Mr. Ed
Life does not deserve my gratitude.
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Seniors share your experience about dating.
There are still some irrepressible people out there, we seem to attract others to them all the time, or others whose charm attracts attention, without them appearing to try, or even when they are showing a reserved side to themselves.Nope. And I don't plan to be. I no longer have any desire for love. All it does is hurt me in the end.
Nope. And I don't plan to be. I no longer have any desire for love. All it does is hurt me in the end.
Nope. None here to socialize with.I'm sorry for your pain. Do you socialize with friends?
Sometimes, though we may think as you do there is no one around, they are just hidden or even hiding from view, or inadvertently we're missing seeing them when they're there in front of our eyes all the time, (though my experience coincides with yours I admit)?Nope. None here to socialize with.
Sorry, but the video says it's unavailable. Anyways, I'm not in a new relationship. With covid on the surge now it's way too scary for me to fathom.
Seniors share your experience about dating.
I'm sorry for your pain. Do you socialize with friends?
who's the question for?MarciKS said:
Nope. And I don't plan to be. I no longer have any desire for love. All it does is hurt me in the end.
Mr. Ed said:
I'm sorry for your pain. Do you socialize with friends?
Grahamg wrote:
Can I just ask how you are described by your friends?
(apologies, I cant manage the quotes very efficiently I'm afraid, but I hope you can follow why I've mangled them? )
It's never anyone else's fault is it?Well, MarciKS, sometimes, and I do mean "sometimes", a person has to look in the mirror at themselves to understand why they get hurt in a relationship too much. Before marring for the 3rd time, I was single/divorced for 22 years and hated it. I had to figure out what I was doing wrong, when it came to relationships. Like the old saying goes, "it takes two to Tango" and I was simply picking the wrong women to have a relationship with. That is, until I was 49 and met my wife.
A relationship takes two. Both can be at fault. The man, or woman, just has to pick the "right" person. A person just doesn't have to accept things they don't want to accept for the other person.It's never anyone else's fault is it?
You're basically talking about my entire life. LOLA relationship takes two. Both can be at fault. The man, or woman, just has to pick the "right" person. A person just doesn't have to accept things they don't want to accept for the other person.
Well, you probably, but all of us sometimes learn something when good friends try to give us a hint about where we might want to think about our lives, based on their experience.who's the question for?
well that's just it...i don't get the luxury of an explanation. i get criticized for everything and anything so i kinda gave up.Well, you probably, but all of us sometimes learn something when good friends try to give us a hint about where we might want to think about our lives, based on their experience.
My friends realise how disorganised, long winded, though well intentioned I am, but I'm probably held back by those first two characteristics.
Another aspect I get criticised about sometimes is not concerning myself too much about my appearance, though I can scrub up fairly well occasionally, (my dad got the same criticism from my mum, and she said he didn't think people could see him, and I think I've got the same delusion!).
Ok, MarciKS, I really don't understand/get what I highlighted in red. Could you somehow explain.well that's just it...i don't get the luxury of an explanation. i get criticized for everything and anything so i kinda gave up.
that was in response to something graham asked earlier. did i not quote it?Ok, MarciKS, I really don't understand/get what I highlighted in red. Could you somehow explain.
In response or whatever, you did write it in Post #18.that was in response to something graham asked earlier. did i not quote it?
graham asked what my friends say about me (as in do they tell me what i'm doing wrong). i told him i don't get an explanation as to why they abandon me they just do. most of the time i get criticized for pretty much anything and everything i say and or do so i have basically given up trying. it's a tiresome effort to be what everyone wants you to be instead of being able to be free to be yourself.In response or whatever, you did write it in Post #18.
Hi Katlupe: You know I have read a few books on seniors dating over the last few months. I just want to tell you that your & Sonny's relationship is not uncommon. There seem to be a lot of seniors that still have their own homes or apartments but get together for a few days each week. I guess it's the best of both worlds. You have a friend but you still have some time in your own space. I think I would like to try that some time when I find the "right" lady. Nice to hear a happy story regarding senior dating rather than "I'm finished with men" or I am now a nice church lady.My relationship is not new anymore, 2 years and 6 months now. My experience as a senior who is dating someone is not really much different than when I was young. Except the types of activities we do. Probably boring, but I cannot walk very well and it seems to have gotten worse. My boyfriend, Sonny, has many health conditions so he is limited too and he does not put demands on me to do things I just don't feel like doing. I hate being out at night or being in places that are crowded. So he accepts that about me. He is very social and has tons of friends and family.
At first, he wanted me to marry him or live with him (probably still does). I told him never again will I do that. Since he accepted that, he has grown to like it. Having his own place he can do his own thing and it works well for us. We do not see each other daily, a few times a week at the most. But it has kept our relationship passionate and new. We do talk on the phone every day. As soon as he wakes up in the morning, he calls me. We have had a lot of fun and go to activities in the day time but not much since this quarantine.
I am not sure if I answered your question or not. I would recommend senior dating if you are thinking about it.
I very much agree with any of us trying to be ourselves, whenever we can.graham asked what my friends say about me (as in do they tell me what i'm doing wrong). i told him i don't get an explanation as to why they abandon me they just do. most of the time i get criticized for pretty much anything and everything i say and or do so i have basically given up trying. it's a tiresome effort to be what everyone wants you to be instead of being able to be free to be yourself.