Are you always wrong?

Sassycakes

Sassycakes

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My daughter just called and said she saw on her phone tracker device that my husband was in our old neighborhood. I said he wanted to have breakfast with his friends from where we lived until 2 yrs ago. I said I had told him to go for lunch because 9 am was too early and traffic was heavy at 9. Of course, he wouldn't listen. So she was really angry and said I make him do too much. My husband and I have been married for over 50 yrs and he has always been this way. She said I should have called her and told her so she could have convinced him to stay home. I wanted to laugh because I know my husband and he wouldn't listen to even her. So here we go again I am always wrong. I know she worries about us, but obviously, she doesn't know her father very well. So I will just accept that I am always wrong.
 

Okay, maybe I'm missing a lot of history from previous posts, but why would your daughter have your husband's phone on her tracker? Why would she care if he went back to your old neighborhood to see some friends? Why is that making him do too much? Why would she want him to stay home? I'm not understanding this at all.
 

Sassycakes said:
My daughter just called and said she saw on her phone tracker device that my husband was in our old neighborhood. I said he wanted to have breakfast with his friends from where we lived until 2 yrs ago. I said I had told him to go for lunch because 9 am was too early and traffic was heavy at 9. Of course, he wouldn't listen. So she was really angry and said I make him do too much. My husband and I have been married for over 50 yrs and he has always been this way. She said I should have called her and told her so she could have convinced him to stay home. I wanted to laugh because I know my husband and he wouldn't listen to even her. So here we go again I am always wrong. I know she worries about us, but obviously, she doesn't know her father very well. So I will just accept that I am always wrong.
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šŸ˜® I think we could do without some technology. My family is too busy with their own lives to pay attention to mine and I think I like it that way.
 
caroln said:
Okay, maybe I'm missing a lot of history from previous posts, but why would your daughter have your husband's phone on her tracker? Why would she care if he went back to your old neighborhood to see some friends? Why is that making him do too much? Why would she want him to stay home? I'm not understanding this at all.
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I think the daughter needs to get a life, and mom & dad to get a backbone.
 
caroln said:
Okay, maybe I'm missing a lot of history from previous posts, but why would your daughter have your husband's phone on her tracker? Why would she care if he went back to your old neighborhood to see some friends? Why is that making him do too much? Why would she want him to stay home? I'm not understanding this at all.
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She has his car on tracker so she can always tell why he is out. She worries too much about us and monitors where he goes.She also has a tracker on her car so we can see where she is so if we need something she can get it for us. My Husband has bad knee problems and she doesn't want to see him walking around a store. I'm lucky she doesn't have a device that can see what we are doing at home. My sisters' kids have that for her. I don't know what that's called but they can see her in every room of her house. They worry because she lives all alone.
 
Wow. The tracker thing. I thought only the police did that.

I don't even have a cellphone, I never really liked the idea of "staying connected." I'm usually a happy homemaker, but occasionally I like to leave everything and everyone behind and go off on my own for awhile. I really don't need my whole family to be able to reach me every second of every day, if they have an emergency 911 will be able to help them much more than I could.

Like your husband, I have very bad knees, but I do my own grocery shopping, vacuuming and walk around the house all day. My doctor told me that people with bad breaks and injuries like I had tend to lose heart health because they don't move around enough. Tell your daughter that your husband is right to suck up the pain and get out and about a little bit every day. You are right, she is wrong.

It's always been a pet peeve of mine when people get after me for not "making" my husband do something. We are not in a parent/child relationship, we are two independent adults and we never tell each other what to do.
 
It shows up on the phone if you are being tracked & you can untrack. I found my son was tracking my phone; he was worried I'd drop dead while babysitting. I untracked, but will probably let him track me again as the reason is good.
 
Tracking ... just because it can be done ...should it.....

i understand some family worried about others who may have health condition or worried about them driving etc but myself would be very unhappy if i ever found my kids doing that.

I agree there is settings on phone to not show location etc. and unless i agreed to it i do not have location on my phone.
I once had a dead battery called son he said ... "Mom go in and share your location so i can get over there faster " as i was at a job site he had never been to.
 
Yeah, @Jeni, that was my immediate reaction, which is why I had myself untracked. When I told him, he reacted by saying "I'm so proud of you! Didn't know you could figure it out!" I of course didn't like that he didn't ask me first.

Kids. When did they become the parents?
 
Jules said:
@Sassycakes, when your DD starts critiquing what you didnā€™t make your DH do, tell her to tell him. Do you even tell him that DD is upset.
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My husband talked to her and told her that I had asked him to stay home but he said he didn't want to and that he wanted to see his old friends. He also told Her not to ever talk to me that way again.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I think the daughter needs to get a life, and mom & dad to get a backbone.
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I think there is some truth to what you are saying. Sometimes parents, grandparents and just about anyone will let family members walk all over them. It is partly because these people have not learned to respect the other's wishes. Somewhere along the way, the person's relatives or friends did not make boundaries plain enough and the offender perhaps did not listen or respect the person they are stepping upon. It is hard to step back from those we care about.
 
Sassycakes said:
My daughter just called and said she saw on her phone tracker device that my husband was in our old neighborhood. I said he wanted to have breakfast with his friends from where we lived until 2 yrs ago. I said I had told him to go for lunch because 9 am was too early and traffic was heavy at 9. Of course, he wouldn't listen. So she was really angry and said I make him do too much. My husband and I have been married for over 50 yrs and he has always been this way. She said I should have called her and told her so she could have convinced him to stay home. I wanted to laugh because I know my husband and he wouldn't listen to even her. So here we go again I am always wrong. I know she worries about us, but obviously, she doesn't know her father very well. So I will just accept that I am always wrong.
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Nothing wrong with a tracker app, to provide information and security...my daughter asked me to track her when she first moved to St. Thomas,USVI.
@Sassycakes , However, In your case it sounds like daughter is trying to run you and your husband's life... :unsure:

I'm not sure why you characterize yourself as "always wrong". ?
 

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