Actually I thought of that and when my granddaughter was once again going on and on about her mentally ill 10 year old and how they were at their wits end blah blah blah both my daughter and I offered to take her for the summer. My husband WOULD NEVER pull this crap with another person around, even a kid. And he is a really good person to non adults.Can any family members come for a brief visit, and help you with things like packing for your move?
Seems like a good time to have someone else around.
So I pushed to have her here. It would meet her need/want for independence, lots of stores in walking distance for her, close to her parents if she got home sick, it would have worked great for us all. But my son, her grandfather, didn’t like the ideal and shut it down. She was sent to a different grandma. The one who doesn’t feed her, but let’s her run wild. On their farm.
Once the apartment is set up, and it’s much cooler, and I understand how to put gas in a car which seems hard for me, I will go visit my mother as I should for a while and he won’t want to go. Then drive down the California coast hwy, taking my time. I’ve no where to be and nothing I need to do. Then over Vegas and decide to either to through Arizona or New Mexico to reach El Paso Tx where I can stay as long as I want.
My daughter is in Texas along with half a million cousins I have not seen since I was a child. That give him a long period without me, minimum. 3 months a least. We have never been apart, except hospital stays, for 50 years. This will be a good thing. My daughter says I could live in Texas on 800 a month and I can check it out. At some point my two boys need to learn mom won’t always be around and this will be a starting point for them.
As I said, I have a plan. Been thinking about this since I started sharing some of his behaviors as I didn’t know if it was me or him. But, it’s more him than me for sure. And I care a lot for him, whereas, he doesn’t for me as I have learned.
But I am no angel. I am writing this one sided which is unfair to him, but I am no danger to him. if I hit anyone I would break me. I am still in shock at what he said, and very sad, very very sad. And I need to buy me a car and a dog and I’ll be set once I learn the gas thing. I don’t know why that’s so hard, but it is.