Our apartment isn't filthy by no means, but isn't "inspection" clean either...........that is, until we know that someone is coming to visit us. Then, my wife turns into a "white tornado" in cleaning. Since I'm the one retired, and home each day, I try to keep the apartment somewhat clean, but have other things to do besides keeping it "spotless". One thing we BOTH like is, that I'm retired and can do laundry, change bed linens, run dishwasher, vacuum and do some dusting during the day when she is at work. When we both worked, all of this stuff was done on the weekend. To us, weekends are for having fun, not home cleaning, unless it's absolutely necessary to "tidy up" some for visitors.
As far as dishes go, we've had/used a dishwasher in each place we lived at. Since wife doesn't load it very well, she will rinse dishes off and put them on the counter and I will load the dishwasher, run it and empty it.
With ironing, don't do it anymore unless wife has something that is just too wrinkled for her and then.......I will bring out the ironing board/iron and do it. Among things I am good at, ironing is right up there at the top. Heck, I even iron our Halloween costumes to get the wrinkles out!
As far as showering goes, wife takes a shower each morning and I take a shower each night.