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CindyLouWho

CindyLouWho

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So running errands today, started walking from the parking lot into a store and I hear a man say " I like your smile", (I had my mask on).

So, my first impression was that he wasn't shy, secondly, he was handsome, appeared to be in his 60's, in shape, in a nice vehicle......
Then we started talking about masks, Covid, etc., then he started talking about how he likes to go to thrift stores and flea markets and asked if I liked to do that......I'm standing there thinking this conversation I'm having with this stranger is very comfortable and effortless......(how funny this is happening since I woke up today feeling pretty down and sick of being alone....)
Then...I asked him what made him roll down his window, in the first place, and say he liked my smile? He says, "your blond hair...I like it". (Ok..well anyway).....
Then this other guy shows up outside his driver side window, beckoning to me to tell the guy to roll down his window.
Obviously they knew each and were talking back and forth for a minute, catching up.....the guy in the car tells his friend he just picked up his new hat and some other (political) items, and he stops to say to me, " I don't know what your affiliation is?".......
Well he starts going on to his friend, (his voice escalating) and the friend engaging in this political conversation.
Then the guy in the car catches himself and says to me, "well that's a conversation for a different time". (I'm thinking, yeah, politics, never, once you get a a roll....that was just a glimpse, courtesy of his friend stopping by)

So, the guy outside the car leaves and we talk a few more minutes and then he says, " I'm not going to rip your clothes off or anything (his humor, I'm guessing) but... (reaches for cloth bag in car) and hands me a business card with pre-written home phone # and a text # (hmm...thinking how often does he pull this maneuver?) Says he used to work at the business on the card and is now a retired Air Force man and says "if you want to send me a text or call me we can meet up and do something some time".

So, I went from thinking this might actual be someone I may want to meet up with and get to know, to no, guess not.

Crap.

Would you contact him further?
 

CindyLouWho said:
So running errands today, started walking from the parking lot into a store and I hear a man say " I like your smile", (I had my mask on).

So, my first impression was that he wasn't shy, secondly, he was handsome, appeared to be in his 60's, in shape, in a nice vehicle......
Then we started talking about masks, Covid, etc., then he started talking about how he likes to go to thrift stores and flea markets and asked if I liked to do that......I'm standing there thinking this conversation I'm having with this stranger is very comfortable and effortless......(how funny this is happening since I woke up today feeling pretty down and sick of being alone....)
Then...I asked him what made him roll down his window, in the first place, and say he liked my smile? He says, "your blond hair...I like it". (Ok..well anyway).....
Then this other guy shows up outside his driver side window, beckoning to me to tell the guy to roll down his window.
Obviously they knew each and were talking back and forth for a minute, catching up.....the guy in the car tells his friend he just picked up his new hat and some other (political) items, and he stops to say to me, " I don't know what your affiliation is?".......
Well he starts going on to his friend, (his voice escalating) and the friend engaging in this political conversation.
Then the guy in the car catches himself and says to me, "well that's a conversation for a different time". (I'm thinking, yeah, politics, never, once you get a a roll....that was just a glimpse, courtesy of his friend stopping by)

So, the guy outside the car leaves and we talk a few more minutes and then he says, " I'm not going to rip your clothes off or anything (his humor, I'm guessing) but... (reaches for cloth bag in car) and hands me a business card with pre-written home phone # and a text # (hmm...thinking how often does he pull this maneuver?) Says he used to work at the business on the card and is now a retired Air Force man and says "if you want to send me a text or call me we can meet up and do something some time".

So, I went from thinking this might actual be someone I may want to meet up with and get to know, to no, guess not.

Crap.

Would you contact him further?
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The part I bolded struck me because predators pick up on vulnerability. The only two times in my life I've been stalked through a mall/store, I felt really bad those days. Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear covers that and so much more so well. Trust your instincts.
 
AnnieA said:
The part I bolded struck me because predators pick up on vulnerability. The only two times in my life I've been stalked through a mall/store, I felt really bad those days. Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear covers that and so much more so well. Trust your instincts.
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Oh yes, AnnieA that is true how they pick up on vulnerabilities.

At the time I had my sunglasses on, my mask and did not say anything to lead him to believe I would call him, other than the few minutes of my time I gave him standing there talking.

I was stalked in the mall in my early 30's and that was a totally different feeling....bad vibes, my instincts kicked in, my heart started racing.
He followed me from one end of the mall to the other.....I darted in a card store and quietly told someone what was happening.... security guy came in and walked me to my car. Thank God for him. I was shaking driving home.
 
Devi said:
The guy sounds scary. He led with a lie (he admired your smile although you were wearing a mask), then came the tip-off scariness of "I'm not going to rip your clothes off or anything". Jeez.
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Yes, he caught me off guard for a minute when he rolled down his window and started talking so easily, then later I thought, (like he's probably done a thousand times before.) 🚩🚩🚩
 
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I went to the grocery today and this guy followed me all over the store. If I went fast, he went fast. if I went slow, he went slow. If I stopped to look at something, he stood a few feet away and pretended to look at something, but he was really looking at me the whole time.
I thought maybe he was a "store cop" but he followed me to the check out and stared at me while I paid for my groceries. Then he paid for his "as I made my get-a-way!) he ran outside to watch me drive away!
This was ODD!
I almost asked him WHAT? but I thought I'd just ignore him!
 
CindyLouWho said:
That's exactly what I was thinking as I was driving home.....well, at least I have some Pinot Noir chilling in my fridge.
It was a fun minute while it lasted.
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Had you been working behind the bar of a rather trendy place that my wife and I enjoyed, pre-lockdown, you might just have been the subject of one of my tongue in cheek taunts. When the young lady said: "Yes Sir," I asked if there was any of the new Pinot wines that were being advertised for the older generation. She admitted that she hadn't heard of any such advert, then asked: Which Pinot wine exactly?"

"The Pinot grape," I explained, has been cultivated to be far less diuretic than most wine producing grapes. "Diuretic?" she said, questioningly. "Diuretic," I went on to tell her, "is any substance that promotes diuresis, the increased production of urine." But the Pinot company had produced a new grape after years of research, that was a blessing for older people who enjoyed their wine but would often abstain because it caused many a bathroom visit. They have named it: "Pinot More."
 


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