Wedding Planner Say's "Sorry, Can't Do It"

[ClassicRockr]

Well, I don't go along with the replies that say the WP has to serve everyone. It's HER business, she can refuse anyone. I've seen signs on business windows saying "we have the right to refuse service to .........." (whatever). Where we got a loan from, there is a sign on the front door that reads, "No firearms allowed" which would mean a concealed weapon.

However, it is true that if the WP would've just said the dates the couple wanted were not available, things wouldn't have gone south. But, some people want to be honest and tell the whole reason "why"

 

[Cookie]

On a reverse note, I think it might be a good thing the gay couple found out the planner didn't approve of their lifestyle, because then they probably wouldn't have wanted her to plan the wedding anyway - that wouldn't have been a very good outcome since she might have done a bad job of it.

 

[Josiah]

Do you live in one of the states that bans gay marriage or not, Josiah?
just interested....

Yes, sadly I do, but I have no doubt that the law will be changed.

 

[Butterfly]

Here is my state, in 2013 the state Supreme Court ruled that a for profit wedding photographer cannot refuse service to a gay couple if the business offers services to the general public.

I believe the court ruled correctly. To allow such discrimination would be on the proverbial "slippery slope" and cause all kinds of discrimination to be allowed on the basis of personal beliefs or prejudices.

 

[oakapple]

This is strange isn't it, as over here, a shop manager/owner can refuse to serve you or the owner of a pub can also refuse to serve you [though of course not because you are gay!]

 

[Vivjen]

I think that is a different law; being on private property....

 

[ClassicRockr]

Well, look at the word "discrimination" this way........many people of the younger generation think that 55 Plus Communities are "discrimination", b/c only people 55 Plus can live in them.

IMO, people use that word "discrimination" wayyyyyyyyy too much and use it to get what they want or try to get what they want. Saying the word "discrimination" can get people's attention very fast. Just use the word "discrimination" and the media shows up immediately!

 

[LadyElaine]

If I was gay, I wouldn't want a wedding planner to plan my wedding if they thought it was wrong. I wouldn't want to give them my money or business.

 

[hollydolly]

I agree Lady Elaine , and that goes for anyone who has a problem with you.. really..whether it's discriminatory for any reason...or just that they are rude or treat you with disdain..you wouldn't dream of lining their pockets would you?

 

[Josiah]

I will say this up front so that those of you who wish, can discount my comment. My eldest son is gay. The comment I wish to make pertains to why gay couples might wish to hire a wedding planner. The male gay subculture is extraordinarily into ceremonies and holidays. If you've ever attended a gay halloween party, and I have, every other halloween party pales in comparison. These are extremely imaginative and creative people and our culture is so much richer because of their presence. So when gays get married they're apt to be a little ostentatious (by my standards) but they want a well planned wedding. They've fought a long ugly battle to earn the right to marry and so they're very much inclined to have a truly memorable ceremony.

 

[SeaBreeze]

The comment I wish to make pertains to why gay couples might wish to hire a wedding planner. The male gay subculture is extraordinarily into ceremonies and holidays. If you've ever attended a gay halloween party, and I have, every other halloween party pales in comparison. These are extremely imaginative and creative people and our culture is so much richer because of their presence. So when gays get married they're apt to be a little ostentatious (by my standards) but they want a well planned wedding. They've fought a long ugly battle to earn the right to marry and so they're very much inclined to have a truly memorable ceremony.

Well said, and if they desire to use a wedding planner they should be able to use one in their local vicinity like all other couples, without discrimination. :applause2:

 

[Butterfly]

Exactly. That's the way the law reads. A business in America, if it is a business offering services to the general public, by law cannot decide based on race, creed, color, national origin or sexual orientation whom it will or will not serve,. Otherwise we are back to who can or can't sit at a lunch counter.