Trying again... I hate to think that I went down without a fight...

CAKCy said:
I can't understand why someone would have @Gary O' or you on ignore.

Nobody ... and I mean no living being deserves to be ignored. Period.
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wrong !... you don't know the circumstances of why certain people are put on ignore.. , there's quite a few people on here who cause unnecessary angst to others, and for their own benefit people can choose to ignore those who cause them upset..

This isn't a bar where you can walk out if someone is annoying you..the door to the bar is the ignore button on this forum ...

@Gary O' is a good guy btw.. actually one of the best around...not the oldest here by a long chalk, but he's like an elder statesman in some ways..
 

CAKCy said:
Not all Greeks are the same. I used to be a step father of the children of my first wife. After we divorced I paid child support (though I didn't have to) for a number of years (their bio father didn't). We still keep in touch especially with the oldest one (who hated me the most back then).

Some people manage to leave the past, in the past. Some people carry it with them for the rest of their lives. I'm in the second group.

I should do many things, that I don't. I tried getting therapy. It caused more problems than it solved. I gave it up and tried to cope with it on my own. Not very successfully... but then again... who really cares?
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The only one who really cares about you, is you. Another hard lesson that I have learned. You are wallowing, IMO, in your self pity. We all do that at times, and nothing wrong with doing that either except when it goes on and on.

I, we, don’t know you, therefore, we can’t help with anything but your loneliness. Even if we lived with you we could not force you to engage in therapy. Lesson learned from husband. Or to be honest in therapy, lesson learned from husband. As you said, you enjoyed the welcome, but back to your usual ways of thinking and acting.

No one can help you, but you. The old saying that “you can lead a horse to water but can’t make him drink” -is still as true today as it was in the past.
 
CAKCy said:
I can't understand why someone would have @Gary O' or you on ignore.

Nobody ... and I mean no living being deserves to be ignored. Period.
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I have someone on ignore as well. Ignore simply means that you no longer wish to talk to someone which is fine. What puzzles me is when someone announces, to the group, that they are putting you on ignore. I’ve always found that odd. Why bother?
 
Aneeda72 said:
I have someone on ignore as well. Ignore simply means that you no longer wish to talk to someone which is fine. What puzzles me is when someone announces, to the group, that they are putting you on ignore. I’ve always found that odd. Why bother?
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It shouldn't puzzle you. It's revenge. They believe that by announcing it, they will hurt your feelings (which is their intention, really).
 
Aneeda72 said:
The only one who really cares about you, is you. Another hard lesson that I have learned. You are wallowing, IMO, in your self pity. We all do that at times, and nothing wrong with doing that either except when it goes on and on.

I, we, don’t know you, therefore, we can’t help with anything but your loneliness. Even if we lived with you we could not force you to engage in therapy. Lesson learned from husband. Or to be honest in therapy, lesson learned from husband. As you said, you enjoyed the welcome, but back to your usual ways of thinking and acting.

No one can help you, but you. The old saying that “you can lead a horse to water but can’t make him drink” -is still as true today as it was in the past.
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Agreed with everything except the "self pity" part.
There are hard facts and reality.
But then again... it's a matter of opinion.

I did enjoy the welcome.
It gave me happy moments.
I didn't (and shouldn't) expect it to change my life or my way of thinking. Don't you think?
 
CAKCy said:
Now... where did I put my sonnets....?

Yes, I did. To the point that I was considering quitting the forum and registering again to live the experience of a second "welcome party"! :)

But... the party is over... I still have a hangover... everybody walks their own way and life (miserable or not) continues just the way it did the day before....
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Come back as a girl and see if we recognize you :ROFLMAO:
 
CAKCy said:
It shouldn't puzzle you. It's revenge. They believe that by announcing it, they will hurt your feelings (which is their intention, really).
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I disagree. I don’t think they want to hurt feelings, especially the older adults. I am an older adult, 74 soon to be 75. My feeling are hard to hurt. I took it as meaning I should not respond to anything they write as they no longer wish to talk to me or have me talk to them.

Since I like this person a great deal, I do not have them on ignore and I still read what they write, but I try to remember not to respond and respect their wish to no longer talk to me. As to the person I have on ignore, I want no interaction with them at all.

You will find that the forum is as complicated as real life and thus a great substitute for the inability to have in person relationships due to Covid-19 and the Delta variant. We are back to wearing masks inside, such a pain.
 
CAKCy said:
Agreed with everything except the "self pity" part.
There are hard facts and reality.
But then again... it's a matter of opinion.

I did enjoy the welcome.
It gave me happy moments.
I didn't (and shouldn't) expect it to change my life or my way of thinking. Don't you think?
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Only YOU can change your life. If you are not taking steps to do so, then there is some “pay” off to remaining where you are. I am trying very hard to change the situation I am stuck in and have tried for years and will continue to try.
 
Aneeda72 said:
I disagree. I don’t think they want to hurt feelings, especially the older adults. I am an older adult, 74 soon to be 75. My feeling are hard to hurt. I took it as meaning I should not respond to anything they write as they no longer wish to talk to me or have me talk to them.

Since I like this person a great deal, I do not have them on ignore and I still read what they write, but I try to remember not to respond and respect their wish to no longer talk to me. As to the person I have on ignore, I want no interaction with them at all.

You will find that the forum is as complicated as real life and thus a great substitute for the inability to have in person relationships due to Covid-19 and the Delta variant. We are back to wearing masks inside, such a pain.
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Ooooo... we reached the intrigue part....

I'm a depressed, lonely (in my mind... according to some) individual. Living alone in an apartment with nobody visiting... ever.

I DON'T HAVE TO WEAR MASK EVEN IF IT GETS TO THE OMEGA VARIANT! HA!
 
hollydolly said:
wrong !... you don't know the circumstances of why certain people are put on ignore.. , there's quite a few people on here who cause unnecessary angst to others, and for their own benefit people can choose to ignore those who cause them upset..

This isn't a bar where you can walk out if someone is annoying you..the door to the bar is the ignore button on this forum ...

@Gary O' is a good guy btw.. actually one of the best around...not the oldest here by a long chalk, but he's like an elder statesman in some ways..
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Oh... here's the previous "wrong" of mine.
In that case I expect to be put on ignore by many....
...unless @Gary O' kills me before that...
 
CAKCy said:
Ooooo... we reached the intrigue part....

I'm a depressed, lonely (in my mind... according to some) individual. Living alone in an apartment with nobody visiting... ever.

I DON'T HAVE TO WEAR MASK EVEN IF IT GETS TO THE OMEGA VARIANT! HA!
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What you are saying is you do not have to go outside, and you don’t which is fine. But someday you might find that you can’t go outside and that will be a real bummer.
 
CAKCy said:
And yet I did! Reality shot it down....
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Oh, please. People go through dozens if not hundreds of other people before finding a soul mate or just another person they can stand being around 24/7. There are LOTS of people everywhere and on here who live alone and are lonely.

@Pepper has really been kind enough to share her experiences with you. You are not the only one who endures the pain of being alone. See beyond yourself. It’s the mental illness that is destroying you, IMO.
 
Aneeda72 said:
Oh, please. People go through dozens if not hundreds of other people before finding a soul mate or just another person they can stand being around 24/7. There are LOTS of people everywhere and on here who live alone and are lonely.

@Pepper has really been kind enough to share her experiences with you. You are not the only one who endures the pain of being alone. See beyond yourself. It’s the mental illness that is destroying you, IMO.
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I guess I should stop answering questions???
Or start answering them the way people want me to???

I have expressed my opinion of @Pepper in another post, replying to them.

Have I claimed that I'm the only one who endures the pain of being alone???
Do you really think that I only see and care for myself???

So many questions...
 
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