Trying again... I hate to think that I went down without a fight...

I've been told that in the real world - actual people, face to face, casual/light conversation, neutral setting - appearing needy, desperate, too anxious to be close is a recipe for disaster. Over-sharing too quickly is a turnoff to most people in the that world. Not saying you do but just a thought.

And you do have a gift for word. Have you looked for an on-line writer's group where you feel comfortable. You'll obviously do fine here but maybe broaden your horizons to include specific interests. JMHO
 

helenbacque said:
I've been told that in the real world - actual people, face to face, casual/light conversation, neutral setting - appearing needy, desperate, too anxious to be close is a recipe for disaster. Over-sharing too quickly is a turnoff to most people in the that world. Not saying you do but just a thought.

And you do have a gift for word. Have you looked for an on-line writer's group where you feel comfortable. You'll obviously do fine here but maybe broaden your horizons to include specific interests. JMHO
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Thank you for your insight!

Let disaster be my destiny. If I acted any differently it wouldn't be the ... loser me. :)

Despite your kind words of encouragement, I wouldn't dare join a writer's group. I know who I am and I don't allow myself to overshoot. (Unless your.... conspiracy plan is to get rid of me by sending me somewhere else... :p)
 
CAKCy said:
I guess I should stop answering questions???
Or start answering them the way people want me to???

I have expressed my opinion of @Pepper in another post, replying to them.

Have I claimed that I'm the only one who endures the pain of being alone???
Do you really think that I only see and care for myself???

So many questions...
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😂 I have said several times you do not have to answer any of my questions. I don’t care if you answer questions or do not answer questions. Asking questions is a way to get to know people. I don’t know what you claim or do not claim. Do I think you only see and care for yourself?

How would I know? Except you have said you stay inside and see no one.
 

CAKCy said:
Thank you for your insight!

Let disaster be my destiny. If I acted any differently it wouldn't be the ... loser me. :)

Despite your kind words of encouragement, I wouldn't dare join a writer's group. I know who I am and I don't allow myself to overshoot. (Unless your.... conspiracy plan is to get rid of me by sending me somewhere else... :p)
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Hmm-loser me=self pity IMO.
 
Aneeda72 said:
😂 I have said several times you do not have to answer any of my questions. I don’t care if you answer questions or do not answer questions. Asking questions is a way to get to know people. I don’t know what you claim or do not claim. Do I think you only see and care for yourself?

How would I know? Except you have said you stay inside and see no one.
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You did. If you don't care about the answer then why ask? Apparently not to get to know me...

Aneeda72 said:
You are not the only one who endures the pain of being alone.
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Aneeda72 said:
See beyond yourself.
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...and apparently you know a lot more about me than I do!

Staying inside and not seeing anyone doesn't equal caring for no one.

And adding "IMO" at the end of every claim or distortion of reality of yours doesn't make you a saint! ;)
 
CAKCy said:
You did. If you don't care about the answer then why ask? Apparently not to get to know me...




...and apparently you know a lot more about me than I do!

Staying inside and not seeing anyone doesn't equal caring for no one.

And adding "IMO" at the end of every claim or distortion of reality of yours doesn't make you a saint! ;)
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I never said I was a saint and perhaps you should read the posts of others, just a suggestion and I have said repeatedly, I don’t know you. And I never said you didn’t care for anyone.
 
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Aneeda72 said:
I never said I was a saint and perhaps you should read the posts of others, just a suggestion amd I have said repeatedly, I don’t know you
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I told you: Apparently you know a lot more about me than I do. Because I thought I was reading posts of others, but I'm glad you suggested it....

Of course you don't know me and you never will since

Aneeda72 said:
I have said several times you do not have to answer any of my questions. I don’t care if you answer questions or do not answer questions.
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Sometimes what we call self-pity is actually self-care. When there is no one else to love you and a 'poor you', and a "I'm so sorry for you" coming from someone else is Not There, give it to yourself. Even if this love & compassion is directed towards oneself, so what? Self-comfort is better than self-blame and the first step to self-love..............can't give out love if one doesn't start with oneself.
 
Pepper said:
Sometimes what we call self-pity is actually self-care. When there is no one else to love you and a 'poor you', and a "I'm so sorry for you" coming from someone else is Not There, give it to yourself. Even if this love & compassion is directed towards oneself, so what? Self-comfort is better than self-blame and the first step to self-love..............can't give out love if one doesn't start with oneself.
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My respect!
And my acknowledgement that people can be so different from each other.....
 
Pepper said:
Sometimes what we call self-pity is actually self-care. When there is no one else to love you and a 'poor you', and a "I'm so sorry for you" coming from someone else is Not There, give it to yourself. Even if this love & compassion is directed towards oneself, so what? Self-comfort is better than self-blame and the first step to self-love..............can't give out love if one doesn't start with oneself.
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Absolutely!
 
CAKCy said:
OK... As you wish!
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I'm just here to control the bleeding and manage the airway.......and CPR if it comes to that.
The medic doesn't typically actively fight on the front lines. We operate best from the rear as adjunct personnel.
And so far, I don't see any major bleeding so I'm just going to relax and watch the action unfold from my easy chair...... but give a shout if you get hit and I'll swoop in to dress your wounds.
Be careful out there.........booby traps are everywhere.
 
Jeff_RN/Paramedic said:
I'm just here to control the bleeding and manage the airway.......and CPR if it comes to that.
The medic doesn't typically actively fight on the front lines. We operate best from the rear as adjunct personnel.
And so far, I don't see any major bleeding so I'm just going to relax and watch the action unfold from my easy chair...... but give a shout if you get hit and I'll swoop in to dress your wounds.
Be careful out there.........booby traps are everywhere.
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May I say.... I love you, man?
 
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