulder healed. I was particularly worried about how I would manage pulling up my knickers with just one hand. I needed have worried. The arm was kept in a sling, not because it was non functional, but to protect the tissues that needed to heal from damage due to weight bearing. I could take my arm out of the sling to deal with the knickers and other delicate tasks.

There was no need for any rehab and the exercises were minimal for the first 6 weeks (?). After that they were designed to improve range of movements but I was still not supposed to carry anything heavy until three months after the op. Driving was out until three months too. Then I had the right shoulder done and it was just as easy although not driving was a bit of a pain.

The cut was made from the front and the collar bone has to be dislocated to fix the joint. Sounds horrible but was not painful after the op at all.
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Thank You.
 
Damaged Goods said:
Flipping the script, I wish that Rite-Aid liquors would treat me like the geezer that I am, but they card everyone -- no exceptions.

I'm 76 Rite Aid, so use a little common sense.
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It’s not Rite Aid, it’s the state. At least in our state, its the state. The fines for not carding are huge, your business can be closed. I dislike when a wal mart employee asks if I am old enough to watch certain movies. But, then again, it’s there job to do so.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
Isn't there a law that requires drivers to stop for pedestrians in a crosswalk? Does it specify ages of the pedestrians?
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Yes there is a law, but in my state if you are crossing illegally and you get hit, too bad for you.

One problem is you press the button to cross a 4 lane road with a right turn lane and a left turn lane. You have 22 seconds to get across before the walk light changes. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Yup, I have never made it.

People just have to wait for my sorry slow self to get to the finish line-curb. 😂
 
Aneeda72 said:
It’s not Rite Aid, it’s the state. At least in our state, its the state. The fines for not carding are huge, your business can be closed. I dislike when a wal mart employee asks if I am old enough to watch certain movies. But, then again, it’s there job to do so.
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In my State, the penalties for selling booze to people under 21 are huge too, but there's no requirement to card everyone. No other liquor store automatically cards everyone.
 
Aneeda72 said:
It’s not Rite Aid, it’s the state. At least in our state, its the state. The fines for not carding are huge, your business can be closed. I dislike when a wal mart employee asks if I am old enough to watch certain movies. But, then again, it’s there job to do so.
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There's no state law here for 'carding' customers, but during the last few years I've been unable to buy tobacco products and vaping products at the local convenience store because they started that policy, and my ID expired long ago. I don't drink alcohol, so that's not an issue for me.
 
StarSong said:
As long as we're straying off topic, @Warrigal, would you please explain your signature line?
"Henceforth all Australians are required to pronounce USA as ‘oosah’ until the emoo situation improves." I understand the oosah part but no idea about the emoo reference.
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We have a large flightless bird down here called the emu. We pronounce it eem-you but Americans invariably pronounce it ee-moo, instantly identifying themselves as tourists. My signature is a quote from a tongue in cheek statement I read recently. Not to be taken seriously.
 
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