I am being ignored, and you know how much I dislike it, (not just here)

grahamg

grahamg

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I'm going to suggest I'm being ignored, perhaps a bit more than usual, (not really on this forum, where one can easily whip up a storm if the mood takes one!).

My lawyer is ignoring me too much I feel, and of course I'm paying him to give me such treatment, recent excuses being he had to look after his sick daughter, (understandable obviously), then we've had IT troubles on the work place computer system, (again yes, understandable), and if he replies to my emails and messages he often replies late on Friday evening so you can't expect whatever it is to be dealt with until after the weekend, and often it takes another week, and finally because of the pandemic my lawyer is only in his own head office building once a week, (again understandable!), then fails to dig out from the information required from the notes only he seems able to access, when I've done my level best to explain it clearly.

I could go on further, (his secretary is about as inaccessible as you can imagine, and seems to think passing on information to him isn't part of her job description). I'm guessing when difficulties like this surface somewhere there is a lack of goodwill, and it is the case, when we've spoken on the telephone there is a tendency for each of us to speak over the other. Maybe its a macho thing, but in my defence I haven't experienced quite the same thing before with previous lawyers, and my first lawyer remains a social media friend, (as does his former secretary), so it can't be all my fault I claim!

Moving on, I'm not quite getting the attention I deserve in my life beyond legal matters, and if you feel there is a pattern here you could be right, or maybe I need to choose better friends! :)
 

@grahamg, although I don't post much, I haven't noticed anything you're doing here that would result in your being ignored. In fact, I enjoy reading your posts.

That said, it sounds like your lawyer isn't doing his job with respect to you. He's being paid to assist you, and one supposes that he's paying his assistant to tend to things. If they can't do that (and I'd consider dragging things out too long not doing their jobs), I'd suggest looking for another lawyer.
 

Often, when a lawyer ignores you, it has nothing to do with family issues. More likely, he has bigger cases ($$$$) & will devote more time & energy to them. I've been lied to enough times by lawyers to know better than to believe their excuses. When my divorce lawyer didn't get something done, he'd make up stories like, "The judge had a heart attack, so he couldn't hear the case." They'll make sure it's something that sounds bad enough to get your sympathy. I've had a lawyer fail to appear for a scheduled hearing tell me she "Had a heart attack." Sounds much better than, "I had a bigger case to appear at."
 
Devi said:
@grahamg, although I don't post much, I haven't noticed anything you're doing here that would result in your being ignored. In fact, I enjoy reading your posts.
That said, it sounds like your lawyer isn't doing his job with respect to you. He's being paid to assist you, and one supposes that he's paying his assistant to tend to things. If they can't do that (and I'd consider dragging things out too long not doing their jobs), I'd suggest looking for another lawyer.
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I'm on lawyer number four would you believe, two female lawyers from different law firms, (one turned out to be pregnant - nothing to do with me I hasten to add, and in that delicate condition when she took on the job, so couldn't complete the task), another was maybe too nice a woman, she seemed to be doing fine then appeared to lose interest, and the first bloke remains a mate, and I only left his firm after he'd moved on to do purely criminal work, leaving me where I am today.

I wont bore you with too many other details as to what has gone on, and let me say in the one year this current guy has represented me he's not performed badly all the time, just lead to follow some unproductive tactics, (or legal blind alleys if that makes sense, appointing an expert who turned out to be completely useless for example, and couldn't even get the names right on his report, and then seemed to go out of his way to offend me!).

Thanks for all the interest anyway, I cant criticise forum members here can I hey! :unsure:;):)
 
grahamg said:
maybe I need to choose better friends!
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There are many 'friends' out there, these days
(thank you, social media)

There are few true friends
There really never has been a need to have many
(unless votes are involved)


grahamg said:
My lawyer is ignoring me too much I feel, and of course I'm paying him to give me such treatment
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Pay less....or just don't pay
You'll prolly get more attention
 
Do you want to hire a different lawyer? Weigh the consequences between starting over with a new lawyer of remain the status quo? Either way you're paying for their services and have a right to be informed. If perhaps you are over extending yourself by multiple attempts of contacting your lawyer then that's on you. I'm not saying you are but don't be a nuisance give some distance and respect providing your lawyer is worthy of your respect.
 
What you and what the lawyer deem important may differ. Saw this happen to a friend. He kept delaying what he said he would happen. They always deem their invoices important.
 
grahamg said:
I'm going to suggest I'm being ignored, perhaps a bit more than usual, (not really on this forum, where one can easily whip up a storm if the mood takes one!).

My lawyer is ignoring me too much I feel, and of course I'm paying him to give me such treatment, recent excuses being he had to look after his sick daughter, (understandable obviously), then we've had IT troubles on the work place computer system, (again yes, understandable), and if he replies to my emails and messages he often replies late on Friday evening so you can't expect whatever it is to be dealt with until after the weekend, and often it takes another week, and finally because of the pandemic my lawyer is only in his own head office building once a week, (again understandable!), then fails to dig out from the information required from the notes only he seems able to access, when I've done my level best to explain it clearly.

I could go on further, (his secretary is about as inaccessible as you can imagine, and seems to think passing on information to him isn't part of her job description). I'm guessing when difficulties like this surface somewhere there is a lack of goodwill, and it is the case, when we've spoken on the telephone there is a tendency for each of us to speak over the other. Maybe its a macho thing, but in my defence I haven't experienced quite the same thing before with previous lawyers, and my first lawyer remains a social media friend, (as does his former secretary), so it can't be all my fault I claim!

Moving on, I'm not quite getting the attention I deserve in my life beyond legal matters, and if you feel there is a pattern here you could be right, or maybe I need to choose better friends! :)
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I feel the same about certain issues but they all say it's cuz of covid. Everyone has been using covid as an excuse for 13 months to rip me off, give me bad service or no service, ignore me and in general waste my time without accomplishing anything.

It's NOT you.
 
chic said:
I feel the same about certain issues but they all say it's cuz of covid. Everyone has been using covid as an excuse for 13 months to rip me off, give me bad service or no service, ignore me and in general waste my time without accomplishing anything.

It's NOT you.
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It helps not to focus on such issues....life is short...
 
Chris21E said:
It helps not to focus on such issues....life is short.
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I agree šŸ˜Š What's your favorite treat, chocolate ice cream, chocolate candy, rhubarb pie, I know maybe an ice cream Sunday with all of the works piled on? Whatever tickles your tastebuds life is too short to be anything but happy.
 
Gary O' said:
There are many 'friends' out there, these days
(thank you, social media)
There are few true friends
There really never has been a need to have many
(unless votes are involved)
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These days I do value myself as a person, so when I'm ignored, or I believe I'm being treated unfairly I'm prepared to think it says as much about whoever is doing this, as it does about my own worth as a person.
Some of these "so called mates" I keep going on about, have ego's they wish to boost at every opportunity, and it seems to me they wish to assume a dominant position, (much like the pecking order in a pack of wolves, its only okay as long as their interests are respected as preeminent).
Everyone has an ego of course, we wouldn't be human if we didn't perhaps, but some great men and women say they have learned to put their ego's and interests aside, so they can become peacemakers and fonts of knowledge or wisdom.

Btw my paternal grandfather warned my dad to avoid getting tangled up with lawyers, and my dad tried to apply it in his own life, (but failed at least once to his cost).
 
grahamg said:
Some of these "so called mates" I keep going on about, have ego's they wish to boost at every opportunity, and it seems to me they wish to assume a dominant position, (much like the pecking order in a pack of wolves, its only okay as long as their interests are respected as preeminent).
Everyone has an ego of course, we wouldn't be human if we didn't perhaps, but some great men and women say they have learned to put their ego's and interests aside, so they can become peacemakers and fonts of knowledge or wisdom.
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grahammy- You think waaaay past where I wish to go


Set said it right;
SetWave said:
Being ignored? Makes it much easier to travel about in stealth mode
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grahamg said:
My lawyer is ignoring me too much I feel, and of course I'm paying him to give me such treatment, recent excuses being he had to look after his sick daughter, (understandable obviously), then we've had IT troubles on the work place computer system, (again yes, understandable), and if he replies to my emails and messages he often replies late on Friday evening so you can't expect whatever it is to be dealt with until after the weekend, and often it takes another week, and finally because of the pandemic my lawyer is only in his own head office building once a week, (again understandable!), then fails to dig out from the information required from the notes only he seems able to access, when I've done my level best to explain it clearly.
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This is all quite normal, and standard business practice, especially for a lawyer.
 
Pepper said:
What's your lawsuit about, if you don't mind telling that is.
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Bit tricky to really say on a social media forum, especially as its ongoing, but as my dear old mum would have said, (and probably did warn me about, though she could be secretive), the root of the trouble is money, and "much wants more, and more wants most", was definitely her saying! :(
 

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