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how do you become a lifestyle guru for someone you don't know?
Just take pot luck was my idea. :) !

I remember something quite revealing about myself, when I organised my fiftieth birthday party at my local village hall, which turned into a joint party along with a mates twenty year old daughter, so there was a mixture of age groups etc.

The revealing bit was when I tried to pick out suitable music tracks to use as background sound, or even to dance to, when the "band" wasn't playing, (essentially a local guy who did s bit of professional singing, they paid for luckily). Anyway, I realised after an hour or two going through my records most were not really suitable for a party, and were a bit serious, if not verging on depressing, so I had to substitute a "greatest hits of the 1970s/1980s" album instead. :)
 
Just take pot luck was my idea. :) !

I remember something quite revealing about myself, when I organised my fiftieth birthday party at my local village hall, which turned into a joint party along with a mates twenty year old daughter, so there was a mixture of age groups etc.

The revealing bit was when I tried to pick out suitable music tracks to use as background sound, or even to dance to, when the "band" wasn't playing, (essentially a local guy who did s bit of professional singing, they paid for luckily). Anyway, I realised after an hour or two going through my records most were not really suitable for a party, and were a bit serious, if not verging on depressing, so I had to substitute a "greatest hits of the 1970s/1980s" album instead. :)
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First thing I did after my divorce was to work on self improvement and learning to love my self. My therapist helped me get back my confidence. Slowly, but surely I got back on my feet. Daily positive affirmations worked well for me to regain my self worth. I got back to the positive, bubbly person I was and realized people were drawn to me. I'm always interested to know what makes people behave the way they do. I believe we attract what we seek; but it is important to be the kind of person with qualities of the one we seek. Potential relationships become meaningful when two people feel complete, are happy within, and their coming together amplifies their happiness.
 
There are still some irrepressible people out there, we seem to attract others to them all the time, or others whose charm attracts attention, without them appearing to try, or even when they are showing a reserved side to themselves.
The rest of will have to make do with whoever comes along, or as you suggest resign ourselves to the feeling it isn't going to happen in this lifetime, (do we get another though?). I'm in your boat therefore on this one, but might step out if enticed. :)!
I've read a book where it was mentioned that the goal of dating should be making as many positive dating experiences as much as you can. One shouldn't have pre-conceived fantasies of romance brewing at the start but the goal is to just get to know each other and have fun. If the guy is very much attracted to the woman, he will continue to pursue her incessantly. During the initial stage of dating, the woman has all the power since the man is trying to win her love. If the man knows he has other men to compete with, he makes extra effort to get the woman's attention. At any age, women should never forget they are the prize; it is in men's DNA to pursue, so most often they lose interest when the woman is always available compared to the woman who lives a full life that he/they have to keep up with her.
 
First thing I did after my divorce was to work on self improvement and learning to love my self. My therapist helped me get back my confidence. Slowly, but surely I got back on my feet. Daily positive affirmations worked well for me to regain my self worth. I got back to the positive, bubbly person I was and realized people were drawn to me. I'm always interested to know what makes people behave the way they do. I believe we attract what we seek; but it is important to be the kind of person with qualities of the one we seek. Potential relationships become meaningful when two people feel complete, are happy within, and their coming together amplifies their happiness.
"I'm just busy at the moment, I'm playing the doctor of relationships/psyche's, but you may be required to take over and sort out the doc soon, if I can't help you, as is highly possible"!:)
 
I've read a book where it was mentioned that the goal of dating should be making as many positive dating experiences as much as you can. One shouldn't have pre-conceived fantasies of romance brewing at the start but the goal is to just get to know each other and have fun. If the guy is very much attracted to the woman, he will continue to pursue her incessantly. During the initial stage of dating, the woman has all the power since the man is trying to win her love. If the man knows he has other men to compete with, he makes extra effort to get the woman's attention. At any age, women should never forget they are the prize; it is in men's DNA to pursue, so most often they lose interest when the woman is always available compared to the woman who lives a full life that he/they have to keep up with her.
What's that book again, or rather as you haven't given a title or author, which book is that, and do you feel it adds a lot compared to all the other similar books out there?
(btw, you've summed up the baser instincts of men very well, plus how we might prefer to be teased, possibly all our lives!?:),).
 
For anyone who did not know, or wasn't certain like myself here is a definition of "quid pro quo", (sort of like an "I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine" arrangement :whistle: ).

quid pro quo
/ˌkwɪd prəʊ ˈkwəʊ/

noun

  1. a favour or advantage granted in return for something.
 
What's that book again, or rather as you haven't given a title or author, which book is that, and do you feel it adds a lot compared to all the other similar books out there?
(btw, you've summed up the baser instincts of men very well, plus how we might prefer to be teased, possibly all our lives!?:),).
IIRC, the book is among those written by John Gray,PhD. It's one of the series Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The author surely knows his stuff and backs it with research.
 
I read somewhere by someone much wiser than myself that we have one or two friends the rest are acquaintances. To have a friend you have to be a friend warts n all The person that actually listens to what you have to say and responds honestly is your friend. Once you have that friend your very very lucky
 
I read somewhere by someone much wiser than myself that we have one or two friends the rest are acquaintances. To have a friend you have to be a friend warts n all The person that actually listens to what you have to say and responds honestly is your friend. Once you have that friend your very very lucky
My late father had something of an ego you'd have to say, because he used to say how popular he was!

On the other hand, he said too that "friends dont last forever", so however many we might think we have now a few might disappear for one reason or another, so maybe we'd better keep seeking new ones to replace hem if we can(?). :unsure:
 
Doesn't always make them try any harder to keep you.
IMO, it is not a woman's job to make sure the man stays. Men who will stray will do so no matter what a woman does or does not do. Women who don't rely on men have the power to walk away because they can. Those who stay in loveless, miserable relationships likely do so because they are dependent on the man and they do not have a support network.
 


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